Telling my mum…

I know this sounds ridiculous…(i’m 26 for goodness sake!) but i’m really struggling to tell my mum about having it done.

I want to. It’s a big procedure at the end of the day & i think she’d be upset if she found out after i have it done that i hadn’t told her. Has anyone else felt like this? My op’s in just over 2 weeks so it’s getting to a now or never stage but i’m actually scared!!x

Hi Emma, I’m not actually telling my mum at all, she really doesn’t want me to do it. And when I did mention it she freaked out so I haven’t told her anything since. I guess she will kinda know when I wear my clothes but she will never ask me… It’s up to you Hun but I found it easier to not tell her or any of my family and I live at home, just spending a week with my boyfriend. Xxx

My mum has been a nightmare, she cried when I told her and told me I was risking my life. She’s such a drama queen!! I’ve not told my Dad though, I don’t think he will mention it either if he notices, he’s a bit of a prude. I totally get where you’re coming from though Emma its so scary and if your Mum is anything like mine she won’t take it well. Xx

@emvh I felt the exact same as u! I was sooo scared to tell her in the end i waited til 6days before my op i didnt have the guts to tell her to her face so i wrote out a txt and even then i sat and stared at it for over an hour in the end my husband grabbed my phone and clicked send i then switched my phone off for an hour haha! When i finally turned it back on i had a msg saying that im so silly and that i should of just told her as she she would support me no matter what! She then actually came with me and husband on the day and has popped into see me everyday this week making me tea and lunch i actually couldnt of done it without her!! I really thought she would freak out and say how stupid i was but she didnt. Its def a big procedure and you need all the help and support u can get so u do have to tell her she might be ok with it u never know. Good luck 🙂 xx

Hey Emma !

I was the exact same as you. I told my mum I had been for a consultation and she went mental saying stuff like I was stupid and that if anything happens then it’s my own fault and she wants nothing to do with it. She also said she wouldn’t help me at all recovery wise but I just was like ok fine my bf will help me anyway so I won’t bother you at all. As the time got closer and she realised that I had made my choice and was actually going through with it she began asking more about it and started to realise and understand why I wanted to so it for myself. She then booked some time off work for after my op, bought my new pjs and was amazing at looking after me. Just bite the bullet and tell her, at the end of the day she’ll probably come round eventually.

Xx

Thanks girls! @emmadd @keli i think i really need to! I get the feeling it’s going to be met with shock, lots of questions & then hopefully her being ok about it. Like you say it’s all of our choices at the end of the day. My friend pointed out that i might actually need help after it as well – i’m usually pretty independant so don’t always willingly ask – and that she could actually be quite hurt if she found out afterwards x

Hi I as exact same as you!!! I wrote her a letter and put everything in that I wanted to because sometimes you can say everything you want out loud. I put it on her bed and she read it and was just like awwwwwwww darling! Letter is a good way I think haha xx

I went through exactly the same thing..my mum is so anti – surgery! I used to drop hints by watching programmes on plastic surgery etc..n when I used to say “mum, what do u think about that?” She literally used to be blank n tell me to s)be quiet haha. Anyway I knew I was defo going to do this n felt so worried that if I told her it would cause something n potentially stop this from happening bit 9ne day I just came out with it. I sat with her n explained what I wanted to do n why I wanted it, n she just sat n stared at me..I didn’t know what to think so kept talking. Unbelievably she was supportive about it n said fine, she wanted to come with me to my consultation n is completely fine with me doing this. Just to give u some background my mum is a strict lady who is quite traditional in het views so her saying ok to me was a complete shock… your mum might be more upset with u if you don’t tell her and just go ahead and do it than u telling her..xx

I told my mum after I’d been for my initial consultation cause me and my boyfriend felt really guilty lying about where we’d been as she does so much for us. I took her some info and she instantly went mad. I got the whole ‘but you’re so beautiful the way you are’ but I told her I wasn’t asking I was just telling her what I was doing. Anyway she came round and by the next day she was searching low interest loans for me and she actually got it out in her name! She’s been so supportive since my op and helped out loads with my daughter I’m so glad I told her. I wasn’t gonna tell my dad so I got my mum to tell him a couple of days after, he just said I’m silly for not thinking I could tell him and it’s my body to do what I want with and if I’m not happy with something and can change it why not. I think they’re usually more understanding than we think 🙂 good luck xx

I finally told her today & she was absolutely fine about it – i reaply shouldn’t have worried! She’s freaked me out a little bit about the GA & her hoping nothing goes wrong but she really was OK x

Hi there!
It’s so refreshing to know that I’m not alone with the mum worries! I know my mum won’t like the idea of me getting a BA (I’m still in my researching stages!) and I am always curious about how other people tell their parents things.

I usually write her a letter and just write down how I feel and leave it on her bed or post it to her!

Fair play to anyone who can just come out and tell their mum! Sooo brave!
xoxo

So pleased Emma. Not long now xx

@amyt i literally just blurted it out in the car! I’d planned on going for a coffee & telling her but then the coffee shop was really busy & filled with blokes so on the way home had a bit of a “now or never” moment & just came out with it.

@jessica2930 i know! It does seem to be dragging a little bit though doesn’t it?!xx

It’s already been a long week and it’s only Tuesday :-/ the next 12 days are going to be hell. Because I’ve booked the surgery on my actual birthday I’ve not made any plans and I’m avoiding any nights out because of the alcohol so people are starting to wonder if I’m expecting, there’s only a few people that know what I’m doing. I’ll have to announce the arrival of twins once I’m done haha xx

@jessica2930 tell me about it! I don’t really have any prep to distract myself with either. Haha! I love that! Forgot that it was your birthday as well xx

[Author]

Posts