Family support.

So I’m planning on getting a BA in September, I have openly told my dad as he will obviously notice when it’s done. He doesn’t agree with it and he thinks I will regret it, he knows I’ve wanted it for years though.
Has anyone else had problems with family support? And how have you gone about it?
Nothing will stop me getting it done as I’m 100% sure about it but a little support from my close family would be nice.
Any advice please girls?
Thanks xx

Im having mine done on the 17th and not all family members are supportive, their opinion is old fashioned and instead of understanding its something I want to do for more confidence and to feel better in myself they choose to be ignorant.
My advice would be to ignore what anyone else has to say if you feel like this is something that will improve your life for the better than why worry!
Its your body do what you want with it!! 🙂
Im sure when your dad see’s how happy you are after he may be more understanding!
Good luck hun!!! xxx

I haven’t even told my family yet, they know it’s something I’m very insecure about but I’m not sure all members would agree so I Cba with hearing negative opinions! I’ll tell them a week before the op so they can’t talk me out of it & it will only be 7 days of moaning haha Xx

@klmartin94 I think I will have to take it on the chin and do what I want! Thanks hun, wouldn’t it be nice to have support though! I’ve got plenty of support on here though 🙂
Good luck for your op, I can imagine you’re so excited xxx

@sambritton I thought about doing that haha! But I’m far too excited to keep my mouth shut and wanted to see what they had to say. Hopefully they don’t moan too much at you! You’ll have great boobs though so it’ll be worth it xx

Haha! I agree a bit more support would be great!
Ahhh thanks hun! I really am hope the next few days fly by! xx

@klmartin94 they will! Who’s your surgeon? 🙂 xx

Hi @Amber I’m 30 tomorrow and had my BA on Monday, I had such a struggle on my hands when it came to my parents. As stupid as it sounds, yes I am an adult and I have 3 children myself but what my parents think means a lot and I hated the thought of them falling out with me or being off with me. I’ve wanted this since I was 17/18 and my dad has always been against the idea and shrugged it off. I went for an appointment on the 16th of Feb and the Saturday after I’d booked the op. I sat my mum and dad down and explained why I wanted it and how much it meant to me and what it would do to my confidence. There’s this misconception that comes with plastic surgery that people do it for attention and to get men to like them etc…. I have no doubt that some people do have procedures done for those reasons. But I also believe that 9/10 reasons is for their self confidence and making oneself feel better in their own skin. I said to my mum and dad that I was getting it done but I wanted them to be on board even if they didn’t fully agree I didn’t want it to ruin the relationship we had and I hoped that my mum could come to the consultation and pre op with me to see what happens and so that she could be part of it. I also said I hoped she could come to the op with me as I can’t imagine waking up with anyone else being there besides her. They were worried how I would pay for it etc and obviously the surgery part but it’s not major surgery and by coming to the appointments it would put her mind at ease. They were worried I’d regret it and it’s natural but I was determined to get it after waiting so long. The day of the surgery came and my dad hugged me tight and said I hope it makes you happy Lucy, my mum hugged me and said just be sure it’s what you really want. My mum drove me to Preston and was with me every step of the way, my dad sorted the children out at home and had food waiting for us both when we returned. I think they realised that when I didn’t go to a ridiculously large size and that I was just wanting to be in proportion that they took it more seriously and kinda came round to the idea. My mum has been helping me every day with my disabled son and 2 daughters and I couldn’t have done it without them. As parents it’s hard for them to see their child go through surgery and want to change themselves etc but at the same time if they can see how much it makes you happy and just feel like a normal person then I’m sure they will support you as mine have done.

Sorry for the essay, once I started I couldn’t stop haha xx

I homestly thought I’d never get it done out of fear of falling out with them but when I aired my feelings my dad simply said I would never fall out with you Lucy life is too short and it really is. Life is far too short for you to be unhappy with yourself xx good luck Hun xx

i told my mum as she’s like my best friend and i can tell her anything lol and my sister. but dreaded telling my dad. i literally told him as i was in the car on the way there. i just texted him I’m going into hospital for an operation today and he was like why? i literally didnt know how to word it so i just sent him a print screen of mya lol n he texted back saying he didn’t understand why but good luck with it all sort of thing (I’m not that that close to him) n my nan says she thinks i was fine the way i was but to be honest let them think what they like. I’m the one thats got to live with how i feel and i feel much better about myself now:)xx

@lucyhx4 your parents sound wonderful! I’m so glad they finally accepted it, it makes it easier for you as well now and doesn’t make it awkward 🙂 I hope your recovery is going well! And I hope you’re happy with how your new boobs are looking! I’ve explained to my dad why I want it but of course he thinks I’m fine the way I am. If only boobs didn’t mean so much to us women! Xx

@ellie2015 I’d have told my mum straight away, because women definitely understand better but unfortunately she isn’t here anymore. Did your mum go with you to your pre ops? Oh lol! Didn’t he go mad at you? I was going to do the same but thought best not ?. I can’t wait till I can finally feel happy and not have to limit myself on what I wear! I can imagine it’s a nice feeling xx

so sorry to hear that hun. my mum works so i just said il do the pre op appointments on my own and actually went for the op on my own as well lol. he said he wishes i told him sooner n was a bit offish with me for a bit but he’s over it now haha. I’m 6 weeks tomorrow so can finally wear all my clothes properly as i had the breast band for 4 weeks and then even in sports bras i couldn’t wear what i would like so thats going to be so good! have you been for your consultation and everything yet? sorry prob have read your posts before but can’t keep up lol xx

@ellie2015 aw thanks sweety :). How did you find going on your own? I think for my pre ops I’ll be going on my own, take in more information that way haha! At least you and your dad are all good now, I can see why dad’s don’t agree with it tbh but I wish they wouldn’t think it’s to benefit the boys lol. I hope I don’t have to have the breast band, it sounds so annoying! How have you found it?
I’ve been for my consultation, I’m now just saving for my mya finance deposit and I’m booking my surgery date in may xx

I haven’t even told my dad yet because I know he’ll think its stupid or something, but went I get them done he’ll complain about the cost and everything but there’s nothing he can do. But dad’s are a bit extreme when it comes to “girly stuff” like make-up, extensions and certain clothing but if its you then its just something he’ll have to except. When I first told my mum she didn’t think I should do it but when I explained to her that I wasn’t confident with my body and its something I’m extremely unhappy with she adjusted a little and began to be more understanding and supportive. Just takes a bit of time really, because I’m sure when you need help and all after your operation your dad will help loads 🙂 xx

@shameelac I think once we’ve had our boobs done reality will hit them and they’ll come to the realisation that we’ve gone through with it. Tbh I think I’d be worried if my dad was all for me getting it, but I don’t like the reasons to why he thinks I’m getting it lol xx

Yeah definitely! Yeah same here, my dad thinks the whole purpose of me getting my boobs enhanced is probably to flaunt them unnecessarily or probably go into an erotic industry lol. But hey ho dads aye lol 😉 xx

@shameelac typical dad! Haha xx

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