Arghh!! Bloody family!!!

I am so angry, I’ve just found out my dad and step mum have been slagging me off to my nan because I’m having a ba, she’s just given me the 3rd degree and said I’m selfish as I have 4 young kids. I chose only a handful of ppl to tell and wasn’t going to tell anybody else, and now I find out that my step mum has already told all my family on my dad’s side, I’ve wanted this since I was 14, luckily my husband knows how much it’s effecting me and has given me his tax rebate just because he wants me to be happy, why can’t they be happy for me too? Apparently because I’m not going into modelling or looking for a husband I don’t need it done and should just make do with what I have, they don’t realise I’m not doing it to please anybody else, I’m doing it for me!!!
Sorry to rant but I’m so upset by it all

My family apart from my mum wasn’t that supportive or for me having this either. However it gets easier. They all know how much it means to me, mines not to find a man or modelling but self confidence and they all respect that. Personally your a grown women who clearly knows what you want, I’d ignore them you have your immediate family who are supportive, wouldn’t care what they think, probs jealous of it (my sister is ) just make sure your doing it for yourself. Forget everyone else and enjoy it. I haven’t long to go now either I’m so excited I could pee! Good luck and chin up xxx

16th of June, had it booked since jan, I have exams on the 3rd of June and they are really important so thought it’d be best, however I’m so unfocused on what I’m suppose to be focusing on, I’m just boob hungry! 🙁 good for you, I have a young boy too, as parents we always put the kids first right? Now it’s our time, I’ve needed mine done for such a long time I’m sure it’ll be worth all the drama in the end! Keep smiling! I’m with mr mounir too he’s a lovely guy! Xx

I think there’s always going to be people with an opinion. I chose not to tell anyone I was having it done other than partner or best friend as I couldn’t be bothered with people’s opinions & people calling me selfish as I’ve got an 8 month old baby. luckily my mum was great when I told her after. I think you’ve jut got to remember why you are doing and it sod what other people say. At the end of the day you’ve got your husband support so that’s all that matters. Don’t let anyone ruin your excitement at getting them done and putting yourself first. Good luck xx

I am in the same boat I wish I had hubby’s support rather than anyone else. At the mo I am on a lonely road apart from my best friend who has been amazing even though at first she was was not over the moon. What I have found is ppl spend so much time on their feelings and there opinions rather than taking the time to let you know that they understand how we feel!!!!! You think it’s been easy to get to this place of going under the knife with no certainties??? We just wana be confident and feel amazing like other woman do who are blessed to have it all natural!!! Lol am i ranting???

I’ve got my op this Tuesday , only told my sister last week. Haven’t told my mum or dad yet, waiting until afterwards. I was dreading telling my sister but she was fine. I’m dreading the response from my mum and dad. My dad can’t stand tattoos and doesn’t know I had one done last year so god help when he finds about my BA. The sad thing is I’m 42, it’s ridiculous. At the end of the day I have a fantastic husband and I know this procedure will make me more confident. Wish I could have afforded it when I was 30. But better late than never.

Awww bless you Sarah. I’m in a similar situation. I haven’t told my parents is not worth the grief (I’m 34 lol). I’ve had to plan it around them going on holiday so they don’t find out. I have 3 children and separated from their dad just over a year ago. I’ve wanted this for years after breast feeding and losing weight. My closest friends know and have been so supportive. My parents will be wondering how I’ve managed to pay for it but at the end of the day I’m a grown adult and have worked my butt off. Now I’ve had it done I’m not so worried about them finding out it’s just sad that we feel we have to justify our reasons for doing it. Other people are probably jealous so don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. And this forum is brilliant for support so you’ll never feel alone. Feel free to add me. xx

I hope you’re okay, I think sometimes people don’t know how else to react but negatively, I mean cosmetic surgery is never really given a positive view and I think people who have never looked into it will only see the negatives, plus the fact that its not an easy issue to discuss with people you don’t 100% trust. I think you need to let them know that it’s not some sort of last minute decision you’re making and that you’ve looked into this for a long time, along with the complications. People are always ready to jump to conclusions because of their own views or because of whatever they’ve heard in the media, but nobody jumps to the conclusion that you’ve done years upon years of research. I hope everything works out okay, though. This ba is the best decision I’ve ever made 🙂 xxx

Hey I know exactly how you feel… I have 5 children-oldest 18 and youngest 3! I have told my mum who is now supportive, but in the beginning was totally against it! One of my boys too, who’s nearly 16 is totally against it. I think it’s because he is very protective of me so I have to go easy on him when I talk about it. I don’t think people actually undertstand the reasons because they are not living with your thoughts and insecurities!especially when they are fortunate enough to be happy with themselves. I also went through the phase of ‘am I being selfish’ and I think that’s natural(I also have fears of not waking out of the anaesthetic). Lol. Not that I’m paranoid or anything!! He he. Like you, I have always been conscious of myself since a teenager at school, then when my sister grew into a teenager I decided I must have been in the wrong queue when breasts were being given!!! I think we have to go with out gut instinct and if we know that 100% we will happy-once the pain has gone, then yes we should put ourselves first, sometimes…. I’m going for my pre op today at 1 and my BA is booked for the 26th may! Onwards and upwards!!! Lol. Xx. I have requested you too x

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