Babies helpppp

Me and my bf have decided we would like a baby, I’m excited and scared and so is he but I’m worried about what my body is gonna look like afterwards, selfish I know lol but I’m worried he’s not ready, we don’t live together atm but when I get pregnant we are gonna look for a place, I’m just worried I’m gonna hate myself even more or feel alone when I’m pregnant, I know it’s hard work but it’s worth it isn’t it? Helppp xx

Helo stacey… Yes its absolutely worth it I have 2 boys and there my entire world and more. It’s hard I’ve dine most of it on my own nobody helps me..but thats fine by me cause there my babys no one elses. With my 1st I gained 4 stone that was the pregnancy that did nt body the most damage yet it still wasn’t bad I just got a couple if stretchmarks on my bottom and boobs but you cannot even see them. My 2nd baby I didn’t gain a lot as I was ill and that pregnancy didn’t change my body at all.. and he was 9ib. I already hated my boobs from my 1st pregnancy as they’d grown so much then deflated. So I had them done when my youngest was 11 month old. You need to both me sure its what you want and your in a stable position as its a life ling commitment. But if its what u want and your both ready then go for it 🙂 xxx

Thanks for ur reply Hun, how do u know when ur ready, we both really want one but he said he’s scared but excited, I’m scared too but this is normal right? Just don’t want to be making the wrong decision, I was fine until he said he was scared and now that’s put doubts into my head :-/ xx

Your bound to be scared even people that are 100% sure get scared. Well tbh when I got pregnant with my 1st I was only 17 and because id had eating problems and my periods had stopped and is had a cyst on my ovary I didn’t think I could get pregnant but turned out I could. My bf was 19 he said he wasn’t ready I was only young but I knew that I had to go through it so he said he would support me. It’s even scary when you find out but once all the shock has settled you calm down. Then when you see the scans my worrys just went away..well most of them. My 2nd was planned we wanted a sibling for our little boy so decided to stop pill and see what happend.. it happend straight away. It’s real scary not gonna say it isnt. What is do is sit down together really talk about your concerns and based on what your bf says and make your desision from there. I can try advise you but theres only you that knows deep down what is best for you 🙂 xxx

Thanks Hun, he said he’s scared but 100% wants one. I want one too but I guess I’m just being vain, I hate my body anyway but don’t wanna hate it anymore lol I’m just gonna go for it and see what happens, did u get caught straight after u came off the pill? Xx

Yea come off it then my next period never came lol. But it was same 1st time I was on pill and didn’t agree with me so naeivly I thought oh I can’t get pregnant anyway so Il just stop taking it. Then that never came either. Well if he says he’s 100% then it rests on you 🙂 the scared feeling is normal its a big life changing thing so your bound to be scared. And I hated mine before babys too I’m still not keen now but I’m grateful to my body cause it grew 2 beautiful boys so its all worth it. To be honest I’m more at ease with it now then I was before xxxx

I would go for it if you want it. I’ve got 2 had my first at 18 and second at 19. I found it hard to accept my body afterwards and also gained less weight in second pregnancy. He is 3months now and my stomach is getting back to normal. Got my BA in 9 days to sort boobs out lol but I would have been doing this anyway. Pregnancy does change Your body and it takes time and patience to go back but it’s 100% worth it and wouldn’t change them for the world. Mines not back to pre pregnancy and probably wont ever fully be, but i am happy with how i look at the momemt, Good luck xx

Go for it 😀 Its scary and life changing but totally for the best! My little boy is now 2 and he is my world, I was 19 when pregnant and 20 when I had him and even though I was youngish it was still best decision I ever made. Body wise I went from 7.10st to 9.13st (he was 8.2lbs) and I got COVERED in stretchmarks. All over tummy, thighs, hips and boobs, hate them but they are fading and since having boobs done the appearance of ones on them has really improved. Weight drops off super fast if you breastfeed too 🙂 I was told that only extended feeding (after 6months) damages breast tissue so that would be fine to do without trashing breasts. I carried on for 12months and lost breast volume but did loose a lot of weight so could be down to that.
If both of you feel that you can provide for a baby and can love it then have one, i dont think any one regrets having children but they regret not having one xx

Thanks Hun I’m just worried of him going off me or looking elsewhere when I’m huge, he said he wouldn’t and I’m being stupid but I can’t help thinking it, I bet I sound so vain and shallow, we’ve had our relationship problems in the past, and other people say “oh ur too young ur only 22” I do want one though xx

I was 22 when I got pregnant with my little boy, he’s now 3 and my world. I didn’t once get told I was 2 young, if you feel the time is right and you can provide for a baby go for it xx

I dont think men think like that tbh, my fiance said he didnt really notice weight as its gradual and thats his baby in you. Just make sure if you do get pregnant you both go to appointments and scans so he feels involved. Blokes cant really do much so nice to let them help with choosing the crib and clothes etc All couples have problems at one time or another but its how you get through them that counts. Sounds like you are being sensible and really thinking about it first which shows your mature for 22. Im same age and i still see friends, dont really get many nights out but thats cos i hate leaving him lol but many friends say how they wish they had what i have and they are the ones i thought have perfect lives being child free and doing as they please. Its the most amazing thing, you worry about how life will change but when it does you dont care about all the other stuff, just that baby! xx

hiya well i had my my daughter when i was 17 she is now nearly 13yrs old ,it wasnt planned i was in a very bad relationship that i thort id never get out of ,my family didnt talk to me for about 6 month they thort my life was ruined ,
but i can tell you know that when she was born i just new it was the best thing id ever done,
its not as bad as you think you soon adapt to motherhood ,i didnt get to go out with friends as much but that didnt bother me ,my mum and dad love her to bits which at the time you never think they will,
i love been a young mum im 30 in afew weeks ,
at the minute i am also thinking of having another child with my partner ,whats ment to be will be ,you do what you think is best and not what others want ,it seems silly but i would still dred telling my mum an dad if i got pregnant again ,
think i need grow a pair and listen to my own advice ha ,well i lost alot of weight after she was born ,but like after a year or two the weight just kept going up and up,never got strech marks while pregnant ,but got them after with the weight gain my own fault 🙁 ,i hate my body so much and cant wait get my boobs done iv waited so long but looks like i may be waiting even longer if we go ahead ,
good luck huni with whatever you decide ,xxx

I think Id adapt as my own mom was an alcoholic and always chose men over us and I had to basically bring up my brother and sisters, there’s five of us in total and I’m the eldest, the next eldest sister lives with me but the other three are in foster care, it breaks my heart, I know I would always put my child first, all u girls on here sound like great moms, I think I’m gonna go for it 😀 xx

by the sounds of it you seem ready hun and you have been through alot and come out the other side ,i think you would make a great mum 🙂 ,try not to think about if’s and buts everything will work out ,if your confident about your relationship go for it i cant wait to hear what you finally decide .xx

Thanks hun, think i’m going to go for it…just feel scared now lol xx

I found out I was pregnant last November and finding that out was awful for me! I really didn’t want my life to change but I couldn’t go through with an abortion.
After I had my little girl I realised she was the best thing that ever happened to me! So many people will say the same but they will be your world and you won’t be happier!
My boyfriend is 2 years older than me but was quite immature but he’s really stepped up to the mark and stuck by me 🙂 As long as you have support you will be fine.
It’s funny coming from someone who didn’t want kids but it’s the best thing in the world 😀 xx

Aww Hun that’s lovely, I’ve had a proper chat with my fella and we’ve decided we are gonna try for one 🙂 was u on the pill or anything? I’m hoping to get caught straight away, my period is next week and then it’s 10 days after the first day of my period is ovulation i think, I have an ovulation app on my phone and everything lol he said he can’t wait and neither can I, so hopefully ill get pregnant straight away xx

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