Parents, living and home and finance…

Hello, just so everyone knows I had 2 Energy drinks tonight at work, hence why I’m still awake… Just got this on my mind. I still live at home and im working a lot more hours these days… so I well on my way to my target amount for the BA. But, my mum went crazy and told me I was nuts the other day for even mentioning the fact that I would like to have a boob job. I never told her of my plans, she knows nothing of the consultation and the crazy saving like mad. I live with mum, dad and my brother in our house and although I don’t spend much time at home I know there will be a time when I have to tell them what is going on when I finally have the op. Any tips on how to break it to them… I mean I cant exactly have the op, stay at my friends house and come home with massive boobs… or can I? Im really worried about my familys reaction because they are a highly religious bunch and have strong views on.. just about everything! I don’t want to make life here harder. I also know that they are struggling with money ATM and would be upset if they knew I was saving and had all this money when I could have been paying more rent…

So any advice there would be much appreciated.

Also i’m so tempted to once I react the half-way mark on the saving up to spread the cost of the rest of it through finance, once again mum would go ape, i’m worried, what if I lose my job etc… Any advice there?

Leanne,

I have not been through this however my parents wasn’t so supported to start with as they thought I was never going to go through with it. Once everything was booked and in place they become more supportive and was with me every step of the way. They must remember it’s your body and your doing it for yourself no one else. I took the finance option and felt that was a better option for me. Just be honest and if they still chose not to support you then it’s something you will have to do on your own or with the support of your friends. Also about the money you work hard for your money so why not spend it on what you like. If your working hard for it then you deserve it!

You have to do what’s best for you nobody else.. im sure they wouldn’t want you to go through it all on your own so just make them aware you are serious about your decision! Your a grown up and u work hard for your money that’s up to u how u spend it and it’s also nobody else’s business how u pay for it! U will only regret not doing it hun if it is really something you want! Xx

My mum didn’t want me to have it at first she tried talking me out of it saying I’m crazy but once I booked my first consultation and told her I’m having it done and want her to just support me she has been with me every step of the way and she is fine with everything now. As regards money it’s your money and you have to do what will make you feel better I’m sure your parents just want you to be happy x

I’ve still not told my mum and most of my family and I’m 6 days post op lol just can’t deal with the whole how did you afford that and what a waste of money even tho there all sitting round with massive natural boobs x maybe for u just keep bringing it up little by little so they kind of get use to the idea until in the end they say if u really wanted to do it they would support u and then once that’s said they wait abit and then say it’s booked xxx

I think you just have to go for it, I was in a very similar position but have went ahead and booked for December. My dad hasn’t spoken to me since he found out about a month ago and it’s really upsetting my mum but I know I have to do this for me. I hope everything works out for you Hun xx

Thanks so much girls, feel more confident about my decision now.. Just want it done sooner rather than later x x x

I’ve told everyone and i don’t care what people think. But I do understand the whole paying more rent etc. Maybe ask them if they would like a little more ? Xx

i’m trying to save up here xD, I would ask if they wanted more but argh already got so many expenses at the moment xx

I know just what you’re going through Leanne. My mum has really backwards views on the whole thing… she still believes that if you have them that you can’t sunbathe!! Mad. I’m still at home too cause trying to save to move out etc and it’s so awkward. I still haven’t told them I’ve got a consolation next week cause I’m afraid of them being so judgemental and unsupportive… it’s hard. I really do hope things improve for you though and just know you’re not alone feeling like this. If it’s something you want it’s your body and your life, you have to do what’s right for you not them xxx

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