considering an op..

hello girls,

i’m new here (obviously). i’m 22. i am very unsatisified (i’d even go so far as to say completely unsatisfied) with my natural breasts, as they are lopsided/asymmetrical/one is bigger than the other etc etc etc. it really gets me down and has gotten me down ever since my body decided to grow the bloody things, well, the thing, seeing as my right boob is pretty much the same size it was when i was 16 (a whereas the left is either a C or a D. i have never gotten a bra fitted as i am SO ashamed of the way my breasts look. i even hate my boyfriend looking at them, i prefer for us to have sex in the dark as i just feel so horrible looking down and seeing my wonky boobs.. i feel so ugly and un-feminine.

i have been wanting a boob job since i really began to feel bad about this problem, so probably since the age of 18. from 16-18 i was just hoping they would even out as i got older but no dice, all that seems to happen is my left boob grows and grows and the other one stays the same!

i have been reading messages all morning on here and have noticed that most of you are small girls, both in height and in frame, but i am a short (5’4″) and fat (size 18) girl with a boob size (i think) of 38C. well, that’s the bra i’ve been wearing, even if i don’t fill out the cup on the right side and almost spill out of the other side!!

so is a breast enlargement the right kind of surgery for me? or should i reduce the size of my big boob? also as i’m quite overweight, i need to lose about 5 stone apparently, i will have to do that first before the op, won’t i? all i know is i’m just so sick of looking the way that i do, i hate myself and i have zero confidence.. doesn’t help that i was bullied severely all my life, at home and at school and at work.

MYA rang me after my enquiry email and i’ve booked a consultation in birmingham for october 17th… i’m so so so nervous. is there anyone on here with a similar story to me that could put me at ease?

not even mentioned the fact my boyfriend point blank said he does NOT want me to get an operation on my boobs as he thinks they’re fine already but i am so down about my appearance our sex life has gone down the pan.. i would love to wear sexy underwear (not gel padded bras!!) and just… feel sexy! lol.

thanks in advance, i look forward to reading your replies (if any)… and i’m sorry for rambling! xxx

Aw chick got a lump in me throat readin that well while ur payin 4 ur boobs u could loose ur weight im sure lookin forward to the op will give u the push to diet an exersize wow u have got so much to look forward to . The surgeon will give you perfect even breast an soon u will be strutin ur stuff in tiny lil revealin tops . just reasure ur fella u luv him an tell him ur doing this with or without his support he will come round eventually
least you will have your boobs an be confident
Good luck

arr same here about the lump un my throat! I can say i understand how you feel about having uneven sized boobs, one of mine is a whole cup size bigger than the other, i understand about not wanting to get them out with your boyfriend cos i am the same, hate my boobs and feel sad about it at times. Get upset most times i’m gettin ready to go out.

I agree with clare, maybe the best way forward for you is to try and pay some of your op off while trying to loose weight at the same time…i used to be on weight watchers, lost 2 and a half stone on it so i know its a good one if thats helps? Then once you feel a bit more confident about your weight book your ba…def seems worth it…

I’m having mine next wed, am so nervous, scared, anxious, excited, such mixed emotions, but hopefully it weill make me feel such a different person in myself.

Its all a confidence thing isnt it, and thats what you need to explain to your boyfriend, reassure him, as clare said, that you love him, and alothough he is happy with you as you are, your not, and you want to feel more confident about yourslf, with him, in and out of the bedroom…my boyfriend loves me the way i am and didnt really want me to get them done, but his been so supportive, his actually quite excited about it all now, bless him he wont be when his doin all the housework for the nxt 2 weeks!! haha x x x

thank you, clare… took me a good 20 mins or so to really let what you said sink in, and for the tears to stop, haha.

i really do need to make a change to myself to start feeling better about who i am, it’s only going to get worse if i just sit here and complain about looking terrible and feeling down cos i look terrible.

now i just need a kick up the bum to confront my boyfriend about this again, usually he just gets really angry with me but he must know i’m so unhappy with how i look and that i need support rather than opposition..

thanks again. xxx

well, i had stopped crying till i saw sara’s comment! lol.

thanks sara. you really do understand how i feel. every time i get undressed i want to cry, i just hate looking at myself. plus i have ugly scars from an op i had last year when i got my gallbladder taken out. bah! :p

i do hope this becomes the right choice for me. i am still really nervous but looking forward to my consultation, hoping they will put me at ease and reassure me there are loads of other girls who’ve been in my place. i also don’t want fake-looking breasts, i think that’s my boyfriend’s biggest worry, that they will be like beach balls! i only really want an even cup size, perhaps just a perkier, healthier looking set of boobs, i don’t want to be jordan! hahaha.

i think my hopes for this are realistic, though. i know it won’t be a miracle but if they ended up the same size and looked good in a bra and out of a bra (to me) then i would be MEGA happy.

xxx

Right girls just spoke to my sister who runs a gp surgery and for the uneven breast an weight she suggest you go see your gp you could be entitled to free gym membership and get this a boob op as it sounds like it is affecting your mental health ie not wanting to see your own body crying about it ect . So put it on a bit when you go an dont expect them to say yea the first time you ask
. Good luck x x x

I was going to suggest trying your GP there was a lady on embarrasing Bodys that had a massive difference in her boobies the one was a E and other a C and Dr Kristian (Phwar!) sent her for the op i would try the GP first they might give u the op free as Claire said.

Good luck hun hope u feel better my boobies are horrible after my kids now and one is bigger because My girls prefered to feed of my right! gerrrrr!

Let us all know how u get on hun the girls on here are really supportive and if u have any questions there is normally someone online to help.

Carly x x

wow, clare, really??? god, that sounds pretty great. i’m seeing my doctor next friday. however, i think i tried to ask for the free gym membership before, and the doctor i saw at the time told me it would be of no use to me as i am not an old granny wanting to do water aerobics. he also said i need to be over 16 (i’m 22???) and i need to have a medical condition to qualify (i have clinical depression and anxiety??)… i have put in a complaint about that doctor though. i had to see him as my proper doctor was on his hols. very upset with the way he treated me. i am always very anxious (hence the diagnosis) and it took me a lot of courage to ask him if i might have PCOS (poly-cystic ovary syndrome) due to other factors in my health and he told me i was too fat for them to scan my abdomen so they would have to scan me through the vagina, thus scaring me even more.

well, that was nice to have a whinge. very sorry, lol, but i’m not done yet… :S

i will definitely ask my gp what my options are. i texted my friend today to tell her i had a consultation booked with MYA and what does she do? tell my boyfriend. i was planning to talk to him tonight but that ain’t gonna happen now…. he rang me very angry and pissed off and told me to stop being so stupid, and now i feel absolutely terrible. i asked him to support me in my wishes to feel more beautiful/feel better about myself but he just kept saying “i don’t know what to say” until he eventually hung up.

gah, men.

and hey, thanks carly, everyone on here does seem really nice. thank you again for the support/advice everyone. xxx

Men are the worst they come around in the End and the Love the results (and the loving! lol) mine is 60/40 he is terrible about money! so i’m taking him with me to the consultation so he can hear and see what happens etc realise its the surgeons job and they do it everyday!

Maybe he’ll come round when u go to your consultation good luck hunny x

Hey

i know how you feel about it, i just had mine done, well, 8 days ago to be precise . im not a doctor but i think breast enlargement is right for you. the procedure does not only make them look bigger but it corrects their shape. i had what is called tubular breasts, which means that your boobs are not round but a bit kind of pointy hehe im not sure how to describe it (google tubular breasts and you’ll know what i mean). im really happy with my boobs now, they look round, big and pretty

when you go see the surgeon he will tell you whats best for you. some people might need breast enlargement and an uplift to make them look more symmetrical, but take into account that even if you have surgery, they will not look 100% symmetrical! thats what my surgeon said, this is because thats the way the human body is, apparently one of your arms is a bit shorter than the other one…weird.

you mentioned you wanted to lose some weight, right? i think its adviseble to lose all the weight you want to lose first and then have the op. this is because obviously when you lose weight, you lose a bit or a lot of breast tissue. the amount of breast tissue you’ve got is very important as it helps the surgeon determine whats best for you in terms of the shape and size of the implant, if its going to be over or under the muscle, etc.

about your boyfriend…well…they are YOUR boobs (and his) but mainly yours hehe when i told my boyfriend i was having breast enlargement he was like, oh, no, you dont need it, i love you the way you are, blah blah blah but he was always very very supportive, in the end he just went, oh, there will be more of you to love! he loves them now! think about what you want and how happy you will be when your boobs (or twins ) look all pretty and you can buy beautiful underwear and wear nice tops and take them off for your bf!! maybe he doesnt want you to have the operation because he’s scared you’re gonna look too good and you find someone else!!! boys, you never know what going on in their head!

let me know how your appointment goes! i hope you feel better.

anyways, i hope this has helped a little x x

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