Surgeon Consultation – Come out feeling quite sad. :( Can anyone help me, please

Hello all,
I’ve just had my consultation with Dr Fiumara…She seems nice, but given the news I got during the consultation I’m feeling quite down as I now have some hard decisions to make.

First of all, I guess some background information. I wear a 34A bra but I suspect a 36AA would fit better (if I could ever find the size!) I have been padding my bras out since I was a teenager (being a tall, well built girl with no boobs is no fun in school.) I suspect my padding makes me look about a DD (a lot, I know! Embarrassed but…) which, on my frame looks in proportion (ish).
I have a long term boyfriend who finds me attractive (at least, he says he does and I have no reason to believe otherwise!) and I mostly wanted the surgery because I find that all the padding restricts
what I can do – I don’t go swimming, exercise outdoors, wear low cut tops because I know any of these things would show how padded out my bras really are.

I live away from most of my friends and family, I have the money for surgery and I’m not currently employed – I figured I could get the surgery, aim for the most natural looking breasts possible and then I wouldn’t ever need to tell anyone. I figured if I went for a smaller size they would look more natural, and I could wear a padded bra if I still wasn’t happy.

So, today when I met with Dr Fiumara I was heart broken to find out that I have seemingly every possible thing wrong with my boobs! They’re tubular, the left is much larger than the right, my left nipple is lower than my right…. and they’re apparently too big…And that my breasts are too wide apart to ever create a natural looking cleavage out of a bra 🙁

She suggested 350cc round implants for one and 375cc for the other. I tried in the sizers and felt like they were smaller than the padding I already wear…. I thought this would be OK though, until she explained that she would prefer to put the implants over the muscle. I had wanted under, because I know that is more likely to look natural… but because of the shape of my breasts, she said under would likely create a sort of double boob effect where my pointy boob sits on top of a round implant….
When I asked if she felt I had enough tissue to cover the implant she said “barely” but she thinks so. That I should be prepared for my implants showing and for rippling…and of course the increased risk of CC.

She also said, to create a better shape for my breast she would want to remove a part of my breast tissue to make them less pointy, and also cut out and move my nipples (leaving circular scars around them).

All this has left me close to not getting surgery at all – because I might be too ashamed to show the new boobs in public if the implants are visible AND the addition of covering my boobs in scars & having them an odd distance apart when not in a bra..it makes me feel like I’m changing boobs my boyfriend likes already into weird Frankenboobs 🙁
The only really benefit I can see over all the padding is that I will be able to go swimming and stuff again.

If anyone can help at all, I’d really appreciate it… I went into the consultation feeling like I had small boobs that were not a great shape, but fairly normal, to leaving feeling like I’m deformed.
I rushed off before talking to my PC because I felt like I was going to cry 🙁

Thanks for reading this super long, complainy post.

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Hey chic, sorry to hear your consultation didn’t go as planned, ide deffinatley suggest seeing another surgeon for a second opinion, big hugs xxxx

Aw, thanks, lovely. That’s very kind! 🙂 xx
Yeah, I think I might…
After this I’m a little anxious about meeting with another surgeon and going through it all again!
Trying to get the confidence up to post a “before boob” picture to see if anyone else looks like me.

Big saggy boobs? That’s awful! I’m so sorry you went through that.
That being said, I’d rather big saggy ones than tiny-odd-nippled-pointy ones! 😛
You’ve made me feel a bit better, like I have more of an option than I felt I did. Thank you so much! x

I had a consultation with her too and to be honest, a lot of the things you say were said to me and I totally understand how it can be disheartening esp as the reason you’re going into this is to try and make improvements to a part of your body that you’re not happy with. So it can easy to only hear the problems rather than the solutions. If it is something that you’re paranoid about its easy to only hear the bad stuff – I’m exactly the same.
I would agree to seeing another surgeon for a second opinion. I saw two and actually preferred Fuimara, but it is a personal thing and very important that you are happy with the surgeon and their vision for the end result. Don’t be too put off – see someone else as there is always another viewpoint xxx

As for the ‘big saggy look’ surgeon, I am appalled for you! It would almost be hilarious in its outrageous rudeness if it wasnt so bloody offensive and personal!! I’m speechless!

Deffo,I was 100% sure I wanted him as his works amazing,a few of my friends have also had him and there results to are amazing! I ended up contacting him privately as I was so impatient haha. Consultaion i was slightly nervous as I’d read people had found him rude etc,I wouldn’t describe him as rude atall. He’s just very professional and straight to the point. Which is what you want. He was very understanding though and listened to what I wanted etc and then advised me on what was best! The consultaion is over quite quickly. I really think the minute he sees your boobs he knows exactly what size/placement etc. He does soooo many a day and has done so many. He’s amazing! Go see him Hun!xxx

Hi Ally,
Thanks for getting back to me… Do you mind me asking what did Dr Fuimara do for you in the end? Was it a simple BA or did she do additional work?
I think the thing I’m most bothered by is the nipple bit… My nipples have never upset me & I’m not aiming to be on the cover of a Lad’s mag at the end of this. 18 months of angry red scars around my nipples & increased risk of loss of sensitivity is a big deal to fix a problem I’ve never cared about!

I’ll get a second opinion. It’s nice to know she made similar remarks to you, anyway. Makes me feel a little more normal again. 🙂

Hollie – Thanks, you’ve been really helpful. He sounds really good. 🙂
I’m gonna do my best to book a consultation with him – hope I can do it soon, I really wanted to get it all done this summer!

operationswimsuit Oh hun, you are totally normal! (What even IS ‘normal’ anyway – the image you see in lads mags?! Airbrush!) I totally understand where you are coming from….To me she said that she could reduce the size of my areolas and also that one of my nipples was slightly lower than the other (which I had never noticed) and also that I would not be able to achieve a natural cleavage….all of which I took with a pinch of salt.

Like you I never thought there was anything wrong with my nipples per say, I just wanted more fullness and shape to my slightly empty and tubular boobs! I am not looking for perfection, I just want to be more in proportion and more confident in myself again as I used to totally love my boobs until I hit 30, gained weight and things became less perky! I told Fuimara that I was not bothered about the nipple resizing (I actually like my nipples and don’t consider them to be that large compared to others I have seen! Plus the other surgeon I saw – Marcellino – didn’t even mention them)….she didn’t mention a nipple lift or anything to me, just pointed out that one was lower than the other and I think as I wasn’t bothered by it she didn’t pursue the matter (plus like you I am not sure that the additional scars are worth it if I wasn’t bothered by it to begin with)….as for the natural cleavage, I thought that most natural boobs don’t actually have a cleavage anyway without the help of a bra, so I am fine with that too! I want them to look like I have always had them and not like an 90’s playmate with two beach balls stuck on my chest! So don’t gain even more insecurities from the consultation than you had before as that is a slippery slope and suddenly you will see a problem with everything!

I am currently a 36B (pretty empty though!) and larger then the majority of beauties on this forum (14-16 for my sins!) I am booked in with Fuimara on the 28th July for a standard BA 450 – 500cc moderate plus overs – which initially I thought were too big (esp as Marcellino said 400cc high profile maximum!) but she explained about the projection of the implant (MP) being more in keeping with my body shape and stature and I am confident that I will get the results that I want…..plus I think that anything will be better that than what I have now anyway!

All of the surgeons at MYA seem to be brilliant in their own ways and the girls on here have had some amazing results from all of them – so see someone else and see what they suggest. It may be the same, it may be very different, but there will be a ‘match’ for you! xx <3

ps, I also write a lot!! haha!

Aw, Ally. You’re a sweet one! Thank you 🙂
I’m sure you look gorgeous (we are after all, our own harshest critics) but I really hope your operation gives you your confidence back.

I’m just turned 23 – but my boobs just never really developed. All my weight goes straight to my hips, bum & thighs! I think I’m quite a lot bigger than most of the girls who post on here as well. I don’t put much stock in clothing sizes (my wardrobe spans from a size 8 to a 16!) I measure sort of B:35inch W: 26inch H:36inch (depending on how strict I have been with cake & exercise, you understand..) but my bust measurement is mostly a very large ribcage 🙁 So, I guess my fear is less that I will not have a cleavage but more that my boobs will be miles apart!

I’ve sent my PC an email requesting another surgeon, because given what you’ve said I think the very worst that can happen is they’ll tell me it all again…and the best is that I can either find a surgeon who matches what I want more, or take the new surgeon’s comments back to Fiumara and ask her to change what she was going to do. 🙂 Thanks again, lovely! x

You’re more than welcome! Keep me informed of how it goes x

@chris there’s a post above this one about tuberous breasts,just member you said you were told yours were,there’s photos too! Might be good for you to have a look xxx

Thanks, Hollie!
Just had a look and it was really good. My boobs are actually very similar to the girl who started the post. Will be nice to hear how her consultation goes! x

That’s really good!! See everyone is similar one way or another,hope that helps xxx

I’m sorry I’m so late to reply to you, Georgie.
I had Dr Fiumara first. I’ve just been to see Dr Marcellino and he was much more positive and told me I could go for a regular BA instead 🙂

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