Really upset ????

Hey girls,
Just a post to see if anyone else has experienced what I’m going through!
So I’ve only told my mum and boyfriend and close friends about getting this and my mum has been amazing! However today we told my Nan (I live with my Nan) and she reacted just how I thought but it’s so upsetting!! She said she’s not going to support me and my mum should be talking me out of it and she thinks I don’t need it and doesn’t believe I need/want it, she actually won’t believe that I’ve put a lot of thought into this over the years and she said that I’ve never told her before so she basically thinks that this is just a quick decision and I’m doing it as its the ‘in’ thing she’s making me feel like I’m lying that I’m not happy with my own body!!! I just broke down and I felt so stupid as she isn’t the affectionate type so I always try to hide my emotions in front of her! Has anyone else had someone who totally disagrees with it and have they changed at all over time? I can’t see her changing her mind about it as she will never look at it from my point of view (hence why I’ve never brought this up with her) I just wanted to know if it gets any easier?
I’m still going to get a load of crap off everyone else and I just feel so down ????
It hasn’t changed my mind about it even though I’m going to have a lot of grief now I just wish she’d support me or try to understand ????

Hey Chantelle Louise sorry to hear you are having a tough time with getting support. I had problems with my mum at first as she is dead against surgery. I’m a grown woman of 33 but wanted her blessing. Eventually after explaining I’ve wanted it for ten years and all of my body issues having to do with lack of boob she has started to come around. I’ve done lots of researching and showed her pictures of before and after ba jobs plus when she visits I show her random plastic surgery programmes I watch even the channel 4 naked dating show. To point out people who have had their boobs done. The more I talk confidently aboyt it and show knowledge the more she has taken me amd my decision seriously.

End of the day your mind is made up.all you can do is focus on the positive change you want to bring about. She probably doesn’t understand fully because as you said you never really open up but even then she may just have old fashioned ways.

I was worried my mum and friends would think I’m some sort of fake bimbo. But the more I thought about it I realised that it’s what I think and feel about myself that counts. I’m so excited for my ba and know that although it won’t solve every issue I have in life it’ll defo make me.more confident.

Sometimes a little time helps and once she sees how happy you are she will come around. Just focus on being happy you can’t please everyone at the expense of your happiness! I feel like I should have done it years ago!

Aww you poor thing, its horrible when someone close to you doesn’t support breast enlargement but its usually because they dont understand and have an unreal image of a ‘boob job’ in their head. My mum didnt agree with my decision but I did it anyway as I knew it would be good for me and now shes seen them and seen how much more confident I am she is more happy than me! They arent the ‘stuck on balls’ she thought they would be and she apologised for being so against it. Id say its your body and although people close to you dont agree, its due to their lack of knowledge and the stigma around breast augmentation, as long as you know that you have researched thoroughly and know this is what you want, no one should stop you. x

Yeah my parents were dead against it when I said I wanted a boob job 4.5 years ago so I knew that when I did it I wouldn’t tell them till after! We’re really close but they live 3 hours away so it was easy to hide as I see them every month or so. I told them like 8 weeks PO as my dad asked me direct so I had to be honest. They were totally cool with it in the end and even went out and bought me a new bra set. But even if they hadn’t been happy then what could they do – we’re adults aren’t we able to make decisions about our own bodies?! For my parents it was the fear factor of something going wrong in the op rather than the actual boob job. Try not to worry – your nan will just have to accept it and that’s it – FACT! It could also be a generational thing as I bet my Nan wouldn’t like to know I’ve had a boob job – but luckily for her she doesn’t know….hehee!!! Probably would be out of the will but who cares?!!!! Xx

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