My boyfriend doesn't approve

So I’m booked in for my consulatation on the 11th may although this is my third consultation at MYA. I don’t think at the time I came to MYA before I was mentally and financially ready but just wanted to find out more however I am now ready to go ahead but the only thing making me think twice is my boyfriend. He says he loves me for the way I am but I have been thinking about this for a very long time and I don’t know what to do. i am currently a 32b and looking for a fuller more bustier look but he’s afraid that it will feel different. I told him to come with me to my consultation but I don’t know whether that’s a good idea has anyone brought their boyfriend with them and if so how did they react to it were they supportive of your decision and what did they think of them post op?

Hi, I’m booked for my 1st consultation on the 11th too, my partner will be coming with me but he is actually very supportive, the only advise I can give you is you need to do what will make you feel good about yourself and so what if they do feel different, I’m sure your partner isn’t just with you for your boob’s, if he truly cares for you he will come round to the idea once he realises it something you really want.

All the best chick xx

Hi Hillary, I have had same issues with my husband. Fact is , I don’t care what he says anymore, he has even said ‘what if you don’t come back round after the Op! What about the kids etc’ …. scare tactics! This is part of Mummy make over after my body and mind were ravaged after having two kids, its about self love and putting myself first for once. Elevating myself and improving my appearance. Why live all your life being unhappy with a feature that could be improved ?! I’ve started having Botox and really enjoying looking and feeling better about myself. I would never have had the confidence to have this Op a few years ago (but always secretly wanted it 😉 ) currently it’s all I want and nothing anyone says will stop me. Do it for you and you alone xx

Thank so for your advice ladies another worry is I have been reading and a few ladies on here have had kids however I don’t have any kids so will things change once I have kids. My question is it better to do now or later after kids?

I’m not totally sure as everyone differs with how they deal with pregnancy. I don’t have 1 stretch mark whereas some women get lots. I was always hoping my boobs would grow in pregnancy but they never did ,they just stayed the same and then lost all volume after my second baby . I never had much before but now I hate them. I can’t stand my husband touching them. I reckon if you support them well in a good bra and use oils to keep skin supple etc.. you should fine I’m sure. I certainly wouldn’t let it put you off having them done until you have children. X

I was the same. Didn’t know whether to wait until I had kids but then it meant I would of had to stay with these boobs for atleast another 4 years lol and I just thought why wait? I have friends who have kids after having their boobs done and they just wore a good supportive sports bra throughout their pregnancy and they look pretty much the same. Everyone’s different thought so would be hard to predict but I wouldn’t let it out you off. It’s just delaying your happiness ! X

I’ve booked my initial consultation on Monday. I’ve wanted this for so long but I’ve always put holidays/home/kids before me. My partner isn’t very supportive so I’m hoping to do it all whilst he’s working away! It’s sad and funny at the same time but I know he’ll play the guilt card and I really need to do this for me!
If this is what you really want then go for it! It’s your body!

I’m the same , my husband says they’re fine his they are but I disagree . I’ve had 2 kids and lost weight so they’re just like loose skin now . He’s determined for me not to get them done, saying he doesn’t want a fake wife. What’s a woman to do !

Boyfriends come and go! You are doing this for you for your own self esteem! My boyfriend didn’t understand at first he thinks like all boyfriends I’m sure that I’m perfect how I am but these boob are for me not for anyone else do what you go to do girly! I say go for it!

I always think if it was the other way around and they did penis enlargments I don’t feel as though our boyfriends would be too concerned about what we think lol it’s for you and if it makes you feel more confident go for it, I’m sure he will love them .. 😉

@hillary look at my recent post on here having the exact same problem with my partner . I have 12 days til my op. And I’m going through with it regardless, have a read on my post xx

I think this is a typical male insecurity tbh. I know my partner thought I’d be showing them off all the time etc and he was telling me I don’t need a boob job and he liked them how they were. To begin with it didn’t seem like he was excited for me or anything but once he realised this was happening either way he came around and was much more supportive. I’m only 2 weeks post op and he’s been impressed with my results so far and does like them (still says they were fine before though lol) with my partner he was thinking of the money as well though as he thinks there’s a better use for 5 ish k haha but now that he’s seen me happy etc he’s ok with everything especially as my results have been natural as he’s adamant he hates the fake look. Remember you’re doing this for yourself and not him so he can either accept it and be happy for you or be a miserable cunt haha xxx

Also just to add I’m paying for my boobs myself without his help so the money thing was tough shit lol xxx

My boyfriend came with me to my initial consultation and will be there the day I have my surgery and picking me up the next morning. It’s your body at the end of the day and say you break up you’ll regret not getting them for a boy !

Hi Hillary,

I am exactly the same as you! I wrote a huge post on here a few days ago asking loads of questions and have been doing lots of research and now I have booked my initial consultation but I feel similar to how you described in yours (I’m not ready financially or mentally – I just need to find out more! So I may not be going through with anything for a while yet).
The two things you have mentioned are pretty much the only things putting doubt in my mind! My boyfriend is also not so happy about me looking into this. He says he likes them as they are (and I agree he is the only one that will be seeing them anyway so there should be no problem) but they FEEL awful on my body, they make me unhappy and I have been thinking about this since I was 16. And I’m starting to come around to thinking that I come first, and if he really loves me for me then he’ll let me do what makes me happy! (And they can only look better right?!).

I am also a B cup (although they don’t even feel that sometimes). I said in my post that I am quite a natural girl (I love make up but I VERY rarely have false nails, hair, tan or ever usually consider any kind of cosmetic procedures) so I have been battling with myself over this surgery as it feels very hypocritical! I’m from Essex but not a Towie girl lol and that is something about me that my boyfriend initially liked. I am so worried that by having this procedure he won’t be as attracted to me anymore as I’ll look too ‘fake’. So natural looking implants for me are a MUST (but that’s for me as well as him).

I noticed you also mentioned pregnancy. I agree; I was getting a little worried as 90% of the people that are posting on here seem to have children. I’m only 21… I’m not a fan of children but that doesn’t mean I want to rule it out completely. I’m not keen on the idea of being a mum for at least 10 years… and frankly I can’t wait that long for my boobs! Like you I’m a bit worried about the future pregnancy/breast feeding issues 🙁

But either way, reading everyone’s replies I’m very much getting the idea that people are very happy with their results. xx

Just read through ladies I’m nearly five months post op and was single when I had mine done was concerned about how guys would react once dating but I think men in general are just wierd.

Consider if u had met ur current partner post op with the look ur going for…would he not be interested? Would u even tell him u had them done? Yes ur wardrobe is likely to change slightly to accommodate your new girls and may get a bit more cleavagey for a night out but I doubt ur going to turn into Jordan overnight and do the weekly school run or tesco shop in a really provocative top. This is the main concern for most men I reckon. I reckon they get worried that you will get overly confident and leave or get a lot of new attention from other guys.

The guy I’ve just started seeing only realised from my pics on instagram (having seen a difference in volume) and me just bringing it up on our first date, as I was thinking he may really not be into fake boobs or be repulsed by them. I was worried but he’s been fine and really likes them but hates fake hair, lashes and nails?!!!!?

I think once your partners see the change in your confidence for the better they will appreciate why you want your op so badly plus after having kids and goin through general changes as a woman u deserve to be happy. Life is way to short to think what if….

I waited ten years to get mine done and in that time bfs told me they liked me as I was one guy suggested I see a counsellor for help as whatever issue I had with my boobs was really in my mind and to do with lack of confidence.

I even got my smaller boob pierced about five yrs ago to boost my confidence and make me feel edgy about my boobs but just thought no this isn’t the answer I just want boobs for Christ sake and bit the bullet.

33, no kids yet! Fxx

I made it very clear to my boyfriend this isn’t about him or what he feels will change. If he cares about me he would care that I want it done for me. Make myself happy. So I told him it’s my decision. I told him he cnt go to any consultations with me. Just because I don’t want his opinion to change my mind or what he prefers. Cos I was getting it done for me. And I can now say 10 weeks in and I’m happy! Gotta make urself happy not just others.

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