Hi i had my op last wednesday so i am 5 days post op. I have a 7 year old and a 4 year old and am only just starting to do things for them again now, the first few days i relyed on my partner doing everything for them. I had unders whixh is supposed to be more painful, to be honest i havent been in alot of pain just very resticted with arm movements, the first two days i even needed help pulling my pants up and down for the toiler (sorry) so with you having younger children i think you will need quite abit of help!
Hope this helps
Good luck ? xx