Has anyone got young children and how have you managed after op?

I only ask as I have a 8month old being my youngest and I am just wondering if anyone else has a child near that age and how you coped?? as they say you cant lift heavy things for a while and struggle to sleep. I have my partner who can help but my son is a proper mummy’s boy and I am the only person who can get him to sleep. xxxx (which involves rocking lol)

Hey sweetie I had. A two year son at the time of my uplift / implants its one them being a mummy you learn how to deal with it xx

Hi
I have a 11 month old and a 2 year old I had my op 9 days ago and yday and today have been lifting my little one about, yday was a bit sore by end of the day but Today is fine, it’s not the lifting that’s hurting its the wiggle headbutt to my boob that hurts! My youngest is walking well and My partner had the rest of the week off (bank hol so and extra too!) and my MIL is staying to help out too. I couldn’t have looked after my little one with in/out cot etc for the first few days and didn’t even try! I’ve had a really good recovery and pain hasn’t been bad but, my muscles had been cut and stitched so as you can imagine lifting and pushing is hard and may cause damage if you do it too early.
My two year old has been easy just say mummy sore and he can do everything himself anyway!
I couldn’t have my little one leaning on my or anything let alone rocking so you will need someone else to look after your little one, I found staying out the way during the times that I normally did (like put to bed) that they were good as gold for whoever was looking after them as I wasn’t there to want!! I had a nice little break sitting in bed and lots of moments of guilt as I felt I had been selfish as couldn’t do my mummy best but if you look after yourself right you will heal quick! Xx

Thankyou. I am going to feel guilty and selfish as well but I’ve wanted it done for so long so don’t want to wait any longer. It will be the first few days that will be the hardest but I am sure ill get threw them. Glad to hear your recovery hasn’t been to painful XXX

@sarah I’m so glad u wrote that about mummy guilt iv felt the same but have also found staying up in bed the best option cause soon as they see me they play up. I am 6 days po and I have a 19 month old and 6 year old. My six year old has been fine but my little boy is bit harder to handle as he is heavy and like you said it’s the head butts to the breast and wiggling round that hurts so I’m nervous to hold him to long. Also felt very guilty laying in bed and staying away while they ran riot for my mum but it’s only for couple weeks and best to heal right than risk tearing something and taking longer to heal. @lindsey you’ll be fine as long as U have some good support around u for first few days at least cause it is hard picking them up straight away. Hope all goes well for u Hun. And just show your babies the bandages my little one seems to be little more aware to be gentle round me when I show him my strapping he kind of understands he has to calm down abit . Xxx

The guilt does get you but I rested well, took my painkillers, have actually slept ok (I am used to sleeping where I can as I am a shift worker lol) and have eaten really healthy, lots of protein and a protein shake everyday. Today I feel absolutely fine and have even pushed the Hoover around. I’m still trying to let everyone do things when they are around so as not to push my luck (I haven’t tried driving or putting the little one in/out car yet) definately let your body recover well so you can get back in full mummy mode asap! good luck!!

thankyou girls xxx

I am so glad so many have responded to this post, I have my consultant appt tomorrow and I am lookin at an op in December when my TWINS (!) will be 9 months old, I feel so guilty and selfish to be thinking about doing this for myself now they are hear even though it is something I have wanted for years. I too was worried about recovery and have spoken toany friends who have had their boobs done to see what their recovery experiences were like, I’ve doubted whether it’s the right time to get them done or whether I should wait until they are older but it seems from reading the above posts that sooner rather than toddler may be best! My babies were premature too so will only be at the developmental stage of a 6 month old by the time I have them done and my husband will b taking 2 weeks out of work to do help with everything. I just hope this is enough time xxx

I have found some people to be quite judgemental already and some friends think I am stupid to consider this when my babies are so young and that I’m selfish as I’ll be in pain for their 1st Xmas! X

@melissa1985 twins blimey!! It’s a bit like having kids… There is never a right time, because soon they will be older and then they are running around and you are desperate to get out the house for all of yours sanity sake and will feel guilty that you can’t! I used this time as its the end of maternity leave and I have enough time to fully recover before going back into a high physical job, so for me it was a bit now or never!! And I’m so surprised just how well I am recovering and fingers crossed it continues that way! people will always be a bit funny when it comes to boob jobs but they will soon come round after you ve had it done to have a prod of the new twins!! All the best x

I thought this as well but just because we are mothers doesn’t mean we cant still do things for our self. I’ve felt low for years and depressed about the size of my breasts so I think this will be a good thing for me and my family as ill be a lot happier with in my self. hopefully I would of recovered by xmas that’s why I choose October. And don’t worry Melissa what people think everyone has opinions but I am sure we are still going to be the same mum as we were before and the kids will be fine as long as we have enough support and help xxx

Hi guys

I’m booked in for October half term and only got a week off. I’m a childminder and look after quite a few children from 9 months -8 year. I’m nervous about going back after a week but I’m determined to take things at a steady pace. Can’t afford to have longer off or let all my parents down so have no choice. X

@sarah I’m the same, due back at work in March so figure if I get it done while I’m on Mat leave I don’t need to use any holidays! I think I have become more self conscious since my babies!thanks girls, feel much better reading these posts xxxx

Hey,
I am now 3 months (ish) post op. I have 3 children, my son 5 years and twin boy/girl 3 years. I felt terrible guilt leading up to my op and afterwards 🙁 It was really hard not being able to help out with them, but as soon as I was more comfortable and further into my recovery things returned to normal! As long as you have someone to help you out for at least a week or so afterwards you should be fine. Prepare yourself for some over the top emotions after surgery though lol!! Because I was in quite a bit of pain afterwards, I didn’t really get to cuddle my babies for a couple of days. Then when I finally managed an awkward side cuddle with them, I was in floods of tears lol. Just feeling them close after not doing so for a couple of days was so emotional and totally overwhelming. They kept looking at me like a crazy women as I sat there crying and asking them to stay next to me haha ?
I think all us mummy’s feel terrible mummy guilt for all our decisions we make. But like my friend said to me, just because we are mums does not mean we shouldn’t do things for ourselves. If you feel good about yourself then you will be happy and your kids will be happy too! Xxx

awww Hayley. your right! is it just a week about till your not as in as much pain or longer do u think? I could do with using my arms after a few days as my son is very clingy haha I don’t want to go over a week with out being able to cuddle him 🙁 . what type of things can you definitely not do in the first week I am a very privet person so the thought so someone flushing the toilet and helping me in the bath and stuff like that proper freaks me out lol. though I am willing to take on anything just so I can have this done I have wanted it for soooo lonngggg the recovery sounds scary xxx

Hi Lindsey
I am having my operation on the 19 September and I have a 7 month old and a 4 year old. My mum is coming to stay to look after my little boy and my little girl is going to stay with my ex husband for the week (unfortunately we separated just before my little boy came along but that’s a whole different story). I will let you know how I get on and if there is any advice I can give you from my experience I will x

thankyou that would be great. are you looking forward to it? what surgeon are you with xxx

Hey Lindsey,
From what I have read on here everyone’s recovery is so so different! You could be just fine within a day after or it could be longer. I personally struggled more than I expected, after a drug free birth of my first child and sailing through my c section recovery with my twins I (rather smugly) was thinking I would be fine ?. But in all honesty the first 3-4 days were tough for me. I couldn’t move my arms much and getting out of bed was difficult, hubby had to put his hand behind my back a push me up. I was ok going to the toilet and sorting myself out lol! Just about managed to get enough oomph to push the button to flush my toilet haha. I took it really easy for about 5 days, firstly because I was worried about doing any damage and secondly because I felt so tired from the anaesthetic. I didn’t take any pain killers after the first day though because they didn’t seem to help and just made me feel sick- but I have read on previous posts here that others went to their doctors and got different pain killers which were much better, so that’s worth remembering.
By day 5 I noticed a big difference and again at day 12 when I first managed to drive. I personally didn’t lift my kids for about 3/4 weeks because I couldn’t stand the pulling feeling on my boob muscles. It wasn’t painful but felt weird… Baring in mind that my kids are older and heavier.
I’m not telling you any of this to scare you Hun, this was just my experience and I have read so many more stories where others were up and out shopping day 2 so you may very well be the same! Fingers crossed ?
Despite having a rough couple of days afterwards I am so pleased I went ahead and had it done.
Good luck xxx

Hi Lindsey hope you don’t mind the add Hun. I’m currently going through the same “mummy guilt” it’s the only reason ive not booked my BA :(.reading all these lovely posts have helped loads.Thankyou ladies :)xx

Hi Haley added you too Hun hope you don’t mind :)xx

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Hi CATHERINE.hope you don’t mind the add Hun :).I too am a 32A 🙁 .dr kazzazi offered me 275cc implants.was just wondering if he had offered you the same? Hope you don’t mind me asking :).I haven’t booked my BA yet as I have a 2 year old son and am feeling extremely selfish/guilty 🙁 also I am scared I won’t be able to cope with caring for him as I only have a weeks worth of help and he still wears nappies and wants to be carried lol mummy’s boy :pxx

Thanks girls .Hayley how was your husband with you about it was he helpful and supportive or did he have the odd moan about having to do so much for you I only ask because my partner is a bit grumpy and stressy and I basically do everything for my youngest (8months) get up threw the night get up in the morning between half 5 and 7 everyday e.t.c. I am worried because I don’t know how he will be doing everything for kids house work and look after me he said he would be fine but he’s not done it yet and its easy to say yes ill be ok with it but when it comes down to it I just don’t know. that’s why I needed to know how much stuff I can actually be able to do on my own with out damaging or hurting myself, I have a very busy life none stop and I really want this done but its making me panic so much about the recovery. and Lisa cause u can ass me no problem xxx

Lol, hubby thought he would cope perfectly! The kids were still alive at the end of his 10 days at home looking after them ? but the house looked like we’d been robbed and the washing/folding/ironing piles took me weeks to recover from haha!
No seriously, he did his best. He didn’t really get pissed off with it al until about a week after when I think it started to take its toll. He did everything for the first 5-6 days, I literally did nothing to help as I was no use and quite honestly I was determined to just rest up and let him take the load for once!
We are also a very busy household with lots going on day to day and it is hard for the first couple of weeks getting through that, but I promise you that things gradually return to normal and each day you can do more and more. You must give yourself time to rest and recover properly afterward though Hun, the anesthetic took a lot out of me and I needed tons of naps throughout the day to start with. I don’t know about others but I couldn’t even Hoover for about 3 weeks because the sort of action you use to do it hurt, same with polishing and wiping sides! But like I’ve said others have had no problems whatsoever ?. Maybe consider a cleaner coming in once or twice to take care of the cleaning so all he has to concentrate on is liking after you and the kids? Xxx
Lisa Anne, no probs Hun ? xx

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