negative people

OMG, i have like every1 telln me not too do it… its just so sad.. I’m booked and all paid for the 14th of october.. i have always been totally flat. i have been dreaming of this all my life.. people around me are just making me depressed by telling me bad stuff bout it… i just hope i will not be even more depressed when recovering as i live alone. my boyfriend is neither supportive nor encouraging. he has agreed to pick me up from the hospital after the procedure but doesn’t want to talk about the procedure at all. my dad is totally mad, he just wants me to be natural. I don’t even were a bra because i am as flat as a 5 year old boy.

any 1 has anything encouraging??

Hey ladies! Thank you for the advice that you all have given me!!! I cannot believe this time tomorrow I will have boobs!!!!! argh!!!!

jmc89- The way I paid was through MYA, the minimum payment that you have to put down upfront is

hi pussycat im havin mine with mr kazzazi nice to know he is a good surgeon, im excited now only a few days to go, what profile n size unders or overs did he do on you.. would really like to hear..x

oh ktlun i will be thinking about you it will be nice to hear your story and even see your pics… can you get my e mail address from my details or do i post it on here..x

Hi pussycat!!
Thank you for your advice!! At least you’re not the one whos lost out, your friend is!! I’m very pleased for you, and happy that you have plucked up the courage to finally DO IT!! Hehe, best of luck with recovery hun!!!

Wendy

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OMG Wendy, I didn’t realise you were in tomorrow, that’s come around fast hun. Enjoy the experience, loads of girls have said don’t even waste your time with nerves haha.
Really looking forward to hearing all about it.

Rio xxx

hahaha, awwww Rio, thanks hun :bigsmile: I know, I’m trying not to worry, and I really dont want to because I know that it will be all over nothing really! I am excited though, mainly about trying on my clothes and seeing what I look like! haha

Wendy

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adele – I had 500cc low profile under the muscle cos i had a lot of area to cover but was an a cup, Mr Kazzazi suggested this and he was so right they look mega, apparently all swelling gone down just need to go soft and they are starting to do that now, just massaging them twice a day. Thanks for nice comments KTlun. Adele the pre-op is mega and the aftercare is mega so nothing to worry about, if I can get through the last few weeks then anyone can do it. My friend said persevere (she has had 2 ba’s over 6 years) and she was so right. its so nice to feel more womanly – let me know how you get on x

hi pussycat i have been worried about low profiles as not many have them, what size has the 500cc taken you to im an a34a/b and would like to be a d/d he has picked 435cc.. im glad your happy makes me feel better..x

hi adele, taken me to dd the good thing with low profile 500cc is they are big and give you a big area fullness but not projected which is really nice for me obviously we all want different things. dont get me wrong a to dd still looks big?

hi pussycat so if i am a b to start , with 435 i should get a decent d .. i thought you would of been bigger with the 500cc i would not want to be dissapointed with the size, he did not actually give me a choice he just said the435 fit in perfectly it was .1 larger than my chest frame snug fit i would say. i thinkwe all come out differnt as we have different breasts to start with.. i cant cange my mind now they will be ordered for sunday…x

Interesting girls reading your comments about negativity. Well all you young girls just go and get it done and dont worry about what anyone says. All those people who are negative you dont need them in your lives well friends anyway and family will come round once you have had them done and they see you are ok. I am 46 and have thought about it for years on and off and even though I have had alot of pain and thought at one point get them out (dont worry girls I am a wimp and a one off) but now I am starting to come out of it and I have gone from an A to a DD and they look mega, and at last starting to feel loads better so persevere. Wish I had had it done years ago. Girls get jealous thats all, im lucky just lost one friend through it but had history there anyway and not really bothered as at my age you get used to funny foke,my genuine friends have all been mega. I had mine done in Parkhill Doncaster with Mr Kazzazi and he is fantastic. GO FOR IT

my boyfriend was totally negative at first but he later came around but still doesn’t like talking about it much.

oh they do it as they think you will change your mind, i did not change mine, had it done last sunday.. i told my grandparents after the event, they made me cry with there negativity, they later apologised for upsetting me.. i still dont think they understand but its too late its all done.. my mum is suprised at the size, there not too big, a d hopefully from a b.. they all thought i was going to look likej ordan,not the look i wanted n kept telling them this.. if you want it hon ignor them n do it, they will come round, if they dont its there problem..x

Thanks alot for your encouragmnt… I am actyally doin it for myslf from the depth of my heart. I’m not going to tell sny of them. My boyfriend doesnt mind if it is what i want. I’m just going to be optimistic.

you go girl, when they know your serious they will give up.. too late for me its done now, i have only told certain people..oh n wait for the gossip, let em get on with it.. good friends will understand..x

Omg, ur just like this person that understands everything. Its like your here..lol

Hi,

I’ve only told my Fiance and 3 close friends. Fiance was a bit surprised at first and said I didn’t need it, but he came round and has been really supportive. He has seen me paranoid and upset about my boobs, and he knows it will make me much happier. My friends who know have also been really good, although they did make me feel a bit guilty for not telling my family. There’s no way I’m going to tell them until after it’s done. I know they’ll worry too much and try to scare me and talk me out of it, and I really don’t want to have to deal with that sort of negativity (and feel guilty for making them worry!) I do feel guilty for not telling them though, especially as my Fiance is worried they’ll have a go at him afterwards for supporting me!

xx

hey katey no one understands what it actually feels like to be really upset with yourself, you look n look n get more upset, they would do it if it was them, its always easy to comment.. i did the same with my grandparents i did not want them to worry and i knew they would not understand, hey no choice now its done..x

Hi Adele,

I think so many people don’t understand, especially the older generation. Will definately wait until after it’s done before I tell my parents- know they’ll only worry otherwise and make me feel guilty. It’s really good to have forums like this for moral support:-)

How are you recovering? Read your earlier post- must be a relief to have bandages off?

xx

oh you what, its such a big relief to get those bandages off, they are now in the sports bra, almost as bad, ha.. not very sexy.. my mum came with me n she said they look good n not too big, thats why the shock on the size 30ff… im wearing a 34dd sports bra..
you always get negativity.. best to ignor them..x

if they were unhappy with the way they looked im sure it would be a different matter.. my sister was funny at first, said when you have had it done and your in pain dont come to me for sympathy, not nice eh, but she has come round, infact she asked me what i thought he would do with hers, not that she is interested, wait till they see them, lol…x

Hi Adele,
I totally understand!!I haven’t booked my BA yet but i’ve been to see the surgeon and am hoping to get it done in January.
I mentioned to my mum a while ago that i was considering it and all she did was critisize me.Asking where i was getting the money from etc.I’m 27 years old,married with my own family-it’s non of her business!!!!!
I’m doing it for me,no one else.There’s food in the cupboard,my morgage is paid every month and my kids are not short of anything.Luckly my husband is very supportive.Hopefully you will have someone who supports you too.If not,just log on here to get positive comments.
Good luck.xx

hey im doing it for me no one else, i just think they need to keep there negative thoughts to thereselves.. i have not told my grandparents as they totally wont understand and there 80 they will only worry so will tell them after.. my mum was likr yours to begin with but she now understands why im doing it and she is behind me..hope your mum comes round..x

i totally agree as well iv just stopped telling people as i dont want to hear what they have to say. one of my friends wont talk to me once i told her!? i dont understand? i think deep down there maybe jealous so want you not to have it? what is the deal with peoples stereotyped opionions. i think they think ill come off the operating table with boobs like jordans? i havent told my mom im definatlely having it done as she knows i will be eventually cos she knows what im like, plus my boyfriend tells her every thing. (hes not too impressed either) but she was bringing up all the negativity. i know alot of people who have had it done and not one has gone wrong. they all love it! so ill tell people when iv had it done x

Yes i agree on the jealousy part and i think that is probably alot to do with it to be honest, especially with the friend situation…One of my closest friends has wanted hers done for years and years, we always thought it would be her who had it done 1st. Within the last year and a half my whole life has totally turned around, completely, with my new man etc and things have been great, my son is nearly 12 and its the happoest i’ve even seen him aswell as me…and now obviously i have the chance to have my op, which ive also wanted for a long time, but because its me its totally changed…All the same type of comments, including she will prob not ever have it done as its too risky! haha but she has always always wanted it done!!

So yes i agree.,..its mainly jealousy…

Same as you’s i’m doin this for me and no-one else, for my own confidence and to make me a happier person…;~) xx

yes girls were doing it for us and it does not matter others opinions, i just cant stand negativity,, they would love it to go wrong so they could say told you so.. stuff em, im going to be alot happier.. i have just met this guy, not going toi tell him till its done.. im sure he wont complain,lol..x

I had the same problem, lots of negativity. My partner was very supportive though, he’s happy as long as I am so quite lucky there. Since I had mine done I’ve sure as hell put a lot of people in their place (which makes me secretly smug haha) my boobs look so natural and now all my friends are jealous! That’ll teach them for the negativity so don’t worry, people are just so narrow minded and its sooooo annoying!!! xx

thats definatly the biggest problem, jealousy.. hey who cares when we can wear a basque without a bra and they have to wear there gel bra underneath to give them a slight clevage, does that sound familiar.. lol…..x

Im 4 weeks post op, when i was on school run had people gossiping behind my back, i done this for myself and put their comments down to jelousy, theyre too gutless to do anything about their boobs, a few friends have been a bit negative too, only cus their boobs are droopy and now ive got a cracking pair of pert boobs! Rise above everyone else, its amazing as well how many people are asking me about it and are intrested in whats involved, prices, etc, my partner has been the supportive one in all this, and without him i dont know what i would have done. Im so much happier, more confident etc and cant wait to go on holiday next month and wear bikinis.

Good luck to all you ladies getting yours done x

thats so nice to hear your happier and more confident jaks, u do find who ur true friends are i think, i bet u look amazing.

i always find that they say ‘oh you dont need one’ or ‘oh your not going too big are you’ . ive had people telling me that i need counselling because im getting them done! im so annoyed now with everyones negative comments that i just say’ yeah im going massive, the bigger the better’. They havent seen us bein upset, paranoid about our boobs. Its not a spur of the moment thing, were all adults who have thought about this for years. My family have been great tho, well i have been naggin my dad for one every christmas and birthday since i was 15 lol. I thought that my 21st would be the year but instead he just bought me a birthday cake in the shape of a pair of boobs, gutted!!!

Lets get prepared girls lol
What about people that have had them done??? do u get treated any different?? judged?? negative/ jealous comments??

xxxx

im having my ba done a week tom 20th sept and im so excited i cant wait.. why are there so many negative people out there, a friend called to see me today and i told her i was having it done, oh be carefull, are you sure your doing the right thing. there are so many that go wrong, i would not do it if i was you…, oh i could scream, why cant they accept your desision and be happy for you, i wont be showing her.. it took a long time to make the desision, the last thing you need is any negativity.. well im excited.. anyone else been through this.. sorry for ranting, its only you girlies that actually understand..x

Funnily enough my negative comments have come from my best friend who’s actually had them done herself so why she’s put out by it i don’t know cos she’s thrilled with hers!

Emijane you made me laugh with ‘the bigger the better comment’, think I may borrow that one!

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hi rio oh she will be worried yours look better than hers… my best, nearly put breast, its on my mind 24/7, my best friend has had hers done twice and she has been great to talk to she is so excited for me, thats the type of friend you need… positive people welcome, negative people bugger off..x

Aw adele that’s lovely your best friend is so supportive and she can help you with all your little doubts as well. you’re totally right hun, only surround yourself with people that wish you well.

Hmm I just don’t know, I supported her with hers, I listened to her when she was confused about implant sizes and helped her choose and offered to go to consultations if she needed a second opinion and every time I mentioned about me doing it she changed the subject. since then I’ve not mentioned it, and won’t do again, my hubby has been wonderful and at the end of the day he’s the only person that’s likely to see them!

That’s why this forum is so lovely cos the support is genuine. xxx

Hi girlies, I have had some positve support actually but I must admit most of the comments have been false, but I’m probably more worried about what people will say behind my back once I have ACTUALLY had my BA. I did tell one friend yesterday, who has actually had a breast reduction and uplift, and all she said was, ‘why do you want to be a glamour model?? only glamour models have size DD implants. And all you’re going to get are people talking to your boobs’ It makes me doubt myself then. I’m scared enough about it as it is, because the only person that is supporting me is my boyfriend, even though all you ladies are doing the same as I, I do kind of feel a bit alone. I only have 3 more days..why suddenley has the excitement turned to anxiety????? 😥

Wendy

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Hi, its nice to know I’m not the only one facing negativity through my choice to have a BA. My mum has pretty much fell out with me over it because she is against cosmetic surgery anyway and is angry at me for getting into debt to do it. It’s something that I am desperate to have done and have wanted for years, I’m 21 and I don’t want to spend any more time feeling miserable about my body. A few friends haven’t been very supportive either although I have a couple of close friends who have and have encouraged me as they know how I feel about it. It’s important to me what my mum thinks but this is my decision and my body. I’m being made to feel guilty and selfish for what I’m doing but I am determined to go ahead with it.
Wendy – I have read on another post that you are a student. So am I and I’m just wondering if I offer to put a large deposit down will MYA allow me to sign to their finance agreement and pay the rest in monthly installments? I would be really grateful for whatever advice you can offer me! Thanks x

my family was great, as I gained my money through my free implants, a website, i didnt get into any debt, and my dad even paid for me to get some papers notarised that i needed before the website could release the funds, my best friend did say why are you getting them done’ and i replied if something didnt fit right you would change it for the right size right? she agreed and then i said well my boobs dont fit me so im changing them and that was it, the first time i saw here after having them she wouldnt leave them alone haha. I havent had any neg comments

oh ktlun dont get anxious now you have 3 days to go, you should be very excited, i know i am i wont let anyones comments put me down, especially at this point, i go in on sunday. so you will be able to let me know how you go on before i have mine done..
rio your friend is def jealous just ignor her, she aint a good friend if she is not behind you all the way.. good job we have each other.lolx

KTLun i know what u mean when people say are u tryin to be a glamour model, people say about jordan to me, so sad! you will get anxious if ur only 3 days away and all sorts of doubts will go thru ur head but u should just go for it, and think that u waited a long time for this! once u have them done ur have no regrets!
rio u really should use it , it shuts them right up lol!
i just cant wait to new year, fancy dress woo hoo!!!
jmc89 im sure ur mum is just really worried, my mum didnt mind she was like oh i want one lol. but my dad omg he really didnt want me to get it done, now he’s payin for it. put on the tears she will come around! xxxx

oh wait till the gossip starts, i got a tex today from a friend who had a message from someone we both know and dont like, not a nice person, oh have you heard adele is having her boobs done.. she loves gossip cant wait to tell everyone.. sad i say let her get on with it, she obviously enjoys it… the last person i would like to know but hey ho.. if there talking about me there leaving others alone.. lol..x

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