New here..hello all..waves Started by: Sian

Helloooooooooooooooooooooo,

Sorry this is a long post.

I suppose Id better introduce myself and tell you all a little about me. I hope everyone says hello as I did join another forum a few weeks ago and posted twice and got nothing back.. no one said anything to me so I’ve left it now 🙁

I am 46 with two children that have left home now and have hated my tummy since I was 17 after I had my first child (yes I know, I started young) I ended up with really wide bad stretchmarks going above my belly button and round to my sides and my skin had been over stretched and my tummy sank in the middle, from my belly button downwards. I didn’t know until I started researching tummy tucks that this is muscle separation.. I wish id have known what I know now all those years ago.. I wouldn’t of bothered doing those sit-ups and getting nowhere.
I have never worn a bikini on the beach. In fact I don’t go to the beach! My dad owns a villa in Spain and 15 years ago I was always going there for my summer holidays. (don’t go anymore) I would wear my husbands old baggy purple mens shorts and a bikini top around the pool and would wear the same year in year out.. I didn’t even buy new shorts as you would buy a new bikini with each new holiday as I just felt it was a waste of money and I know I looked stupid! My stepmum said I would look better in a swimming costume if I felt like that and not the purple shorts, but I felt like an old granny wearing one of those and so I stayed with the shorts. My dad would sometimes make fun of me and my sister would come out and sunbath in a thong and nothing else making me feel like a freak.

Skip 100’s of years (well it feels like 100’s of years) to 8 years ago when I met my new boyfriend (after throwing my old husband out..we stopped getting on and had both changed) he knew how much I hated my tummy and I would always try and hide it. I would walk into the room with my hand over my tummy..in fact I still do that now. Its become a habit and I still haven’t worn a bikini all these years later. My tummy doesn’t bother him and he says he likes my stretchmarks !!!!! Well I started to gain lots of weight as Nigel is a great cook. (I’m trying to keep this short) Nigel proposed to me and I didn’t want to be a fat bride so went on a diet. I joined weight watchers online and lost 4st. I became weight watcher of the month and went to London for a photo shoot 🙂
I went from a 38FF to a 34 DD and felt empty.. My tummy looked worse and I now have dimples down the front of my legs as well as the back!
I have kept the weight off for years now and never want to go back to that weight.

I started cycling last year.. First I got a mountain bike but kept hurting myself.
So I then got a road bike (less dangerous for me) and just this year I have entered a few races. I can now peddle up those big long hard hills and can go for hours. My longest ride has been 63 miles in one day. I go out about 3 times a week.
My boyfriend (well , husband as we got married ) cycles with me and he has lost loads of weight doing this and his body has changed shape. My body has stayed the same! which Im not happy about.. When I get down low on my bike my legs hit my belly! Dont get me wrong, its not really bad its not excessive,but someone once said to me…Sian, Pregnant again.. I wasn’t and felt crap!
As I have got older my tummy seems to stick out more and I’m now not worried about my stretchmarks but the way it sticks out when I’m wearing clothes. My boobs still feel empty at the top and have started to sag with age. . I’ve started to wear spandex to try and get my tummy to look flat.. this is something I’ve just started to do and that makes me feel old too!
I cuddle a teddy in bed. I put this teddy by my tummy so when hubby cuddles up to me from behind and drapes his arm across me, he cant feel my tummy. HOW SAD IS THAT! When hubby does try and feel my tummy to say..its OK its fine it doesn’t bother me.. I get a tummy ache and feel sick!

Present day…. I just decided a few weeks ago.. enough is enough, I’m not getting any younger and what will my tummy look like when I’m an old lady.. Its not going to get any better just worse.. So I started to look at tummy tucks and talked lots with hubby and he said.. I bet you get this done and then want more.. he was sort of right as I’ve started to look at breast augmentation too now, before I’ve even got the tt done.

Soooo I’ve been looking around and have had my first consultation with MYA last Wednesday. going back to see the surgeon next Thursday.

I’m looking at having a full TT, lipo, BA and a lift all at the same time :-0 .. in for a penny, in for a pound.

Has anyone else on this forum had all this together?

Love and peace xx