Friend requests Started by: Emma 22.4.2014

People are just researching, its all exciting you must remeber that before you had the op. I think girlys probs get a lil carried away see similar stats and add without even realizing lol I know I do sometimes

When I first came on here I friend requested AND messaged a lot of girls……most did not accept andi i used to have a joke with my daughter that I had no ‘mates’ in the end I just started adding without messaging as I got fed up of typing out and being ignored…..after my op it was easy to be accepted as everyone then wanted to look at MY pics.I don’t think ladies want to look for any other reason than to have an idea of how they may look after their own op or to make comparisons to their post op results.I was so paranoid pre op that girls would think I was a percy man as I had no pre op or post op pics.I messages plenty who did not reply..maybe because they were fed up of answering questions so I decided to just add and hope for the best!xx

Yes I do agree Nicole and I have answered every message each girl has sent and feel I have helped a lot of girls on here but found it a little soul destroying and embarassing after having my own messages disregarded pre op.you ladies have obviously helped others but there are many on here who don’t respond .I realise it’s personal choice as to whether someone replies but it still makes u feel a bit crap ….it’s like being rejected on a dating site ha ha….not that I have used a dating site….ahem xxx

Yes do agree I also was rejected (sob) despite sending messages…it is funny how post op all the requests make you feel subconscious and pre op like you are begging for friends….when really it’s much better to be looked over than over looked! Ha ha love that Mae West line…especially as u get older:-)

Well I best ask the question then lol Julie and Ella can I add you please, xx

You can add me hun.i was uplift and implants 345cc xxx

Well said.i was terrified when I joined.Felt like everyone knew each other and I almost logged off but since I have spoken to some lovely girls who have helped me loads but I can remember starting at least three forums which nobody replied to.It took me a while to find the confidence to start a thread or message someone xxx

To be honest this is a website set up so that people going threw the same thing can look at other peoples pics and ask questions etc about whats going to happen. If people have a problem with people just adding them then why are you on this sort of website? I dont see what people emailing first is gunna do to make you think their real and not fake? Fake people can email too lol. Everyone iv added is because they had the same profile or was experiencing something i was experiencing. This forum is to help other girls and show what youv had done so i dont see why it mattters if the person writes to you or not :/. Sorry for the essay lol x everyone should be happy that peopke wanna see their boobies. I know i wud be for the amount theyve cost me lol

Suppose everyone is different, I look at it as if some random person added you on facebook twitter whatever you wouldn’t just accept, as you simply don’t know them and its the same with this website yes its been made for it but at the same time its common courtesy to send a message you wouldn’t walk up to someone and ask them, show me your tits and then look and walk off without saying anything you would introduce yourself first and explain what your getting etc and what you would like to know before they get there tits out for you lol. Iv been on this forum for over 3 years and iv seen a lot of horrible things happen to girls with people seeing there pics so I always ask for a message first etc because of that, and its also nice to get feedback on what that person thinks of them, I accepted about 16 friend requests one time and none of them messaged but I accepted to see if they would say anything and NONE wrote back to say anything about my boobs and I think its just rude , not saying all of you girls are like that but the majority are so it can get quite frustrating, and its just nice to talk to that person rather then feeling like your just a object. I can understand it must be frustrating when some girls some accept etc but you do have to understand we are human and we like nice comments about them etc xx

This is very true…everyone is different …although I do feel walking up to someone in the street and asking to see their tits is vety different yo adding someone on a site dedicated to it….and if I stranger on fb added me I would be suspicious of their intentions whereas im fully aware of why im being added on here.For the record Rinx yours look bloody fantastic…im very jealous.Now youre going to get a load more requests wanting to see lol xxx

Mine went much smaller when the swelling went down but seem to have filled out again so im back to loving them!! Yaaay xxx

Well it’s simple rally just need to respect each other’s opinions and requests! I like a message first and say that on my profile…some girls are just happy with adds…so if you see a request for contact first respect that, if it’s not there then that girls probably happy just to be added….I suppose there is no right or wrong just need to respect each other’s wishes so to speak.
And to be quite honest I’ve not see one pair of bad boobs ! And considering I was so sub conscious before I can’t believe that I have effectively got my tits out for more than 200 people lol!

To be honest I have messaged some and not messaged others.. But I certainly haven’t commented on people’s pictures. I’m not the kind of person to come on and comment ‘nice tits’ on someone’s pictures.. I also personally wouldn’t want people to comment on mine. My BA is for me, and no one else..

No one is asking to comment on pictures saying nice tits LOL but it’s nice to have feedback like me saying to Julie her boobs are amazing and are looking really good, it’s just that positive feedback from others that makes you feel confident if your feeling low about them etc , like I said before everyone is different and if someone has put next to there picture / name please message before adding you should respect that.

Totally agree with Rinx….it makes u feel so much more confident about your surgery when people make a nice comment xx

I understand but this issue has been bought up a fair few times. I remember being new and not knowing what was going on. People can message or not message just like people can accept or decline. I could be wrong but I’m pretty sure that 90% of the people sending requests (including myself) are seeking reassurance. I don’t like that fact that everyone seems to think the worse of people. None if us know each other like fb but we are all going through one hell of a journey together and that’s what this forum is about xx

I think we should all go for tea 🙂 ha ha xxx

Im really grateful that girlies have added or accepted me as it has helped loads I feel miles better seeing peoples results that have had smaller implants as I was starting to get really down that I wasn’t aloud to have bigger implants I hope when im done I will be helping people too x

this is site is just so helpful and nice how people who don’t know each other help with never meeting.. I do think a picture with a written sign saying your name and mya forum would help make people feel better as it is the unknown there could be kids or perverts posing to be people wanting to see pics get advise ect x

never know would be no harm in posting a pic with name ect if people are genuine xx

I think what you need to remember too is that pre-op none of us ladies want to share pics, we don’t like whatever part of our bodies we’re having surgery on so why would we wan’t everyone looking at it? I know I don’t particularly like the idea of flashing my flat chest! Post op though, we’re all gonna want to show them off! I can understand how people might feel wary about adding people with few pictures, but the whole idea of this forum is to help and support each other 🙂 xxx