Anyone keeping their BA a secret from even close family??

I’ve wanted a BA since I can ever remember, at least 16. Now at 35 and post 2 babies I think i’ve waited long enough and paid my dues lol.

Yet despite this I just cant bring myself to tell me family what I am getting done?! I’m not quite sure why?

I suppose I expect a backlash like ‘why do you need them’ and ‘what a waste of money’ or ‘why would you put yourself through something like that’ etc etc.

I know I shouldnt care and for gods sake I’m grown up enough to make my own decisions but still just cant tell them.

Am hoping that as I’m going for the natural look they just wont realise or think I’ve got a good bra on!

Only people that know are my hubby, my best friend and two cousins.

Anyone else nervous about telling people?

I’m having my op on my 30th birthday and was so scared to tell my Mum I thought I was going to be sick! I’ve not told my Dad and don’t think I will if I can get away with not doing. I’ve only told close friends as I’m worried about what people will think 🙁 xx

Hi
I’m similar to your story … Older with two kids and feel its about time.actually I haven’t told anyone but my husband . Honestly it’s no ones business but mine ..I feel it’s my money , my body so if anyone asks Ill be honest but ..people will judge and I think a simple answer is best . I have my surgery May 23rd . Best of luck..
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Hi Wendy, I haven’t told anyone apart from my husband and my mum. Even my best friend doesn’t know. Operation is next week and still trying to decide what to tell my kids. Xx

You’re so right it has nothing to do with anyone else but I know people will have plenty to say about it. How the money could be spent on my kids etc. Xx

Hi, I told my immediate family & partner only. I see my partners family everyday and haven’t told them!! They haven’t guessed neither have work and I’m 4 weeks post op . Xx

I felt exact same as you girls , I never planned on telling family(mum, step dad, grandparents) only person to know was my boyfriend.

Driving along one day my phone starts to ring on Bluetooth & I thought it was a job I was applying for phoning me but when I answered it was mya to confirm my appointment and I had my mum in the car I was like no no phone me back please I’m driving haha but it was too late as they start by saying ‘hello it’s so&so from mya….’ I honestly felt embarrassed & felt like crying as I didn’t plan on telling her (not so soon anyway) tbh I thought she would be like ‘why you doing that’ & ‘what you wasting your money for’ but she wasn’t and totally supported me!

Then I went on to tell my nan who I’m very close to & again she fully supported me, she told my grandad which I told her too when I wasn’t there haha then on the day of the op I finally got the courage to tell my mum to finally tell my step dad (very strict and tight) haha but honestly he didn’t say a thing & supported me.

I think it’s the feeling embarrassed & worrying too much about what people think. After telling most of these people it did make me feel so much better.

I am not telling to anyone. The only people know are my sister and my hubby, and hubby’s cousin since they were coming to visit. I know we are all mature enough to not tell anyone, but somehow we feel the need to do it when it comes to the parents. But the fact is – Sometimes it’s less information that makes easier life, in my opinion. I can’t tell my mum because I know how easily stressed she gets. She’s heaving health problems at the moment so there’s no way I can put that on her… As for my dad, I don’t think he’s interested about my boobs at all. I’m sure he’ll have an opinion, something in lines “why did you need it?” and “we love you ask you are”. Thankfully, its easier for me to keep a secret from my parents and relatives, we all live different countries all over the world and not here with me. But surely, if people will notice and ask if I’ve done, I’m not going to lie. Only if they dare to ask haha

Tell them afterwards;) as all their comments wouldn’t matter then. It’s done. It was even more awkward for me when my 10 yrs old son asked me “why did you want your boobs bigger?” Lol I must admit, it stumbled me a bit…

I’m 21 not telling any family only my best friend and boyfriend. I have already started wearing floaty tops so that after my op no one asks questions x

Hi girls I had my BA two years ago last Wednesday and only told my mum, boyfriend, 2 close friends and sister. I didn’t see the need to go shouting about it and didn’t want to be known as the girl with fake boobs! To be honest I’ve had a few people ask if I’ve had them done but I just say I have a push up bra on or I’ve put on weight with the coil etc. it’s no ones business but yours and your money and body. When I told my mum a few years back I wanted them done she told me I was being stupid etc but I showed her I did my research and was choosing a doctor I completely trusted and she was fine when she saw how serious I was. She even said to my sister after a few months it was lovely to see me not moaning about myself all the time. Xxxx

That’s the thing, no one really knows or understands the turmoil we are in when don’t have what should have as a woman- boobs! It’s like telling someone with a missing nose that they are being stupid for wanting one like everyone else. It’s a weird comparison but you all know what I mean:) lol

I only told my parents and boyfriend on my first ba and second ba the same. As I was going to be away over night i told my kids I was going on a hen party paint balling then out for the night n staying in a fancy hotel. So nxt day I would b covered for pain as I could say It was the paintballing and hungover from the night out lol. Didn’t wanna explain to my 11 year old or 4 year old that mummy went to get her boobs bigger lol xx

See I see my husbands family almost every day. They at going to wonder/ask why o can’t pick the girls up and why I’m in pain. Hubby said tell them I’ve hurty back but is don’t like lying xx that’s my dilemma. I’m not planning on ‘announcing it’ or anything and was going to tell people if they asked me outright but just wanted to avoid if necessary x

@kitty, haha good if you can get away with that… My son is mature enough, I wouldn’t be able to get away with it. I obviously didn’t tell my 5 yrs old, just told him to be careful as I have a baddie. He tends to launch himself at me and on the sofa next to me. The eldest doesn’t really seem phased by it:) he just wants to look after me which is sweet:)

@wendyj , if you want no hassle I understand that. If you do gym work or gardening for example you can say you hurt your shoulder really badly, pulled a muscle.. So it would explain why you can’t use your arms or pick up your girls. And even if they get a glimpse of bandages- say it’s to keep the shoulder in place etc. What do you think?

@ariel lol I wore heavy padded bras before so ppl wouldn’t notice n luckily I wasn’t in much pain so I got away with it 🙂 my oldest too busy with his mates to even take notice anyway and would hate for his mates to all find out lol and my youngest like yours likes to dive on me and squeezy cuddles so had to b careful there lol its defo easy to keep it a secret tho n up to the individual if they wanna tell ppl 🙂 x

Only my two best friends know about it. I haven’t told either of my parents and at the moment i’m not planning on doing x

To be honest I don’t think it’s anybody’s business anyway that we’ve had BA’s or having them. It’s our body, nobody understands why we want them doing so much anyway. People are too judgemental nowadays! I told my partner and my mum. I got the old ‘why do you want it doing?’ ‘ you should be happy with what you’ve been blessed with’. Bla bla bla. I wouldn’t stress too much what other people think hun. It’s your body and your business . 🙂 xx

tell them you hurt your back needed an injection and can’t drive for two weeks….it’s all kinda true your just bending the truth a little. First time round I told my Mum & Dad and sister as I needed there help of course my then husband also knew. I felt I had done it for me and I didn’t want people to judge me. Just had replacements told my mum, sister, and grown up daughters told everyone else the back tail…. Ha ha

I told my mum and close friends straight away, but was so nervous about telling my Dad! I kept it from him until the Friday before my op (op was the Monday) and he was so lovely, more concerned that I’d be okay etc and he was really supportive.
Wish I’d told him sooner, I felt bad keeping it from him for so long 🙁
If the people around you aren’t supportive then their opinion shouldn’t matter 🙂 xx

Hi Wendy I told my mom she was really supportive surprisingly my sister wasn’t as supportive but she’s come round slightly now my 2 best friends know but havnt told my work colleagues or manager I don’t live with my dad as he lives in Ireland I haven’t told him either I think he will hit the roof I don’t plan on telling him so hopefully if he notices he won’t ask me! Haha it’s silly really but it’s such a personal journey you shouldn’t have to explain your reasons to anyone! Good luck with your journey hun xxx

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