Feel really sad

I’ve always wanted my boobs doing and got them for myself and only myself, but I did discuss it with my boyfriend before hand and he made a stupid comment like “as long as you don’t get a new boyfriend with your new boobs and leave me then I’m happy I’m you’re happy.” That was that, this was after I’d paid the full amount for surgery anyway so whatever he said would of been irrelevant really. We went bra shopping together and talked about how exciting my new boobs were going to be for weeks before surgery, and I was really pleased he was being supportive about it. The first time he saw them he was saying they were so sexy bla bla typical man stuff, then last night he was watching me changing my bra and said out loud “no I definitely prefer real boobs, I must just be a real boob man.” I was gobsmacked, I didn’t say anything but actually had to holdback my tears which sounds so petty crying because someone doesn’t like my boobs, but it felt like he had just slapped me across the face. The worst thing is I don’t even think he realised he said it out loud, I think he was thinking it and said it by accident. I’ve posted this because I’m just wondering if anyone else has had anything similar happen? I’m really upset about it xxx

Oh hun I’m so sorry to hear that.
It sounds for me like he’s worried that you gonna be so much more confident and that more guys start fancy you. He’s just worried you gonna leave him I think ..
Guys can be such dicks. .

Big hug x

It wouldn’t of even bothered me if he’d said from the start I don’t like fake boobs instead of waiting until I got them so he could hurt my feelings. I can’t wait to tell him tomorrow people on the Internet think he’s a dick :’) haha thanks for cheering me up a bit!
Xxx

Aww and don’t even worry, men don’t care if u tits, hair, nails or arse are fake as long as it looks good, it the same person u was before u just have a new confidence boost. He’s a man and men are very protective and jealous and weak (which they don’t like to admit lol) he’s obviously seen u and thought wow my gf is smoking hot she’s gonna get to much attention so let me be a arse and bring her confidence back a bit so he feels better. Go out on the weekend make sure u look extra good and be proud of ur boobies 🙂

Hey Hun, men have no tact and half the time their brains are in their arse!!! He is male and he will love your boobs, if he doesn’t he is telling porkies!!! It’s their make up, they can’t help it… I know it would have hurt to hear it but they really don’t think, verbal diahorrea!! You enjoy your boobs Hun, they are for you… Whenever your feeling a bit crap, look at them and say ” yeah baby I have a nice set of tits!!! ” big hugs Hun xxxxx

How old is your boyfriend? Because for me is just a boy not a man I’m sorry Hun. My fiancé support me from the beginning. He told me he love my natural Brest but if I will feel better with bigger that’s my decision 🙂 and now he has two new friend just can’t see them yet or touch haha. I think you should talk with your partner and tell him what you feel be honest. That was your dream and if he doesn’t like it is his problem Hun not yours!!!!

Totally agree with misia on this one … You did this for you!

Hey Hun, the only thing that matters here is that you like them. If he doesn’t then that’s his problem. Stay strong! He should
Love you for you, no matter what x

Mine said unsupportive crap and Was worried I was going to leave him and hated the thought of foreign objects in people’s bodies.
After reassuring him and now I’m 8 weeks po…..he loves them!!! ? and after the grief I got….lol
It will be ok in the end Hun. ? xx

Thanks everyone, I didn’t know whether I was being silly. I’ll speak to him about it today and if he makes another hurtful comment he can get lost. Imagine me saying to him “no I definitely prefer bigger dicks” while he was getting changed, I feel abit like it was intentional to hurt me. I really appreciate all your messages you’ve made me feel a lot better xxxx

What an asshole thing to say!!! If my boyfriend said that I would be seriously upset. I mean, he’s your boyfriend…they are for his benefit too? Ugh so insensitive! Chin up though sweetie, I’m sure they look beautiful! Your boyfriend shouldn’t have said that, but men can come out with the stupidest things sometimes!

Personally, if I were you I’d say that his support is important and that comment upset you. Grrr men. Xx

Aww aslong as you are happy with your body thats all that matters ? chin up you get one life hun live it and be happy and of no one likes you or what you do then its there lose, if my partner had of said that I would have said piss off ? and if he went to touch them id say hey waiitttt thought you don’t like fake boobs men are dicks xx

I spoke to him about it and he said I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to upset you I love them I think they’re so sexy bla bla. It’s still playing on my mind now though why he would say it if he didn’t want to knock my confidence a bit. I’ll have to keep an eye on that or he’ll have to go. Thanks for all your comments xxx

Ergh men can be so shitty sometimes ?. Next time @ASHLEIGH (hopefully never) but bite back and say something like “It’s a shame you haven’t got a bigger dick!” ? I’m sure that’d knock his confidence down a peg or two ☺️ . xx

Ashleigh, your bigger dicks comment made me laugh so much. I hope you relayed that to him when describing how he had upset you. I hope he means what he says second time but don’t let him get you down. Your body your decision and he should support you regardless and be incredibly proud that you put yourself through something like this to make yourself feel better. I feel a thousand time happier with my new boobs and luckily my partner loves them too. Stay strong lady xxxx

Hey babe how many weeks or days post op are you? My boyfriend has been very supportive and after my surgery he said he loved them but didn’t like how shiny they were which I agreed and also how high up they were, how hard they were and the fact they looked like rockets. I totally agreed because they looked so fake. But now at three weeks this has gone down a lot and we both love them so much there soft lower and also not as pointy. He probably just meant the fake look give him and them time to settle. What he said was extreme but it’s obviously a big change for you both xxx

That’s very immature and cold, I would have cried

Hey lovely! Hope you’re feeling a bit better. You’re definitely not just being sensitive, it was such a twatish thing to say! I would be fuming! Don’t worry though, you’re only a few weeks post op aren’t you? They’ll start looking so much more natural and they’ll move more like real boobies. I hope you’ve had words with him, he needs to think before he opens his mouth!

I’m sure you look amazing! xx

I over react if my husband says anything that upsets me in the slightest bit! Yep.. I’m the type that packs my bags ready to leave at least once every 3 months lol! So if my husband made that comment I think this would have really badly affected me.. I already have low confidence and I am getting breast enlargement as a confidence boost I have always hated my boobs last time we had sex he said ‘oh since you getting a boob job you always play with your boobs now’ and I said I’m not I’m actually trying to hide them, he said why. I said well they are horrible to start with and one is bigger than the other (something which I have only just realised since my surgeon pointed it out!) he knows j have wanted boob job for 10 years (even before I met him) and he wouldn’t let me for years saying he thinks I am prefect how I am but I will never agree and always hate my chest. But past few months he has been warming to the idea and I keep googling the size I will be getting and showing him and he said he’s looks nice (although he said some look stuck on and fake) so I am kind of worried mine will look too fake for him and he won’t like them but at the end of the day it’s my decision and my choice if he really don’t like my new boobs then there’s nothing I can do about it he needs to accept me for who I am. I mean they can’t look much worse than what they are now (I am getting areola reduction as well) men can be very hurtful at times. But I take no shit from anyone if he keeps giving me grief about my new boobs then j would seriously have to consider asking him if he wants to stay married to me. But he said he is ‘keeping out of it’ but he wants to be there for me when I get the op and healing he said he will be worried sick about that xx

Boyfriends come and go but boobies are forever 🙂

Spoke to my boyfriend about it properly tonight (first time with seen each other in person since the other night) I told him some of the girls on here agreed with me and he replied “so all your internet friends think I’m a nob well all my mates think your a slag!” How charming, so we’ve just split up now, I’m sitting in my room in tears but at least I know he’ll never get to see my boobs when they’re all healed and fab xxxx

@ashleigh aw no that’s awful should respect you and your feelings Hun, try not to keep it on your mind! You got new boobies and bet they look amazing and he’ll soon realise how hurtful it is xx

Wow he sounds charming. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that sweetie, I really do feel for you! You are way better off without him by the sounds of it. What a piece of work, he’s right on one thing, we do think he’s a nob!

Well you’ll have amazing boobs and feel great when you’re all healed! You can go find yourself an amazing boyfriend who will treat you like a goddess, but your ex will never be able to find himself a new personality! Grrr… men like that make me so angry. Big hugs! xxxx

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