Hey @lizzie 
I was allowed to shower as soon as I had my dressings taken off and incisions checked on day 7. You can’t get soap on the incisions but you can let water run over them
Also you can have baths but if you haven’t had your 1 week check you can only have your bottom half in the water and if you are past 7 days then you still have to make sure not to get soap or soapy water on your incisions.
Wipes were easiest for me
I went through so many packets lol. The shaving was the hardest for me because I couldn’t lift my arms up! But I managed to lift my arms enough to shave them on day 8 and it’s getting easier every day 
I hope this has helped and good luck with your recovery
xx