Stop moaning

Some people have got nowt better todo than moan. It’s like a social networking site so don’t post pictures if your that bothered about people seeing them. Have you got nothing better to do than moan about friend request or that they don’t message you. There is more to life than moaning about pathetic things like this. Some people arnt happy unless there moaning. Anyway if strangers (which all of you are) want to add me and see my pictures and not speak to me that’s fine because I’ve uploaded pictures and that’s the risk you take. End of! :))

love this! 🙁 i’ve come on here to get ideas on sizes etc but hardly anyones accepting me because i’ve never spoke to them before so i message them explaining and i still don’t get accepted, ahhhh 🙁 🙁 its difficult to talk to people when i’ve not had any surgery yet so i can’t join in conversations haha!

Same here!

I came on this site to find advice and help. And talk to girls who was having same size/ surgeon/ hospital as me just for added information. I just don’t get how people can moan. It’s the whole point to this site for help and advice from other girls going through same. 🙂

@kelly I’ve accepted you Hun feel free to take a look at pics I had 460cc implants over muscle dr chanterzak x

I see where you’re coming. I think I’ll be wanting to flash mine in the street once they’re done so don’t really care about knowing if people on here are genuine or a pervy man behind his computer haha. So if anyone wants to add me too that’s fine but there won’t be any pics til the beginning of March xx

They look great jade bet you love them. Incisions are so neat. Just had dressing took if mine today and I’m so happy with them he did a great job 🙂 x

Thank you Hun yeah I love them
Just can’t wait to wear normal bras congratulations so I’d today the first proper day you have seen then? I didn’t have bandages so I could see my straight away but I know with alot of girls they have strapping on x

The forum is not like Facebook… And it’s every individuals right wether or not to accept friend request it is insensitive to add people and rude and then not say anything or communicate ever again.. If that was the case there would be a website to look at before and after photos… the whole reason of accepting is to help another but also along the way we make friends… These days also there are weirdos and have been fake profiles within the forum,
Any stranger will not be seeing my pics and I am entitled to my own opinion..
So I think it’s not moanin as today I posted about friends request any adds with no personal message no acceptance along with if I feel not much activity.. Nothing personal

Thanks girls xx

As a new member it’s difficult to get started with friend requests, I’m only adding people who have similar stats to me for advice as that’s what I’m trying to achieve

Hi Michelle iv gt to say I agree with wat u say it’s bit off puttin wen ppl say I’m not gona accept u bla bla it’s like they’re just asking for msgs off ppl like u say the hole point of this forum is to share and help each other I found it so useful seein ppls before n after pics so I really appreciate the girls that accepted me and answered my questions/queries I’m returning the favour by tryin to so the same u r brave for bein the one to post this msg which is wat a lot of ppl think lol xxx

You’re welcome to add me ladies… I was in your position only a month ago not knowing what to ask and feeling like I had nothing in common with anyone who was post op when I wasn’t! haha x

Yes candy it’s true what your saying and yes it’s your opinion jst stop moaning about it or don’t come on this site. Like you say you don’t after accept so don’t what’s point posting about it, just makes you look bitchy and puts girls off wanting to use this site for information.weirdos arnt going to stop trying just because you said your not accepting them, Putting your name and picture on anything to do with internet is a risk of weirdos seeing it, but doesn’t stop people using internet so just get on with it!

Iv been on this forum for over 2 years the problem is some things have happened where someone was found on facebook and they added there pictures of here on to there so people can see that’s before pictures as well! had people messaging them saying nasty things! and lets be honest who wants an old man perving over their pictures and most probably sending them to people! its not about moaning and being rude it gets annoying when you get 50 friend request and only 1 sends you message, nothing wrong with sending a message and asking whole reason why its there other wise it would just be an open free site where anyone can see everyones pictures.

I’m not moaning and infact I’m not the only one, I think your being rather rude love causing an argument, I am not in any way being ‘bitchy’ as I must say you sent me a request also without a message and If for you it’s normal to think it’s not so rude to add people without message that is fine for YOU
And I for one give out many advise on the forum. And have made many friends along the way so I think you shouldn’t target your words on solely me without even knowing me…

I’m not targeting my word solely at you. But you was the one who made the statement about it, when there was no point to it, I don’t know what you was going to active from it. Your opinion if you think I’m been rude you just don’t like the fact. I don’t want to argue with you I have better things to do. I just don’t get why you made a point off telling everyone you wasn’t going to accept them with out a message or activity surly you would just press ignor and end of. Better things to talk about on here so good day!

i agree with both sides… i actually find a thread quite annoying thats filled with replies that just say ‘can i add you hun?’ which most of them are.. also it easy for an old perv to write ‘can i add you hun’ so youre not protecting yourself at all once theyre up and once you’re adding anyone you’re risking pervs seeing your pics..

fine if you dont wanna add with out a message though especially if you find it rude but i personally wouldnt x

Also people have careers. Some jobs wouldn’t allow this on the internet so it’s called a compromise. We’re willing to post up but please talk to us and give us a sense of security for who’s viewing our pictures. It’s only fair. I sympathise hugely with new girls. Like 3 months ago I was the same. But I asked questions did my research got involved and made friends along the way. I see both sides of the argument but girls you can’t get something for nothing. I don’t know why you wouldn’t want to talk to someone, even if it’s just to say hi I’m completely lost here
XX

I’ve not read through all the posts but just to the OP and the women sayng “ermagerhd itz sur hard to get ppl to let me see der pics” sending a message, saying “Hi, I’ve sent a FR, hope thats OK, would like to see all your tit pics and thought it would be polite to send a message first” BOOM, is that REALLY that hard? So whilst we’re all *pathetic* for asking for you all to have some basic manners, I can say the same for you, whinging about the fact you’ve been asked to behave like a decent human being, is sending a one line message really that hard girls, come on :/ There are countless men who join the forum, send FRs, take your pics and upload them other places, if you acceot all Frs with out knowing the person this is what will happen to you.This is an information forum, it’s not a social network, it’s not your RIGHT to be able to see my breasts lol, so why you feel the need the have a strop about that is beyond me, some people do love the drama 😉 I did the see the post telling Candybabey to stop coming here or shut up, I and many other women here will know that Candy in particular offers a LOT of help to women on the forum, she is one of few such as my self who does research and then extends that knowledge to others. So my message to you is to stop being a whinge bag and send me lots of topless pictures of yourself for me to plaster all over the internet where ever I please at my leisure, I ask this because when we accept a FR this is the risk we are taking. I will say I am very disappointed by the girls who are so ungrateful for the help, feel that simply by joining they have the right to my pictures and feel that my asking for a simple message to see my pictures is unjust…. no common courtesy or common sense. This is a surgery forum, it’s not myfreetitpics.com or nakedhos.co.uk, there would better manners out of barnyard animals than some of you.

This thread made me facepalm so hard I almost knocked myself out.

I think this has gon a bit to far no need for some of the comments as if it’s a massive argument I don’t think anyone intended to hurt/upset/target anyone basically I have never sent a fr without sending a msg as yes it is polite to do so but the thing is I come on here often I ask questions I answer questions I put pics on I try to help ppl chat to ppl etc but even to me wen I see someone postin sayin I am not going to accept fr it’s a bit off puttin it makes u feel like I can’t add them (as wouldn’t wana be rejected I spose) … That’s just my opinion I see both sides of the argument but I just think it’s a bit silly to be so nasty/aggressive with some of the things ppl r sayin it’s too much x

Moaning. .. I would love to no how this is moaning… I posted about friend requests because it is rude..it takes all of two seconds to be polite, manners costs nothing.. this forum has helped me pre op and post op.. im now 3 weeks post n have meet sum lovely girls on my booby journey from either me sending a message or them sendin me a message.. its not easy been pre op but if you involve urself u get the advice u need and get to meet some lovely ppl.. and ill say it again if no one can arsed to just ask or owt I wont be acceptin as I dont want my pictures to be plastered anywhere else.. as I do av a job which wouldnt appreciate my boobs all over net… u say for us to stop misnin.. ur doin a dam gd job of it urself!!

Couldn’t of said it better myself kaydee ! reason why I’m coming off this for a while and uploaded my last pics tonight until I’m 1 year post op ! It’s certain people like this that make us out to be nasty people by not accepting when were not! It’s just common courtesy to send a message as quite frankly i don’t want old men look at my pics in fact any man accept my boyfriend ! And the work side is true as well I work in a school and if any of my pics got rounds god I would be devo xx

That’s exactly it Rinx, I used to spend a lot of time here and loved helping but I have taken a step back due to those kinds of attitudes. To those who feel the posts about *please send a message* are off putting, I really have no idea what to say to you…. IMO when sending someone a FR for the purpose of looking at their pictures sending a quick message is the least you can do, I wouldn’t want to add someone, look at their boobs and never to talk to them, it makes no sense, you can look at boob pics on the internet all day long, you join a forum for friendship, advice and support, there are plenty of us who have been through it and are happy to help but ask for you to have manners…. if I say I won’t accept a FR without a message, I can not fathom how that is off putting as I have clearly stated that if you try to converse with me, I will add you, so whilst lots of ladies say they can see both sides I really can’t, I see no negative to you sending a FR with a message. The very worst that will happen is you will be rejected, it’s not the be all end all, it’s not going to hurt you in anyway, so what is the issue? The feeling you are putting across is that because we are here our pictures become your property? That is ridiculous. We’re not asking you to jump through hoops here :/ Look at it like this…. many of us who have a BA have friends who are curious and will ask if they can see them, we may allow them to do this as they are friends, we know and trust them, however if a random walks up to you in street and expects to see your breasts purely because she wants hers done too, you’d tell her to do one… it’s the same principle. Yes the thread got a bit shouty but to be fair, look at the way the post and response from the OP are written, what else could be expected? Just because my breasts are fake that doesn’t make them any less MY breasts, they are not public property, they are a part of me, showing someone topless photots pre BA is the exact same as post BA. Many women here never add pictures, ever, they are not less helpful to the forum down to this, pictures are in fact the least helpful part of this forum, even if you see pics from a lady with the same, size, stats, CC and dr, you will still not have the same result as everyone has a different body and different anatomy, if join here simply for pics rather than to discuss the process of the operation you may as well go and buy a lads mag tbh.

Bloody hell bit ott don’t u think?? … NO ONE sed that ur pics become public property or anythin like that ppl r entitled to their opinion as u r the only one turnin it nasty is u to say that barnyard animals have more manners and comments like that there is simply no need wat so ever !! It’s things like that that r off putting u feel so strongly about this that u r bein nasty about it other ppl have jus said ther opinion not nastily or anythin over the top
So u want ppl to send a msg sayin wat exactly normally ppl jus say hope u don’t mind the add if this is enough it doesn’t tell u anythin about them :s it is just as easy to .. If someone adds u just simply click on ther name to check ther activity to see if they seem genuine other than that I don’t understand wat ppl want a msg describing wat??? That’s the off putting part cuz girls don’t no wat to say to be able to add u this is my opinion it’s not nasty or bitchy

As I currently have 2 pages of friend requests which have not sent me a message when I clearly ask on my profile for people to message me first, I thought I’d add my opinion.
I believe it is common courtesy to ask to add as a friend first as it gives you even a slight conversation with the person rather than accepting a silent request and not hearing a word, that just seems weird to me?
There is a reason we have private accounts, so that we can offer advice ad still have some level of privacy.
If people find it annoying that they have to email to ask to send a request then I emplor this; would you get in someone’s car without asking them? Or go in to their house without asking? The answer is, no, not unless you are up to no good. It’s the same principle, you’re allowing people in to your personal life and need a level of respect.
I try my hardest to reply to all my PMs, mentions and questions as I enjoy helping people, but I draw the line at someone adding me without any prior interaction
Xx

Ladies please, enough. Make your individual decision about how you wish to add friends, and don’t comment on each others choices, especially not in a rude way. This forum has been a great source of help and support to me and unlike a lot of you girls the outcome physically hasn’t been great and I’ve had some ups and downs. We’re here to help each other, and offer support please let’s not forget that, personal choice is exactly that……personal so lets deal with each persons choice respectfully and Get back to what is important.

Hi girls, I have to say, I’m so glad I’ve come across this post! As a new member myself and at the booked consultation stage, I felt like I weren’t in a position too add friends, make comments or have an opinion!! I have no friends on here yet, as I’ve found I’m far to scared to ask anyone to b my friend for fear of being rejected by some of the post op girls!! I am no pervert, I am just a girl looking for help advice and info on getting new boobs!! I have yet to learn all the ‘boob lingo’ and feel like the new girl at school on here!! So any new friends would be greatly welcomed!! Xx

I have no problem people adding me but at least send a message as well. What’s point in adding people to look at their pics if you don’t know what size they have etc!!

@gemma add me if you like x

@gemnseph i’m the same, i’ll add you hun xx

Think I tagged the wrong person? @gemnseph xx

Aww thank u xx

It’s common courtesy to ASK people if you can add or can they see their private pictures. It’s not anyone’s right. I’m confused why people think they have the right just because there is a forum like this. Personally I don’t mind people adding me as like others have said it’s so helpful during the researching and recovery stage. Although it’s rude not to ask. At first I used to just add people and completely understood if they didn’t want accept, it’s THEIR choice not yours. If people want advice or help then this is done by communicating MESSAGING or FORUM POSTS not just by seeing a picture so your argument where you say it is helpful isn’t really valid. If it’s pictures what you want (I’m guessing it is otherwise there is no need for Friend requests) then Google is an option.

Not stiring the pot again but as a user who does message and hav made some lovely online friends I wanted a little say in this post.

Hey girls. I’m the same as @chlobo.. Feel free to add me 🙂 I understand where the other girls are coming from but I get what it’s like to be new too! It’s a really good forum and had helped me so much.. If anyone e wants any advice then feel free to message me but if you just want to get an idea of what yours might look like if we have similar stats then add away too 🙂 xx

Hey girls. I’m the same as @chlobo.. Feel free to add me 🙂 I understand where the other girls are coming from but I get what it’s like to be new too! It’s a really good forum and had helped me so much.. If anyone wants any advice then feel free to message me but if you just want to get an idea of what yours might look like if we have similar stats then add away too 🙂 xx

I am 50/50 to both sides of this discussion. I either add or i don’t. If someone asks for information it’s fine if i get a request without a message that’s also fine. Just make your pictures private or certain ones? X x

I had the same people wouldn’t add me, but now ive had mine done loads of people add me, but i just add them, because i need to see sizes and get good ideas before i had mine done, so i do the same for these randoms.. IM proud of my new badboys even if one is still a little higher than the other at 12 po, in hoping this is normal for some peeps lol x

Im really pissed off to see this argument on here….look girls IF someone is perving being a bloke or whatever…SO WHAT if someone really wants to have a w*** over boobs the internet is full of gorgeous women with boobs and foofs out on show dont think anyone will “get off” to PO boobs with scars and strapping lol, look girls we are all here for the same reason, if you want to be extra safe dont put any head shots in your pics while your boobs are also in the pic….therefore its just another pair of boobs, and no face to go with it. This forum has been soooo helpful and the girls on here are amazing!! cannot thank you all enough you give more info than even a surgeon would I think your all fab!! Please dont argue over FR or msgs its pointless. And also with a heading like “all done pics up!” Or similar is going to spark interest in your pics so I suppose girls jump at the chance because they have similar or want similar or want to see results ect. Tbh I thought I knew exactly what I wanted last year….so glad ive seen girls pics because now I really know what I want and what I dont . Its really helpful. And PO girls just please please bear in mind how it was for you before the op. Some people might not message first they probably just dont know what to say. Lets all stay friends who else have we got to turn to. Big hugs and kisses your all amazing ladies I think xxxxxxx

Well said @sarah!
We should be happy and spreading the love.. Boobie love at that 😀
No need for any one to be nasty or rude! Add or don’t add & let’s move on!
If anyone isn’t happy just get off the forum! We don’t need any negativity!
Xxxxx (“v”)

there isn’t a right or wrong to this, but it is common courtesy to send a message, you wouldn’t go up to someone in the street and ask to see their boobs (not that I think anyone would either) I don’t think anyone is saying not to add at all or haven’t got the right to, but for me its nice to send a message and to actually talk to the person! my problem is not too long ago someone got hold of someones photos on here and put it over facebook, and its the before photos could you imagine their family members seeing their boobs esp when they didn’t show anyone in the first place! iv also seen a lot of girls on here that are on twitter how easy could that be for me to just start tagging them of their boob pics! iv been on this forum for over 2 years and iv seen a lot of horrible stuff happen to do with that sort of stuff so that’s why I ask for a message and a talk xx

I agree thats horrible, but Unfortunately pics can get sent through the internet it is the risk we take, which is why I said not to put face with boobs. Therefore it could be anyone In the pics and anyones boobs. However its totally up to the individual if you accept or dont accept girls. Just dont think anyone needs to argue over it we are all generally here for the same reason. I say if u get an add without a msg, maybe msg that person and ask what their having ect… they could just be shy but need help xxx

Love this! Its about talking to people who are in similar situations as you or undergoing the same procedure so you have ideas on what to expect. Well thats why im on here anyway im not interested in seeing someones tummy tuck when ive just had a breast uplift it wont be no help to me! Lol x

This has made me feel really worried, I’m gonna delete my pics and put them back on later with my face removed. X

@A30 smart move hun, stops the worrying of where pics can end up, remove the face and then its anybodys guess whos pics are whos. Xxx

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