Backing out:( Started by: Elishia

Honey I certainly wouldn’t let them decide something for you. This is a decision you need to make – please do remember though that if you took your finance out more than 14 days ago (for your BA) or paid for it more than 14 days ago there is a very strong possibility that you wont get anything back – infact i think your only option then is to lose it all or pay £500 to get it rescheduled. Its in the contract we all signed. Don’t be bullied into anything – make this decision yourself 🙂

I obviously don’t know how your parents are but it sounds like to me they will say anything to stop you from doing it you are their daughter I doubt they will put you through so much stress after by making you pay back the money etc ! I didn’t have much support of my mum and none or my boyfriend I cried so much I felt alone but as soon as it was done they. Were running around after me they clearly felt guilty haha! They are most probably scared something will happen to you , and I would say I response to them what if something did happen to me and you didn’t even support me maybe that will make them think! But anyway don’t back out go for it they will forget you even had them done 3 months later xxxx

Elishia, I am having a similar circumstance with my parents not approving of a situation (me getting back with my ex boyfriend) and so they are doing everything possible to make it known that they do not like it and throwing out this negative energy onto me about it. What you have to think is that 1. Your parents have lived their lives, made their choices to achieve personal happiness & 2. This is YOUR happiness. I don’t know how your parents would react if you said this to them but I’ve said it to mine and they’ve just had to deal with it because at the end of the day I am totally right in what I have said. Your happiness should be one of the most important things to anyone who cares about you. Of course they will have their reasons for you not wanting to do it and maybe tell them that you understand their reasons and have taken it all into consideration but ultimately this is YOUR life and YOUR happiness and so you should make YOUR own decisions. I don’t know wether this helps or not but I hope so. Let me know how it goes xxx

Hi girls I wanted to comment on this post to let you know my parents were exactly the same. Before I had my BA I had auxiliary (armpit) lipo and I had been banging on Bout it for months, only one night I was getting ready to go out and they way I looked really upset me, I was crying and ended up going to my mums upset. She could see how awful I was and said ‘ I think u need to do something about this now it’s been going on too long’ this is some one who was completely against any form of cosmetic surgery. I told my mum I was considering getting my boobs done not long after I had the lipo and I think she honestly thought if it made me happy then she was. I sat down with my mum and showed her my surgeons profile and similar results etc she was happy I was doing it properly. Saying that I still haven’t told my dad because even though I am 30 I am still his little girl. I don’t think the best way to approach things is to say ‘I’m having it done’ but be grown up about it and explain your reasons why. Show them your research and say you really would love their support xxx

Give them the car back get you BA and confidence back. Buy a cheap run around and saw for an even better car and show them you can do things for yourself it’s really unfair to treat you like that xxx

My parents were like this until I put my foot down . Go for it, if they moan on about wanting money back for the car etc, hand them the keys back and tell them to sell it! Why parents do this is beyond me I would never dream of doing this to my children. Its because of my parents I had procedures done as they always tormented me about the way I looked. If it makes you feel better about yourself go for it, its your life and you have to make the most of it 🙂 x

Hey hun I was in exactly the same position as you. My mum has always made very rude comments about girls who get their boobs done and thinks it is done for attention. I was so scared and knew she would never approve and my dad, omg he would be even worst! I am 16 days PO and havent told them still. Its a real shame that as their daughter I felt unable to but at the end of the day its my body and my choice only I know how self conscious and disguised I felt with myself everytime I looked in the mirror. I have been wearing padding for the last 10 years and have not been anywhere near a man-the though of getting naked was a NO WAY for me lol. This is the best thing I have ever done, I feel like a new woman and I am so glad I just went ahead with it. Anything I can do to help let me know, it really is a personal choice and you deserve to be happy and confident, if this helps you surely its a good thing
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