Feeling very confused, help please :( Started by: ClaireJ

I wanted larger boobs from around age 14, I always thought they would eventually grow but by age 23 they hadn’t grown much. My mother is naturally a 32G/H and I always felt tormented that I couldn’t fill things out without a padded bra.

I waited until I was 33 for my ba because I flipped while shopping last summer and felt I’d had enough. Ex bf had always said they like my boobs as they were but all the compliments in the world wouldnt help fill the gap between my boobs or fill out a dress.

The choice is yours to make and it’s your body. It’s so easy for someone to suggest therapy but the issue you have is physical . If you have therapy they will break down the issues you have and give you coping mechanisms to deal with anxiety and stress you may feel with your body which is great. As it’ll also help you to think more positively in the long run.

I wanted mine because I wanted to feel more womanly nothing a guy could tell me would make me feel better or worse. I have no issues with my body and I’m very confident in myself. My issue was constantly comparing my breasts to others even teenagers. I felt horrible knowing I could wear form fitting clothes but couldn’t fill out the bust. When I think of breasts I think they’re feminine and really sexy. The shape, the way they sit, I just love them. I loved the way I felt in a super serious push up double padded wonderbra on a night out or a date. But hated the way I felt when I took the bra off.

I went to an event last summer and wore a body without a bra as it would have shown. Throughout the event I was trying to cover my chest and felt really awkward. It had taken me a lot to even buy the body I saw other girls without bras in dresses and bodies some has even less boob than me and stood confidently.

I wanted to know their secret the funny thing is I was them like ten years ago in my early twenties. It was then I realised I’d lived with this issue for long enough and time I treated myself to a positive change.

At certain points in your life you just get on with it….mind over matter…and things bother you less… but if you have kids, waiting to get married, have lost tons of weight or gone through a major life change or just want a new look these are the times when u have to make a massive decision with what to do next.

My boobs would not grow anymore that’s a fact. I’m a confident person and lived with low volume boobs for over twenty years. The only thing that would sort my boobs out was surgery not diet or exercise.

It is a life changing decision and only you know when ur ready to take that leap of faith. When I had bloods taken at my pre op I asked the doctor ( I saw a nurse ans a Dr cos she couldn’t get my blood out I was so anxious and terrible with needles) what he thought about cosmetic surgery he said that it can be life changing and the best confidence boosters he’s seen were boob jobs and nose jobs. Thats made me think….if you had a problem with your nose would you go for therapy to boost your confidence? Is it seen as anything different or is it just a physical as ur breasts?

I’m not saying either is more important but as a woman your breasts go though many changes and I feel they define your sexuality and femininity. Since having my op I feel a weight has been lifted and I feel even happier when I’m naked and tons more confident. Im smiling so much more in general, my posture has straightened too and I’m excited about the future. I feel that it’s the best decision I’ve made recently despite the cost, pain and stress I know it was right for me. I just wish I had done it a decade earlier but I wasn’t in the right mindset for it nor financial position.

Remember nothing happens before its time also so don’t feel the need to rush a decision. I hope I’ve given you food for thought

Fxx

Ur welcome hun sorry for the essay! I can ramble on at times! Beware if you opt for therapy prior to the op or have anything on ur medical records that you received medicine for depression /anxiety or have a history of it they will ask to contact your GP.

This is to ensure that you are of sound mind when consenting for the operation to take place for Mya to cover themselves and for your protection also.

Depending on circumstances or evidence they receive Mya do have the right to cancel or postpone operations to a later date. I’m just letting you know as a few threads I’ve seen on here since last July addressed this. Each case was very different.

If I were you I would speak to a surgeon ans get a consultation to discuss what issues you have with your breasts and see what option they suggest. Try some sizers on and get a feel for how they could look if/when you go for it. That way if you prefer to go ahead with therapy for now you can always discuss that with the theapist and the feelings you had when you went for the consultation.. If you still felt anxious or concerned and address anything underlying feelings you have about surgery.

I’m pretty sure you have to be six months clear of any depression /anxiety medication and at least a year or less clear of therapy /counseling but I could be wrong! Hope that helps fx

No worries hun sounds like u know what you want and just need time to talk things out. I’d let the pc know so they can advise you on what next.

I’m pretty sure if you see the surgeon and book a date thts 6 months past the date of your first consultation you have to see them again before the op or something due to the time limit. So ask them about this too. It’s another thing I read on the forum at the start of the year but the girl wasn’t told about this and it caused a few issues for her.

Hope that all helps you with your decision fxc

Exactly! Preparation is key tbh hun! You already know what your after and u have met ur surgeon so that’s great ur already prepared mentally and have made choices so less to worry or think about if you decide to go ahead

I booked in the summer to have them done in the winter as I know it takes a while for them to heal and drop plus I had a breast band for 4wks and covered up with lots of layers so I wasn’t overly hot just comfy. When summera here they’ll be in a better state, dropped and fluffed fully fingers crossed.

Really hope it goes well for you fxx