Hi Sarah,
I’m 3dpo & also a single parent but my little girl is 21 month so not quite passed the lifting stage. I’ve also no help off grandparents as both sets are away on holiday!
I think I’ve been pretty lucky with the pain as from 1dpo I was able to do a lot for myself & by today I feel nearly normal.
I’d recommend just putting everything in easy reach that you think you will need. I also cooked a lot of food before my op & froze it so all I had to do was put it in the microwave.
I’ve honestly not found it as hard as I thought I would but I do have a really high pain threshold!
Xx