Anyone kept their BA a secret?!? :)

Hi girls was just wondering as I have my BA on Sunday 21st December and I am spending Xmas day at my grandmothers house.
I’m so scared to tell her I think she will be shocked and not very understanding…
Thinking of just not telling her but not sure how much pain I’ll be in on day 5 and if I can get away with it? Lol xxx

None of my family knows about my BA but I wont see them anytime soon…however 2 weeks post op going Im going to see my in-laws…not sure how it will all go and if I will tell them either xxx

Hi @kay88 and @karolina

I’m on a similar boat. My mum knows, and that’s about it. She has known for years apon years that I’ve wanted a BA so when I told her about the consultations booked etc she didn’t flinch, it was as if it was just part of everyday conversation. But that’s not to say all my family are like that, and I know they’re not. I’ve yet to actually tell anyone else as I don’t want to hear their negative comments (if they have any) I’d rather tell them once it was done and then there’s no awkward attemp to persuade me otherwise 🙂 good luck on telling your grandmother 🙂 xxx

I have kept my ba to myself and just a few people I can trust.
People can be judgemental and jealous. And at the end of the day no one needs to know.
Hopefully you will be okay to keep it secret from your grandmother but if not why not fake a bad back or something to explain the lack of mobility and the pill popping lol
I am having my op the 19th good luck with yours x

I’m keeping mine quiet only my mum and dad and my was loads better than I though he would be he even said he would come with and helped with the costs I was so shocked and wondered why I was worried. But I no what you mean it’s our business and no one else’s so don’t feel like you have to tell anyone. Just start wearing baggy tops and pretend they have grown over night 🙂 ha that was a suggestion from one of my friends x

I’m kind of in the same boat! My mam was not supportive at all when I told her and it hasnt been mentioned again and I haven’t told her that it’s actual booked! Dad is ok but again not told him it’s happening next week! We have a huge family get together on Christmas and new year and I’m worried they’re gonna know! I just can’t be bothered with anyone judgmentalness and opinions. I’d rather no-one know so I’m going to wear the tightess sports bra and the baggiest top! Luckily I’m getting ‘filled’ so hopefully shouldn’t be too much bigger than what I look in a bra now so not like I’m going from no boobs to boobs so hopefully won’t be obvious! My BA is 8 days before so I’m thinking rest like hell the first week and hopefully be ok then! Otherwise fake a bad back!! My main prob is I have two Young girls and I’d hate not to be able to play with them and risk them
Running into me!! Good luck to you all!!! Xx

I’ve not told anyone! I’m 5 days post op and going into work tomorrow! Honestly feel fine but I suppose it depends how big you go! 5 days you’ll feel uncomfortable and still probably won’t be able to lift your arms above your head properly but most other things should be find!! Good luck xxx

Thank you for all the advice girls!! I think if I can avoid it I won’t tell her!! I’ve already had mixed reactions from my closest friends and some reactions (negative) I was shocked by so don’t really want my nan thinking differently of me because she is from a different generation and does not understand xxx

I was 4 days post op today and went to my mother in laws for dinner it was the first time I’d left the house since and I was fine had taken my pain killers before and wore a baggy jumper so it wasn’t noticeable ..Everyone’s different but you should be ok if your not having to do much xx

Thanks @Leonie that has given me hope! I think I’m will die if my brothers know and if my granmother finds out they will sure be next in line to hear!! Xx

I’ve only told my mum and sisters and very close friends. I was a bit taken back when one of my friends reacted negatively so have now decided not to tell anyone else. I don’t need their opinions as my mind was made up a long time ago (this is 10 years in the making!). I’m sure you will be fine not to tell your grandmother and other family members, like Kirsty said- maybe fake a bad back lol. It’s nobody else’s business what you do with your body. X

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