Feeling lonely and judged :( help

Hello.
So bassicly im having my op in a week and a half. Im 18. I finnally got the guts to tell my mum and she reacted so badly and said they will look unnatural and i will regret it and something may go wrong. I cant even bring myself to tell my dad right now- talk about my nan uncle etc. My family are very much “looks dont matter” and I feel like im being massively judged and i will never be able to be comfortable with my own body around them after the op as it will be noticable. Anyone had any experiences like this with family? Maybe its because its so fresh but im feeling super sad and lonely right now xx

Simply ignore them! Remember that this is for you and no one else! Your getting it to make you happy and your parents should understand that.
I’m having my op on the 19th of sept and my mom really hates me for it! She keeps telling me that I’m not going to wake up and everything is going to go wrong, whereas everyone else has been super supportive and reassuring that everything will be fine including my manager!
You have to remember that our parents come from a different generation where things like this is frowned upon but they shouldn’t make you feel shit about doing what will give you confidence and taking happiness out of something that means a lot to you!

Awww Milly don’t be sad babes, your not alone were all here to help you through it. If you know this is what you really want and your not having second thoughts then you go for it hun. Your Mum only cares about you and as a Mum myself with a teenage daughter I can honestly say id be saying the same thing too because I wouldn’t want her to go through surgery or anything to change her looks, even though I have, id still be protective over her and I suppose your Mum is being protective over you.
Have you tried explaining why you want it done? xxx

I think if you want to do it then go ahead! Enjoy everything, regret nothing……
I am 22 and had my boobs done in June. I am totally thrilled with my decision and can’t even imagine how small I was now. Back in the day, I used to not wear certain clothes, no swimwear and wish everyday I was a decent size. this is all in the past now. you have soooo much to look forward to. Yes I can see that looks aren’t who you are entirely but if you have more confidence and happiness then what’s to lose? I’m glad I took this time in my life to have the surgery and not wait any longer. As for other people…. It’s your life and do what you want 🙂

Firstly, you’ll be fine. Of course there are risks as with any surgery but you are more likely to be in a car crash on the way to the hospital than you are to experience problems during surgery. I know this because I had a mad panic so did lots of research.
Secondly, they may not notice at all. I had my BA 3 and a half weeks ago and the ppl I didn’t tell (by choice) my mother in law, father in law and sister in law have not even noticed. They live across the road and we went on holiday together 9 days after surgery and nobody said a thing. I think mine look very natural so if that’s the look you want and you’ve chosen your implants based on that then that is what you’ll get.
Do what’s right for you. Once it’s done I’m sure your mum will realise it’s not as she is imagining. She’ll be thinking Pamela Anderson and Jordan as that’s what the media says a boob job looks like. I’m sure she’ll be happier for you once it’s over.
BTW my dad begged me not to do it. He even threatened to let my surgeons tyres down on the day of the op. Im 33 with 3 kids lol. Now he’s ok with it as he can see I don’t look stupid.

Good Luck xxx

I’m 54 and was going to have a BA in October,but another medical problem has risen.Do what is right for you.Don’t think of anyone else.You would have to live your life unhappy with the way you look.I had a TT 14 years ago.Boosted my confidence so much.xxx

Oh my god thanks so much for your words, honestly you have no idea how much better that made me feel. Yes i need to remain positive as this is going to be amazing i hope lol. Yes im going to try and keep it from my dad and if he brings it up i’ll have to deal with it then. Im sure she will come around and exactly im only going to a D not a bloody J cup lol. Thanks again for your comments and if anyone else has any experiences feel free to share xx Op in a week i’ll let u know how i get on xx

@yvonne I tried to yes but the conversation was very brief and noone has brought it up since and it feels very tense so I may just bite the bullet and try again x

I feel the exact same! I’m 17 and have enough money saved from working to book my BA next year when I’m finally 18. I’m really worried as to how I’m going to tell my parents as they are fairly traditional and I fear they wouldn’t understand. But what I try and think is this is my money and it’s one of the only things that will make me happy. I just hope they’re supportive and if they’re not, they just have to accept this is what I want to do. Good luck with everything X

What day is your op Hun and where?? X

Im 18, fresh out of sixth form and im 6 weeks post op!! Telling my family was really hard especially grandparents and yeah my dad would often tell me im making the biggest mistake and he litterely to my face ‘wasnt supporting me mutating my body!’ However… you havvve to do what is right for you, its your body, your life and you only live it once ! Some people may feel uncomftable but i just really tried to explain how insecure i did feel with my small boobs!! Try talk your mom into helping as first week you will need someone to help you do basic stuff and it can be emotinal.

With wider family like anuties i actually told them after i had it so they couldnt say anything ! Keep your head high and make the decision thats best for you! Xx hope this helps xx

@steph , hi, 5th so tuesday at fitzroy xx

@ella, ah thats good to hear, yeah same age as me. We are old enough to know but my family still see me as a baby. I have told my mum and sis and thats gonna be all, if anyone else asks i will be honest but i cant bring myself to tell everyone. Im glad your happy with the outcome x

@sally yeah i litterally had my first consultation 3 days after my 18th ahhah. I went to the surgeon meeting and then went ahead and paid without telling my mum. This is obvs more of a shock when you tell them, however atleast that way its set in stone and they cant influence your desicion in anyway! I am always hear to talk as i know exactly how u feel. Op on tuesday, cant wait to just get it over with so that i cant readjust my life back to normal and be better off for it! xx

Yes Yvonne completely agree with the whole you wouldn’t want your daughter dong it and I’d be sane, with my daughter….you want to protect them even though we’ve had it done ourselves!!! I don’t think I’d like my daughter doing it … I don’t know how I’d feel lol never thought about it … but can totally understand milly , being there myself cx

I have only told my mum, boyfriend and 6 close friends! Nobody else has even noticed as I look the same when covered up. I’ve been lucky that everyone I’ve spoken to about it have been supportive. The only reason I haven’t made it common knowledge is that it is nobody’s business but mine and didn’t want people gossiping about it! You’ve got to do what’s right for you.. others might have a bitch and a moan but at the end of the day it doesn’t affect them or any part of their lives so go with your gut and do whats right for you xx

Darling.. You will be fine!
You breast will look amazing & boast yr self confidence!
Don’t let other people put you off.. it’s your body!
You have one life , do what makes you happy!
I know exactly how you feel but it’s not stopping me!

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