Pickin up kids after surgery

Has anyone had ba who has small children? i have a two yr old an worried bout how long it will be after my op before i can lift her . Any tips anyone

Hi Clare

My 3 children are older, but i look after my friends 2 year old one day a week while she’s at work.
I normally have her on a Tuesday, so had her as normal on the day before my ba which was Wednesday 19 August, and then had a couple of weeks off. Today was my first day with her again (i’m 3 weeks tomorrow) and it was fine. I had to be carefull while lifting her up into the highchair, and while she was sat on my lap as she’s a bit of a wiggler! But i felt fine.

I’d say you’d be best to get some help for at least the first 2 weeks, and then see how you feel. Are you having overs or unders, as that will make a differance to how quickly you are going to heal?

xx

Im having overs . Ill be staying with my mum for a few days . Dont want to overstay our welcome tho me mum is house proud an my lil girl is at the terrible stage gettin stressed bout it now . Im a single mum an her dad is a waist of time so no point in askin him to help im sure my friends will all help . But im just worried bout how long it will take till we can get back to normal . Feel really guilty that she will suffer an im being a lil selfish . Thanks for your advice you have helped out a lot x

At least having overs gives you a quicker recovery time I can honestly say that i had no pain at all, it’s just discomfort really. The first 3 days are probably the worst and you really need to rest as much as possible. Don’t forget that you will need to heal on the inside as well as the outside. I did nothing at all for the first 6 days, but i know that that is not possible for everyone. Maybe try and call in a few favours from friends, and repay them when you’re feeling a bit more ‘back to normal’.

Good luck xx

Thanx so much for all your advice sure it will all turn out ok in the end at least its finally happening now only six weeks to go . X:-).

arr it was sad to see what you wrote clare…what your doing isnt at all selfish, i have asked myself this many times, and ive wanted it done for years and years…the way to look at it is that in the long run your daughter will have a happier, more confident mummy ;.) always a good thing i think…

As for the help thing, prob a good idea to stay with your mum for a few days, just to help out, and then see if you can get any help from friends, think its times like this we find out our true friends…
xx

Aw thanx so much . Iv felt bad about my body for yrs my older son is 11 an my breast an tummy have been a mess since my pregnancy with him iv avoided taking him swimming an dont like going out in the sun as i have to cover my wrinkly cleavage up dont like running round as they are that floppy they fall out an its shamefull so he really has missed out on having a mum in some ways so your right we will all benefit .im only 30 an been living like an old nun for 2 yrs an cant wait to be confident

Hi Clare
Well fancy that I have an 11 year old and 2 year old too…..
I had my Ba on 14th August, I had 340 under muscle
My mum helped me out too, and with out her I don’t know what I would have done – I couldn’t pick my son up properly for a week, I was soooo nervous I was going to damage myself, on the occasions I did pick him up it didn’t hurt but just felt a little uncomfortable.
My eldest son helped me out in the evenings, I was able to dress my 2year old, I did this slowly and with caution tho! I wasn’t quite sure how he was going to react with me not being so involved in his day, but he saw my dressings on and sensed that something was wrong, he was a little angel (he isn’t normally like that )
It did feel strange picking him up as I suddenly had boobies in the way!
I’m nearly 4 weeks post op now and I am totally back to normal, I have been back at work for a week and can carry out all tasks as normal.
You will definately need help for the first week, and depending on how you’re feeling you should be fine from then on, I took painkillers for the first 2 days then realised I wasn’t actually in pain! I was expecting there to be loads of pain, but if you’ve been through childbirth twice – this is a doddle.
Good luck – any questions please feel free to ask – keep us all posted xx

Thanks so much you have really helped doubt my son will be as helpfull i still have to dress him for school most days he is spoilt an lazy lol propper mummys boy . So looking forward to after its done an i can get back to normal an enjoy doing stuff with my kids that iv not been able to do before . Its strange really how a bit of loose skin can make you feel so ugly an un feminine . Just hope my mum can cope with us for a week she is gettin on a bit dont wanna tire her out an were a bit noisy .

Sooo glad to read these comments im having an uplift&implants on 19th sept&have 3 kids.The eldest is 15 the middle is 7&baby is 18months.The baby is v clingy&im feeling v guilty about all this im also half exited&half bloody scared!!My baby breast feed from one boob for 10months awful!They really need doing they are odd&lifeless.Can get away with it in a good bra but want them sorted.Im also really worried about the recoverey&not being able to jump up&do stuff my husband is taking time off&my mum will help to so im lucky but i still worry.xx

The guilt is awful . An worryin bout recovery an my kids is a huge stress so i have started to plan a family day out at water world iv never been swimming with my kids due to the shame of my droopy breast so going swimmin for the first time in january we will be able to enjoy some quality time together without the shame of me floppy boobs fallin out.

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