Feel like pulling out!!

Hey girls, I need some advice. 2years ago my half brother got diagnosed with bowel cancer, he had chemo and he is now Cancer free, my other half brother had the test done too two years ago which came back clear but in the last few weeks he’s now also showing similar symptoms 🙁 tonight I’ve had my mum crying to me worried about him. Their dad had bowel cancer aged 55 and died from it so it runs in the family. There is also I number of things it could be but you just never know! I haven’t told my mum about my BA bcos I know she will talk me out of it etc now this has happened I can’t help but worry in case I have trouble with my surgery or recovery and I put more stress on her. I’m booked for 21st December and I’ve paid my full balance. What do I do?

Really sorry to hear about your brothers hun. I can understand how you are worrying about your family and the dilemma of whether to go ahead with your op since you already paid all your fees. Saw your posts and you were so excited and looking forward for your BA.
But if you think next month is still not a good time for you to proceed the op, why not try to have a word with your PC to maybe put your BA on hold until everything else has calm down a bit? Whatever your decision, I wish you best of luck! Take care! x x

So sorry to here this Jessica. Sometime the best thing to do is just be honest. I was tough with my mum trying to support me through all this bit when we sat down and spoke about it it felt like such a weight off of my shoulders. Just be honest with her and then you won’t feel so bad about going through it all on your own. As for recovery you will be fine. You have to be positive to attract positive vibes and hopefully this will help you have a better recovery. Hope this helps xxxx

I can’t put more stress or worry in her by telling her. This is an amazing opportunity I’ve backed out before and I couldn’t have picked a better date as I get the whole of Christmas off. On a good note my friend is now coming with me so i won’t be on my own. I live with my boyfriend so im sorted for being looked after. Unfortunately I cannot talk to my mum no matter how much I want to she will not understand. I’ve mentioned it before when I was looking a year and a half ago and she talked me out of it was we didn’t speak for weeks. Got my pre op next week, il speak to my PC then 🙁 xx

I think just have a think about it but don’t pull out unless your 100% sure you don’t want to go ahead. Maybe when things calm down you can tell her…You may be surprised how she will take it when I spoke to my mum she urged me to do it as she knows life is short to be unhappy , if it something that is bothering that much and you can change it then you should go for it! she currently has 2 illnesses one in which she’s supported by a dialysis machine to live for the rest of her life (1 in 10000 chance of finding a kidney) she lives with so many regrets now as it’s so restricting xxx hope it works out for you

Oh honey 🙁 must be horrible, as bad as this sounds but you shouldn’t make a decision unless you’re 100% sure this is your body & something you’ve wanted for a long time xxxx

Thanks for the comments girls, Ive slept on it and there’s no way I can not have my books done, I’ve come this far and wanted this for ages, no turning back. I’m not going to tell my mum until after atleast, maybe when I’m recovered. I can’t ask her to worry about me either. I’ve got my bf and friends they can be the ones to deal with me moaning 🙂 haha xx

@jessc92 Hey hun, only saw your post now as haven’t been here for a few days. So sorry to hear about your brothers. I do think that you’ve made the right decision though as think you want it so much and would regret if you didn’t go through with it. Keep your chin up! Not long left until the new boobs! xxx

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