Feeling Guilty After BA

Hi ladies,

I really just need to get this off my chest so to speak!
I had my ba in January this year after saving really hard and after years of plucking up the courage.
The year before my sister announced her wedding abroad plans. My heart sank as i was very low about my lack of boob at the time after having baby number 2. I knew as a family of four and the wedding destination we could not do both. I had my savings finally and chose surgery for my own personal issues althougth i did know another few thousand would have got us to the wedding for 2 weeks as a family.
My sister booked the wedding yesterday and i can’t help feeling bad that i spent over 4k on myself and we won’t be going as a family and we will miss such a special occasion.
As a family we need a bigger home now and i guess we have other priorities. Who can afford a 6.5k holiday just like that. Also i wouldn’t of been comfortable going away with people i don’t know, that are possibly going with my body and issues that i had before the operation.
Thanks ladies and sorry to go on i just needed to get this out in the open and just hope i don’t live to regret my decision.

xx

Bump.
Was closing my account but decided not to ladies. Sorry if you were my friend before. Just hit a low really.
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Hope your ok hun 🙂 You really don’t need to feel guilty!! Having your boobs done is such a big thing it changes lives!! A wedding is a big day but to have it abroad she must be aware that people can’t afford all the money! 🙂 x

Ah thanks. Glad somebody replied. I have been beating myself up for so long over this. I think it hit me once it was booked. It’s hard as were a close family and my children were to be bridesmaids. However like you say it’s a lot to pay on a holiday too. A lot of the family can’t afford to go either.
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It is a shame but a wedding is one day! Your boobs will last a lot longer lol! That’s the reason I would never get married abroad it puts so much pressure on the family members! x

I do agree with that. I got married abroad 7 years ago but neither of us had children and things were just so different. All the family went as grandparents were only late sixties then. Time changes lots of things. Just have to look forward to the reception back home now.
Thanks Chloe xx

Wow? 6.5k to be a wedding guest? That’s a huge expense? Surely she knows ppl sent going to be able to afford that? Even with a years notice? As selfish as it sounds I think you made the right decision? I put off my BA for over 10 years as i couldn’t justify it? Sometimes you just need to do something for yourself??? x

I know RachelH. It is around £1300 each x 4 plus passports, travel to from airport, general holiday bits, kennels for my dog. All adds up. Could possibly do it for 5.5k but it’s still a lot. Putting our house up for sale too so it’s all come at the wrong time for us.
Me too i wanted my ba for around 10 years and so far apart from my other major events in life it’s the best thing i’ve ever done. I am affraid i had to be selfish and think of me for once. I am a natural worryer so all this is driving me insane,
Thanks xx

hi hun, i agree with @RachelH us girls always put our kids/family first and once in a while u have to do something for yourself
i know its a bit different but i haven’t been able to take the kids on holiday this year because i was saving all last year for my boobs but my hols booked for next year,i did feel a bit guilty when they were asking are we going on hol this year, but i didnt wake up one morning and think im going to get my boobs done it took me years…maybe when your sister has been married and she gets back u could maybe have a girlie night out together .xx

Thanks xlaura1987x,
She is having a reception back home too and my children are still wearing little dresses so at least i have that. It’s just been so hard. My parents would love us all to go as a family but we have other priorities.
I just hope she doesn’t think i am horrible choosing having my boobs done over her wedding day.
I was so low before about my boobs so wouldn’t have wanted to go if i hadn’t of had them done really!
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Some one once said to me when u have something about ur body u dont like when ever u look in the mirror tats all u c… And its right…
U saved up for ur boobs and and like most people it will of been hard getting it all together , if u would of then spent it to go to the wedding it would of probably made u think y bother im never going to get them done now
I know it sounds harsh but the weddings not ur special day i know ur family would of liked it if you would of been there but how u should look at it is what if i dint have money put away for my boobs … Would u of been able to afford it any way.. When i was saving up for mine i seen it as that moneys spoken for so i dint have it to spend
Dont beat ur self up about it hun u needed to do it for u n thats that xx

Anyway, how’s the boobies??? He he x

Ha ha,
really good thank you. 16 weeks post op on Friday. I honestly don’t know where the time has gone. went from un measured 32b to a measured 32f in most stores. so i am really happy. Only look a dd though.
How are you going on? Are you pre or post op?
X x

sometime you need to do it for yourself hun after that 2 week wedding you would still be body conscious and not liking your boobies.there will be other family holiday and times, I really wouldn’t let it get to you to much. Plus its pretty selfish for somebody to think you can afforded nearly 7k on there wedding, you and your family are what is important and there mum/wife being happy with herself for a lot longer than 2 weeks would mean more to them 😀 x

I’m post, 3 weeks now, had 470cc from a flat 34b after having my daughter? I’m in DD sports bras at the mo xx

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