boyfriends insecure? not much enthusiasm =( Started by: claire
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hey girlys im 10 days post op atm, before i had my ba and lift i was really insecure about my boobs after having my daughter they were horrible , my boyfriend didnt want me to have a boobjob but he wanted me to be happy so agreed and even give me help towards deposit and became my guarentour for finance in his name. i was so excited all i wanted to do was talk about it with him all the time and research, i done his head in and shouted at me that hed had enough of hearing about it in the end so i stoped talking about it which toke away some of the excitment. he was really supportive when i had surgery and was there for me. i thought hed be as happy as i was when there done, but he doesnt seem interested i keep looking at them to check they havent leaked and hes like..do u have to take your sports bra off all the time…? ive asked him what he thinks and hes like..there nice. n thats all i get no excitment nothing! ino hes gone insecure now because before i had them done he said if u get them out in town like your friends do then ill finish with u cause i cant cope with that! (bareing in mine we have a duaghter) and im not a slut! hes also said that he feels insecure because im getting more confident and better looking now ive had my boobs done and loseing the baby weight he feels lk he doesnt deserve me. and hes said he doesnt want to tocuh them because he cant play with them till there healed so ino he likes them but hes jsut taken away all my excitment. when i had my plasters off yestoday he didnt even ask to look i just showed him and he didnt compliment at all. i had them done to help my confiedence and just because my friends say there stunning etc i need him to say it because hes putting doubts in my head about them now =( . dno how to explain this to him he doesnt get what hes been like any advice? xxx
Awww hun im sorry i think you need to sit him down and explain to him how its making you feel. My boyfriend dont like big boobs but was happy to let me go ahead with out moaning and hes always been interested how things are going im 5 weeks post op now and he doesnt really like touching them just incase i dont think he knows what to do with them ha ha
But this is not fair on you hun he should be there to support you its a bit thing having an op and its already stressful without your boyfriend adding to it
Sit him down and tell him how you feel good luck hun xxi think i will sit him down hun cause its making me think if there actually nice or if my friends r lieing. because he doesnt seem excited, he does ask now and again about things lk yestoday he asked about when i can wash them etc, after having my bandages off but i didnt reply because i thought well why isit ok to talk about them just when u want to and pick n choose when to be interested. the thing is he loves big boobs =/ !?? when his friend had hers done yrs ago he was constantly looking at them (before i met him) and when he was saying stroys of partys in the past etc he seemed to always lk her boobs! just confuseing how he seemed to love hers and lks big boobs in general but doesnt seem to want to be interested in mine because he thinks ill start useing them to get attention. i still cant really talk about them now without him saying thats all i ever talk abotu when i hardly mention them arghh men! xxx
carrie smith
0pOmg claire..im having the exact same prob! My bf is lending me the money to have them done as he knows its a big deal for me.. Iv two children and he is a lite vain and insecure naturally.. But apart fromhis support financially im gtting nothing elsewhere..he says hes not bothered n doesnt need to be excited..but i need him to be as its a big deal and something iv wanted forever. He hasnt taken any time off for consults/appt.. And wont even be around on my op date as he is away at a course for 3 weeks.. I feel a little let down n like u its takingte exxitement away.. Lucky for me all my friends are excited but its not the same.. Bloody men!!.x
@pinklady1 carrie men r just plain strange lol! i hope they get excited when they can play with them ill be telling him theres plenty of men that would appreciate them so think yourself lucky! lol id never go elsewhere but he needs to know that i think. all my friends have been really excited for me and love them , oh well as long as i love them i guess thats all that matters he can leave his jealousy at the door lol! xxx
carrie smith
0pHaha thats very true honey.. Once they realise its not about the attention..mayb they will be ok.x whens ur op?.x
carrie smith
0pAww uv had it?!! Do you love them? Whos ya surgeon? Mines 16th may and cant come quick enough.ha.x
yea babe , i think there lush compared to what they used to be lk im really happy with them and there softening up gd to. i had dr schiavonie in droitwhich 520cc overs =) ive got pics up if u want to add me xx
just remember girls your doing it for yourselves, not for others. you dont need them to get excited with u! stuff it! your gonna be so made up onc they’re done. if they have their own issues, let them deal with it. DO NOT let them bring you down. they’ll get over it. xx
ur right there rach i did do it for myself i needed it done i felt so horrible about myself before i had them done , but to be honest because after my daughter was born he didnt really touch my boobs and agreed that theyd gone saggy, i wanted him to like them and not be able to keep his hands off them and be lk wow babe i love them =/ havent told him this oviously but mabey i need to xx
Hey Hun, having the same thing with my mum.
I’m so excited for my BA and my mum snapped at me yesterday saying she was “sick of hearing it” and started making snide comments at me and now it’s really knocked my enthusiasm for it 🙁 xxWHAT he agreed they were saggy?! That’s terror. Babe your boobs do look gorgeous. No one is lying to you! Boys are silly they’re not as mature as us girlies lol. He’s probably feeling a bit worried and insecure because now you’re even hotter and he’s worried you’ll leave him now you have super boobies. Silly as it sounds that’s hopefully all it comes down to. He needs to get over it and be happy for you.
But don’t think they don’t look good! They sure dooooo xxx -
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