i dont want my fianc Started by: amyheather

I think this is something to prove whether your partner is going to be controlling or supportive of your decisions, you are only engaged and trust me, if he is not going to “let” you do this for your own happyness and insecurities then it will just get worse.
you need to tell him you ARE going to make yourself happy and it is upto him whether he wants to support your decisions but you are going to go through with it. I cannot believe how selfish some men can be, he is clearly thinking of himself and he is afraid of losing you to someone else, it seems to me like he knows this is your main insecurity and he wants to control it. you need to put your foot down and make it clear than this is your decision and he not there to control your decisions but to be by your side, especially if you are getting married!

Can i just say Amy Heather, Good luck hun, i’ve also had trouble convincing my hubbie, a few weeks ago i was really down about my boobs and he said i could when we have got a bit more money (after Christmas Girls get spoilt rotten!!! lol) We have 2 little girls and my youngest is 1 in January so will prob have it done early next year before she gets too confident with walking etc but after she is walking so will cut out a lot of my lifting!
I Am planning to take hubbie with me to a consultation but due to my hubbies work we’re hopefully going in December, Hopefully we can take it from there, but i really dont think ur Fiancee shouldn’t throw your boobs back at u like that, my hubbie has never said anything about my boobs in arguements or not, he did say once you wont want me if u get boobs you’ll run off with a rich man… but i have reassured him that i’m with him cus i love him not cus he aint a millionaire lol Men are just as insecure as us women but show it in different ways! do u think he worries that u wont want him if u get them done? thats why he acting that way?
If he is still un supportive, Book your op and say your either with me or not on this i think u have to put ur foot down hun. but good luck either way as it is very easy for us to tell u what to do but were not you hun do what u think is best! x

we are the same. i have always been totally flat. been stuffing things inside a bra so no one knows i’m totally flat not even my parents. i’m having mine on the 14th of october, i just hope i get through with no one knowing.

Hi Ladies,

I feel lucky to have a husband like I got. He says as long as I am happy, he is happy. He likes my body the way it is, but has never been against me doing anything I feel I need too. I had a tummy tuck two weeks ago today and he was 100% supportive. Now I want to have a BA. I have always had small breasts and I hate them,, he likes them, but as I say. He supports me!

Good luck with your consultation Sarah. I’m going to see the nurse at Bristol on Thurs to have my stitches out! Dr Chantasarak and his team were great. Removed my stretch marks! My new belly button looks so much better than the one I did have. Lol. Hope all goes well for you. Well done you for sticking to your guns

Claire xx

good for you
remember though, when he is in a good mood he will feed you a load of “please stay like that for me” etc, don’t listen to any of that, he will try to manipulate you into not doing it. Just stick to your decision, put in a deposit as soon as you can so its clear you are going through with it, you would need to have your consultation before your 1month off as it usually takes a few weeks to get a surgery date.. im sure he is going to try and pursuade you otherwise men are very manipulative

Hi,

He would probably prefer you to be honest with him! Secrets are never good within a relationship. He may surprise me, and he may just be more supportive than you think. At the end of the day. I know what I said, but yes it is still your body and ultimately it’s up to you on whether you think it’s what you want. Sounds like it is something that would benefit you and bring your self esteem level and confidence. Talk to him, it’s the way forward. Good luck

Claire xx

also, amy u have to have someone with you for the first 24hours after ur op, otherwise MYA are allowed to refuse to operate on you
sarah xx

of course you should!! and he should support you in your decisions!!

good luck!! just get it over with and then you can be well on your way too fab new boobies!

hi amy!!!

im stunned at your comments….if you explain your insecurities surely he will understand!
i think its crazy to go at this alone, yes its not a major operation but you need the support of close ones as you will not be fully mobile which alot of people on hear say ends up in the boob blues for a few days!! i would definatly try to discuss with your fiancee! my bf was a bit unsure to start with as issues about friends and what would they say and attracting unwanted attention but after explaining and answering his questions he is now as excited as i am and v.supportive!! let me know how you get on x

hey amy,
i think he will notice youve had it done, because you will be really sore! you wont even be able to wash your own hair for a few days! plus your boobs are so hard and pointy after ur op and it takes weeks-months for your boobs to drop and fluff. you also need to take a week off work and someone has to be with you 24hours after your operation. i think this will be really difficult to hide from him to be honest. if he loves (which he clearly does) then he’ll respect ur choice in getting it done.
sarah xx