Telling the family

Hi ladies

Firstly I’m super excited to have a surgery date (10th May) In Manchester. My closest friend and partner know. I don’t think my Mum or Sister will understand, not only the procedure but the cost (they’d be thinking/saying you could spend that money in a better way) Any suggestions would be greatly received. I also have two boys (12 and 7 years old) any help there too? There has always been a standing joke of my “bee stings” , but to actually do something about it I worry about their acceptance x

Hi Jane.
I got myself so worked up about telling our 18 year old son & my parents especially my dad – it was making me feel quite anxious & ill.
I’d had my initial consultation & then been to see the surgeon the following week. I’ve booked my surgery for 25th April & came away feeling quite excited – but knew I would now have to ‘come clean’ & tell them all 😬
That evening I plucked up the courage to tell our son. Whilst a little shell shocked – he was absolutely amazing. Although he wishes we would all just accept the way we are & not feel the need to modify our bodies – once I’d explained why I wanted to do it – he simply said ‘mom – if it will make you happy & more confident – it’s a no brainier!’ Bless him. He’s been so supportive.
Then it was time to tell my parents 😬
I got myself into such a state they were really worried what I was about to tell them…
The first thing my dad said was ‘I’ve got something down the shed that can fix those!!’ 😆
He then said ‘it’s your body – you do what you want’’
My mom feels guilty that she ‘couldn’t give you what me & your sister have!!’ 😊
All of them are worried about the things that can go wrong but all so very supportive & I feel like a massive weight has been lifted now they all know. I don’t need to keep it a secret now & can openly talk about it & it’s so much better.
I’d say – don’t worry & just tell them your reasons – I am sure once they know – they will understand & support you xxxx
Even my sister rolled her eyes when I told her – once I gave her the reason why – she too just said – she’d be there for me. 🥰
Just sit them down – ask them to listen before judging & then let them have their say. I’m sure in time they will all understand x
Good Luck 😉

Hi Dee
Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to help ease my situation, I really appreciate your message. I hope my family are as supportive as yours were x

Hi Jane
I don’t think it should be about the money at the end of the day. It’s all about your happiness, wellbeing & confidence. And that in itself is worth any amount of money – so I’d like to think they’d be happy for you xx

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