Am I selfish ?

Advice needed ‘ so I’ve always wanted my boobs done but am I selfish ? I have 3 kids are 3 nearly 4 ‘ 3 year old and 8months I currently rent and I don’t have money for a deposit on a morgage as my credit history is poor so I won’t get one for like 10 years , I don’t have savings as back up incase something goes wrong me and my partner work I have money to feed my kids dress them take them out to zoo”s etc but everyone keeps saying think what you can do with that money am I selfish for spending money on my self which is going to cost me 3695 when I don’t have savings my partner says to me well you on my benefit from it not me or the kids , he’s so against it ,, is he rite should that money be saved and put away or do I make myself happy or again is that selfish thinking of my self every day my kids are brought sweets it a magazine from the shop forever treating them but know I have the funds I’m feeling lots of guilt for doing it:( help me out girls and you who have children of your own xx

Hey,
I might sound out of turn to some but….
I don’t have 3 kids but I do have 1,
My daughter is looked after and that’s all that matters, I had mine done and my husband was really supportive of me wanting them done, I also rent and my credit is poor too, so I saved for it instead, your kids seemed like they want for nothing so that’s great ?, if your not happy then I say go for it. Iv wanted mine done for 14years and I couldn’t wait any longer, it was now or never for me.
If buying your self something that will make you a confident and happy woman, makes you selfish then I’m selfish too lol,
I have definitely no regrets what so ever spending £5k+ On boobs But everyone is different where money is considered, at the end of the day it’s entirely up to you hun xxx

I also have one child… moved back into parents to save for a deposit for a mortgage I never told anyone apart from family… I had a eating disorder now I’ve recovered I thought I should treat myself and make myself feel good,,, obviously when we buy a house we will have. No extra spare cash… my partner and parents were so supportive but my sisters were dead against it saying use that money and move out quicker ect ect they hate I’m close to my mom…. I’m 2 weeks post op and it’s the best thing I’ve EVER done (apart from having my daughter) she still is spoilt rotten still goes to all her clubs ect ect and she loves them. I’m so much happier so it makes everyone around me happier! X definitely not selfish xx

As long as your children are well looked after, fed and looked after correctly and are happy then that is all that matters. After that, if you want to treat yourself and it would make YOU happy then do it. Life is too short. As long as the little ones won’t be affected by it and they can still want for nothing you’re fine. Save up and get it done in my opinion. I don’t think putting yourself first (second to the kids) is selfish at all.

Am entitled to treat myself or am I wrong for doing it I’ve wanted it since I was 12 and I’m.now 24 and waited ages I’ve said well once I’ve had my boobs done then my wages would be saved as nothing else I want or need hellllpppppp

You sound exactly like me.
I’m to considering getting my boobs done. I’m waiting on mya to get back to me to let me know how much it costs.
I have a 4 year old, am 30 years old and have always wanted my boobs done since I was 18. We’re not flush with money and are looking to move soon. My daughter has everything she could ever want but I keep being put off by my own guilt thinking I could put that money to something else for my family. I’d be getting a loan to pay mine off also.
When reading what you wrong I was thinking you arent selfish at all if it’s going to make you happier so maybe I should listen to my own advice.
Go for it girl x

I have 4 children also been wanting mine done since I was 18 i am 35 now and go for mine doing on the 17th of this month my children have everythink they need and want my partner paid half up frount and the rest is on pay monthly so wish i had of done it years ago but never too late i guess good luck ladys xx

Hi! I’m 39 and have 4 kids. I’m now 4 weeks PO and it’s the best decision I ever made, just wish I’d done it sooner! I’ve had attacks of the guilts too but I’ve been a mum for 21 years, my kids have everything they need. I saved hard and for a long time for my BA to treat myself in advance of my 40th in September! We aren’t just Mums.. We are us too!! Go for it! Happy mum equals happy kids xx

Thankyou girls I’m just gonna go for it !!! I’ve booked to see a surgeon this Sunday can not wait!! Glàd I’m not the only one feeling this way and nice to see u see it from my point of view will keep u posted xx

That you girls replying it really has helped ‘ I think as a mom we all question if what we are doing is right or not , spoke to my partner last night and he said I can see why u want it done I get that but that money could go on something else I don’t agree with it (thinks it’s pointless as he’s happy with how I am and always says he a mom for God sake lol ) he said tho he would look after me and take a week of to work to watch the children, I’ve wanted it for so long, I’ve booked an appointment at one health on Sunday coming as I was with my a but changed ,, I do feel like I’ve carried three baby’s so close I’m still young and why should I not feel. Good about myself like taking kids swimming I have it being in swimwear so I’m.sure it will help me get over that fear , fuck itt I’m gonna go do it your on this earth once and like you girls have said if it kids are looked after fed and treated then why not ( men just don’t understand I think it’s more down to them worrying your gonna have them out all the time thankyou lady’s xx

I am feeling the same, I am 26 and have 2 kids nearly 4 and 6, I am single and live in a rented property but I work, my ex partner paid for a 70k car, that’s the only thing getting me thinking if he can pay for that then why can’t I have new boobs?!
I have never had boobs (32A) can’t even fill a bra probably even smaller then that.. think they grew abit 5mm when pregnant but went back to normal size after x

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