Having a difficult time (non surgery related)

Just needed to write this all down as I don’t know where to turn, I’m sorry this is going to be such a negative post but I feel so down & confused at the moment feel like I need to vent it somehow.. Just found out on Friday that my mum has been tested for cancer but came back in the all clear- she’s thought she’s had it for a while now (a suprise to myself) as she had a tumour found in her womb causing her some pain so this is fantasticly amazing news but on the other hand we also found out, on the same day, that my partners grandad has been diagnosed with cancer of the abdomen 🙁 he is a mess & is having panic attacks thinking he is going to die any day although he’s not had his ct scan yet (due in the next 2 weeks) I just don’t know how to approach him & support my partner or his family it’s dreadful being useless but everyone is feeling so negative & in shock..I’m pushing my positivity on everybody making them aware that time will tell, panicking will only make things worse but I just don’t feel like its working. Keeping my fingers crossed that my positivity will lighten things up even slightly in the mean time & hoping for the good news that grandad is in the early stages & can start treatment asap, my gut feeling is that everything will be okay 🙂 as I said before I’m so sorry this is such a horrible post but just needed to get this off my chest & I do feel a lot better for this, this forum is a godsend. Thankyou mya!!

Arrr hunny big ciber hugs .
All the stress you’ve been under too. Xxx

Some times life just chucks crap at you hey…. my brother in law just got diagnosed with stomach cancer last wk too. It so horrid , I mean what do you say?? I’ve been doing the positive thing too, at least they found it, it can now be treated etc…. Bottom line hun- be there for all involved, kind words and lots of love will go far, be there when they need you too..
Big hugs huney.. Xx

Awwww, poor you Ducky. So much to deal with, along with all the other shit you have had at work – just goes to show you what’s important – your family and your health. Sending you loads of positive vibes to add to yours. We will always be your virtual shoulder to cry on babe x x x

Things will work out hun, I bet your not at all useless and r a great support to your family… seeing how u have helped so many other girls on here u r a natural… chin up xx

Ahh hun feel for you! Try and stay positive! Big cyber hugs xxxx

just stay positive bring that positive energy around them will help a lot hun xxx

WOW ladies your support never ceases to amaze me, I thank you so so much for all your support, just feeling extra sensitive at the moment & it just piles right on top of you, being so difficult to stay upbeat to keep them going/positive when everybody around you is either negative or so low brings you down but I will keep them afloat they need so much support & I love them all to bits they’re just so understandably overwhelmed at the moment! On this note I just want everyone to know on here that if ever you need support I’m your girl, I like to think I’m good at it 🙂 xxx

Aww ducky I’ve just seen this, you poor thing 🙁 no0108 is right, your family, health and happiness are the most important things in life. We’re all here for you doll xx

Sorry to hear that, you are so lovely to everyone on here so u should feel like u can put this post. Fingers crossed for u and ur family xx

Aww Ducky you will get through this! My partners grandad passed away the day before my OP & I was close to cancelling buty partner & his family told me to still go. Then the funeral the fillowing week was on my birthday. I know how u feel a out bit knowing what to do, we were all very close but I was trying to help without interfering. All u can do is let them know u are there for them….big hugs xxx

So sorry to hear that 🙁 gotta be positive u can’t lose if u do 🙂 it’s hard I know and weather ain’t helping but I believe being positive does make a difference 🙂 if u ever want to just rant vent or anything u can message me even if it’s pointless hah:) it’s always good to have some ears xx

Hey ducky hun, I hope you and your partner are ok, its such a nasty thing and really tips up a family. Just wanted to give you some hope, my grandad got diagnosed when I was early pregnant with my 2nd child so nearly 3yrs ago, he had it in his lungs and lymph nodes in the chest, he had chemo etc and it shrunk them by 2cm, they decided they couldn’t operate as it was too dangerous and they was in a bad place, BUT 3yrs on with regular checks they havnt grown or spread, so they say he’s in somekind of remission. So just wanted to say they can do all sorts now and I really hope he’s ok. Be strong and stick together. Sending you and your partners family hugs xxx

Hey ducky I’m so sorry that your mum had a cancer scare but its wonderful news that she is clear. Also I send you thoughts and strength regarding the cancer news of your boyfriends grandad. It is going to be a very difficult time ahead for you all my daughter was diagnosed with t-cell acute lymphoblastic leukaemia back in oct 2010 9 days after her 10th birthday she and us as a family went to hell and back she has only just recently completed her 2 years and 6 months off treatment on the 8th feb 2013 so we have just entered another life without treatment and cancer free she is doing great now a stroppy 12 year old.
Its must be so hard trying to stay the positive one while everyone else around you have been floored at the minute they are all in deep shock and will remain there for some time it took me a whole year to get my head around it all.
Keep doing what your already doing make sure you look after yourself also so you have the strength to look after your boyfriend and his family by being the positive one. Big cyber ((HUGS)) being sent to you I wish your boyfriends grandad all the very best xx

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