Feeling arrrgggghhhhhhhhh!!!!!

This is completely off topic but just wanted to see if u girls agree with me on this subject. I’m almost 39 weeks pregnant and my baby is due on the 2nd oct. My partners moms bday is at the end of October and they’ve planned a surprise weekend away for her cuz it’s her 50th. I don’t wanna go cuz my baby will only be at most three weeks old and tbh I don’t feel comfortable taking a newborn to a pontins, she won’t be in a routine and I’ll be knackered and still getting used to having a baby. I don’t feel like it’s the right environment for a newborn baby and I won’t enjoy myself knowing she’s gonna be just in her pushchair in a pub all day and night, I’ve told my partner I’m not goin but then his dad told me yday I’ve basically gotta go otherwise I’ll ruin his moms bday. Tbh her bday is not my concern, I’m still not goin..just sick of feeling pressurised all the time by his family..trying to take over already before the baby is even born!! Xx

Heyy! I don’t have kids but most families try to take over, keep explaining why you can’t go they should understand having children themself, you need to put your son/daughter first hun stand your ground if you really don’t want to go! What did your partner say about it? Xx

He obviously sides with them cuz he’s a massive mommas boy..I thought they would understand but cuz it’s a surprise I can’t even tell his mom about it and how I feel..do u think I’m being unreasonable? I don’t wanna be in a chalet with a two week old baby I’d rather be comfy in my own home rather than having to plonk her in her pushchair all day while we just sit in pubs xx

No your not bein unreasonable hun you’ll have a new born baby its not like you can enjoy yourself you’ll be to tired, && up every few hr’s when your baby needs you xx

See at least someone understands..why can’t they?? I think it’s rly selfish of his dad saying that to me, gonna tell him today I’m not goin xx

U r not being unreasonable at all, your being a good mother putting the needs of your baby first!
Sure there’s a possibility you good go 10 days over (hopefully not!) and end up with a section (hopefully hopefully not!) but it could happen and then your partner will have no choice but to stay with you and baby. You don’t need the stress right now.
For now smile sweetly and say “I’ll do my best but baby’s don’t always come when they r supposed to” (while rubbing your bump). Once baby comes, iIf anyone says any thing keep repeating “we will see, baby comes first”. Then you could one of two things 1) make your partner do the night feeds 3 nights in a row before the wkend away and when he is knackered suggest he has a weekend away with his family to “wet the baby’s head” so to speak and you’ll stay with baby at home so he can have a proper rest. Or 2) when your community midwife comes to visit u at home after baby is born, tell hr about the pressure, your concern that its not right for baby, maybe even a few tears (this wont b hard as you’ll b a hormonal mess) and she will defo b on the same page as you, as in the baby and you should b at home and get her to voice this opinion in front of your partner and then all your doing is following the NHS recommended advice!! (As a mum of three I have had plenty of practise in this area!!!)

Oh and if you get away with it, arrange for flowers to be delivered to the birthday girl before she leaves or at the weekend away with a lovely note about how your so sorry etc and then that’s the best you could possibility do!

Try talking to him again tell him how you feel, you can’t have a new born around all those drunks ect…xx

Thanks girls uve made me feel better and like I’m being normal lol they all love a drink and yeah sure I understand that his mom would be disappointed me n the baby weren’t there but surely she can understand, funny thing is tho I don’t think she does and that’s what rly frustrates me xx

your more then welcome! 🙂 try not to get stressed and worry hun that wont do you any good, try leaving it for now and talk to your partner about it again in a few days xx

Spoke to him about it and it ended in a massive row, he said he doesn’t understand why I feel like that etc now he’s made me feel like I’m the one in the wrong xx

your not hun, try in a couple of weeks, dont stress yourself out xx

Try not to stress, you already feel connected and protective for the baby, for men it takes actually seeing and holding a baby for the protectiveness to kick in. Try and leave it for now and see how he feels after the birth. Good luck with it all, rest rest rest now, you need all your energy and strength for labour. Xx

iya hun i went to butlins wen my little boy was 3months and it was a nitemare he was always cold, totally buggerd up his routine, and i was so tired i vowed i wud never go again and i avnt stand your ground it not fair on you i belive it takes at least 6weeks for you to recover,im sure your mother inlaw will understand wen your not there, men dont relise how tuff it is for us laddies xx

I’ve had to compromise and I’ve agreed to go down for a night so that pleases everyone, they can’t moan at me then can they xx

awww bless you! make sure you get some rest xx

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