How to tell your parents you are having cosmetic surgery Started by: Lauren
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Lauren
0pHi ya,
I have my first consultation with MYA in about a week.
I am a 34A and want to be able to fit a bra,
I have wanted to have to have my breasts enlarged since they never grew in at 17! I am now 29 and that feeling hasn’t ever gone away..
I had a consultation 2 years ago with a different company but never went through with it due to a number of reasons one of which was my parents, they hate the idea and have a number of objections.
Has anyone had to deal with closed off parents?
I am 100% certain iam going for the procedure and am so tempted to do it and not tell them but as I have moved back in with them recently I don’t think I can get away with it!
Can anyone help? Has anyone had the same issue?Anonymous
-1pI thought my parents would react how yours unfortunately have but actually they’ve been great.
I think all you can do is to remind your parents that you’re an adult and it’s your choice. You could try your best to address their objections, but at the end of the day it’s your decision. Hope it goes well xI was the same as Jo. Mine have been very supportive.
I think since realising I was serious and it’s not just a phase and I’m not doing it for someone else, they’ve just been supportive because at the end of the day they’ll support me in anything I do…. even when I’m wrong… as my dad said, lol!
I guess just have a serious conversation and be open and not defensive and maybe they’ll surprise you? XxI live at home still as i’ve only just turned 22. Only my mom knows and thats because my partner made me tell her. My dad has no idea, and i have no plans on telling him. Its your choice to tell who you want Xx
I did a lot of research and brought it up when i was having a drink to my Mum, explaining how it’s something i feel very strongly about regarding my happiness and self love. Her main concerned were more about making sure I went with someone who is highly qualified, and making sure i was doing it for the right reasons. I didn’t tell my dad for awhile, but having just moved back home (for a short period of time as ive just finished uni) i cant hide the fact i’m having surgery especially in the weeks recovering. My mum actually mentioned it to my dad that I was looking into it at first, then after id been for my consultation told him, then all 3 of us discussed it and they were both fine. I didn’t go into a lot of detail with my dad about like my actual boobs and stuff just more like it being something ive wanted for a long time and researched well and saved up for etc and its for solely my own benefits. I’m only 22, I know theyre you parents but at 29 you have more than every right to make your own life decisions, and if they can’t support you through it then i feel you should still go ahead with it! It’s something you are doing for you and that is the most important thing, hope it goes well X
Hi Lauren,
I was really worried about telling my mum as well as we’ve never really talked about stuff that personal and she’d made comments before about them but I was surprised she was actually fine when I told her!
My ops in 3 weeks and she’s the last person I’ve told, I was a bit awkward and started by asking her what she’d think and then easing her in to saying it was booked haha!
She was actually completely okay with it, she asked about cost / finding the right surgeon etc but could see id done my planning and research, and I’m 26 now so past hoping they’d suddenly grow! I explained to her I’d been planning it since I was 16 and she was fine.
I would go for it, I’m sure once they see you’ve really planned it they’ll be supportive, even if it’s a bit of a shock at first! Xx
I feel your pain! I’m 28 and did not think my parents would be on board at all (im Chinese so also a cultural aspect I think).
I ended up telling my mum who initially was against but after a chat about it, is OK for me to do it but concerned about the risks. I’ve not mentioned it at all to my dad. My mum has told him and said he’s not supportive but that’s in line with my expectations.You are 29 and you can make decisions about your body. It’s been a few years since you last spoke about the topic with them – so maybe this time they may be more accepting? Ask what their objections and concerns are and address them… they should be able to see you are being mature and serious about this and it’s not a phase. Perhaps speak to your mum separately.. she is more likely to understand / convince
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