Boyfriend problems….

I have read loads of stories on here about boyfriends who dont want their gf’s to get their boobs done and then once they are done they love them! Well I’m the opposite!!.,….

My partner was so wonderful and supportive throughout the whole thing, he just told me to do what makes me happy 🙂 I’m now 8 weeks post op and unlike girls who have BA’s i had an uplift which means my scarring takes longer to heal and everything is a little slower to heal. If you look at my photos I havent gone massive as I wanted to still look natural and I think I have acheived this, however last night when speaking to my partner it all came out that he finds it really weird I have something fake inside of me and that he doesnt know if he likes them etc… this really hurt me as I’m sooooooo happy with them. He hasnt actually seem them since coming with me to get my strapping off as I have wanted to wait until they were healed before taking my bra off during sex so he still has an image of really high, bruised breasts in his mind but has said it is going to take time for him to adjust to me having them….:(
I never thought I’d be in this position, I thought he would love them and I’m upset now. He is my fiance so I plan to be with him forever and now I worry how this will affect me thinking he doesnt like them… he has stated it doesnt affect how he feels for me and still finds me attractive but just finds it weird and doesnt like the fact I have something fake inside of me…

Anyone else had to deal with anything like this or have any advise? xxxxx

Men! that’s all I can say. They have always got to have something to moan about and can be so insensitive.

You are you no matter what so I am sure he understands that, hes probs just having a little wobble.

Tell me about it Laura! Just hard because I know he will get use to it and its not going to change our relationship but I want him to love them as much as I do!!!
Also, he doesnt know when he can touch/squeeze.caress them as he doesnt want to cause pain for me…. do any girls have experience of this with partners? I dont want him to hurt me lol!!!!
xxx

I haven’t had mine done yet I have mine on the 22nd may… my partner hasn’t been very supportive at all but he says he wants me to be happy ( he thinks when I have mine done I will attract other men)… but I am worried about when I have had them done and he doesn’t like them at all… I have to look after oru 7 month old soon after the opp as he wont take anytime off work so I am worried about that to xxx

It’s so difficult with partners! My partner hasnt even mentioned about it attracting other people and I think thats because I also had breasts and because it was an uplift and small implant they’ve only gone up 2 sizes, I think its more the fact he feels alien to them!
I’m hoping that eventually he will get use to them x

Ah bless ya x after all you have beem through this os really not what you need x big hug x I had mine does and had them taken out due to rippling but thinking about getting them done again x I have told my husband if I get them done he will never ever touch them as I would not want to take the chance of them rippling again x im sure he thinks im joking lolwhich im really not lol x

My situation is a little like yours. The guy i was kind of seeing was super supportive and stuff but then when he saw them after i had my strapping off said he was so surprised at how they looked. He was expecting something completely different and alien and they just look and feel (ish, they will get better) Nautrel. I was like great, so u lied about being fine and actually thought they wd be weird haha but i really do think he will be surprised with the results and come around to your thinking when ur healing a little more. I had an uplift and implants too! x

I think its similair to having a baby,the women goes through all the emotion and is preparing every single day and the father is excited and happy/supportive but the men go into shock afterwards because it hits them differently, maybe he just needs time to get familiar and to go through this emotion he has. You sound a great couple as hes supported you and your engaged! Im sure he will come round take baby steps and dont feel self concious. Im sure you both will get through this! Wish you all the luck! smile and be happy xx

My partner was really supportive and was with me all the way through. I’m 4 weeks po now and I can tell he doesnt like them. He hasn’t said as much but we’ve been together 12 yrs I know him inside out! He’s jus not bothered by them our sex life has got worse not better! I’m really worried bout my rippling at the minute – I haven’t told him so don’t know if Im giving off certain vibes – god knows! Starting to regret the whole thing x it sounds as though ur fiancé maybe jus scared to touch them incase he hurts u x big hugs hun, hope u work it out xxx

My other half has been great but I’m only 3 weeks po and I had a uplift too…. I couldn’t show him in person to start with so I sent a pic so I couldn’t see his reaction!!! I have encouraged him to put his hands on over my bra just so he doesn’t get freaked out and he is very worried about touching just in case, only once I had to slap his hands as he was a little firm lol.
I’m worried about how long I’m going to have the scabs and only at the weekend have I had any discharge from the incisions. ….nlt pleased with that. Try and make him part of it as he is most likely feeling left out x

Hey, my bf didn’t want me to have mine done but did give me as much support as he could, I had the whole dont like fake boobs etc. he refused flatly to look at them before they were settled a little and at about 4 weeks saw them for first time. He felt them and said they felt hard but didn’t elaborate, in he’s defensive they were still very hard. He will still not look at my incision scar cos he said he don’t wna see them and every time he looks at them be drawn to it. Last night was the first time he touched them proper when we had sex and I took off my sports bra, I am 6 weeks now. They are still very firm, he seemed to like them haha but didn’t say anything. Mayb take your bra off and let him have a soft feel in the dark in he’s own time so he can’t see scars. He don’t have to squeeze them but just rubbing he’s hands over them but make him adjust to them and I’m sure he will like in the end x

Thanks so much everyone 🙂 I’m sure he will come around to it, it must be strange for him. I wouldnt worry about your sex life either Susan, our hasnt been great, partly down to me not wanting it because I was so tender and then he is scared he will hurt me lol!!! But we’ll get there. I just expected him to be more bothered but he isnt!

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