Anyone else's partner quite negative about having BA? Started by: Laura-Jane

@laura-Jane my partner was similar at first he didn’t want me to get it done then eventually came round to the idea and gave me 500 pound towards it he’s been ok up until saterdsy when he made a sly remark think my bf the inseacure one not me there probly just thinking we’re gonna have all these men staring at us maybe they feel threatend by it your bf might come round to the idea he liked to begin with so what’s changed ?think he’s thinking the worse and trying to put you off by using words about you to turn it into a negative thing or maybe he is looking out for you and if your happy with your body why change it but atvtge same time if you want a certain look you should go for it I’m sure your bf has a certain way he likes to look same goes for us girls I say !!

@laura-Jane absolutely he will come round wouldn’t worry to much hope your op goes ok what you having if u don’t mind me asking x

In my opinion, it may be that HE is the insecure one and is worried about you being more confident and getting more attention. He probably has worries and anxieties the same as you because he cares- but don’t let it turn something positive into something negative. Just reassure him that it doesn’t mean you will be looking at anyone else! X

@saraht1988

“In my opinion, it may be that HE is the insecure one and is worried about you being more confident and getting more attention. He probably has worries and anxieties the same as you because he cares- but don’t let it turn something positive into something negative. Just reassure him that it doesn’t mean you will be looking at anyone else! X” couldn’t have said it better myself!!!!!!

my motto in life is always to do what makes you happy and fuck anybody else x

@lauren hey Lauren I’m having 250cc hp overs with ms lutz on 22 August …lol your ops not far off I bet your well excited now are u nervous ? Hope it goes well and hope your bf comes round to the idea x

My hubby was really against it. I mean REALLY against he. He said we’d end up splitting up although I know my hubby is really insecure sometimes. I’ve also breastfed 2 children and have tits like spaniels ears and he’s finally agreed and he’s 110% on board. I think sometimes they worry if it will change the relationship. It’s a really big change xx

Yes, when I first wanted it doing he was point blank refusing to be on board. Now, after breastfeeding, he’s a lot more happier with the idea. I agree with above, it’s his insecurities! X

Actually really comforting reading this as my boyfriend of 3 years was 100% behind me and wanted me to do it for myself even though he didn’t think i needed it, i think that its just a man thing and threatens them a bit. Now he’s really happy for me and thinks they look brilliant, although still worries!!!

@demi ????????????????couldn’t of said that better myself my when I told my bf he said well il go get a cock exstension then I said good go on then ????????????he soon shut up at the end of the day bf cone and go boobs are forever x

Hey Laura Jane,
This must be so tough. It’s such a big decision to make and to have to go through it without your partners full support must be really difficult. My advice would be (and I’m no expert) if you really want this then maybe it’s worth putting it off a little while longer whilst you figure out your differences. From the posts I’ve read on here it’s an absolute roller coaster of emotions getting them done, and that is going to be so much more difficult to deal with if you don’t have his full support. Obviously I don’t know anything other than what you’ve put on here but just trying to be really logical about the situation. I’m sure after lots of talking you’ll get him on board.
Good Luck
Kelly x