Who are you telling?

As you can see ladies I haven’t put my profile pic on and while Im 100% getting a BA Im not sure if I want to tell anyone. I’ve obviously told my husband as will massively need his help, we have 2 small children. I’ve told my Mum, Grandma and my best friend just to talk about it and non of them get it but are fully supporting me.

I don’t think anyone will notice too much as I was a DD and always wear massively padded bras now but I’m not sure if I even want to talk about it to people. I don’t need their opinions good or bad. I’m not young and single because then I wouldn’t give a toss, I know this sounds awful but I’m married and well involved in my kids school and community…I don’t want to be known as “The Mum who had a boob job” I don’t feel like that at all. I’m totally with anyone making them selves feel better but lets face it people are not nice at times….

It will be hard to hide the Op as staying away 2 nights and then recovery…not sure what to do or how to hide if I choose. What are you ladies doing if you don’t mind me asking? x

I’ve only told my close family I don’t need nore want the attention it’s not for anyone els it’s to make me feel like a women and bring me some confidence every one is diffrent you could always just say your going to see an old friend or somthing if want to its totally your decision and should not care what others think you have one life yours not there’s I also so have children x3 as long as you have someone to help you I say go for it xx hope this helps

I totally get where you are coming from! I don’t have children but when mentioning getting a boob job previously the reaction I got from colleagues/my dad! etc was that I am being ridiculous! A few friends, my boyfriend and my mum and grandma are the only ones I am telling! I’m hoping to go for a natural look and I wear majorly padded bras anyway so I doubt people at work will notice – I’m just worried about the recovery period as I have only booked a week off work! But if worse comes to worse and people do find out, you are doing it for yourself not them. I wouldn’t worry too much. X x

Thanks girls! Why are people so gossipy and weird. I think my reservations come from one of our friends who had a nose job and they were awful behind her back. From she doesn’t need it to what a waste of money. Its infuriating. I have a small hernia in my rib cartlidge from being pregnant which doesnt need an op yet but could totally say its that but then I wouldn’t want to get found out and look like Im hiding it. Im not im proud and Ive been asked to do an anomous blog as im a writer anyway which I will to share the story and encourage anyone to go for it but I just don’t know if I want to keep it to myself or be proud and show everyone. xx

@ashley hey! Don’t worry I’m the same as you. I’m 7 days post op now and only one friend knows. None of my family/neighbours/other friends know. I also didn’t want to deal with the stigma attached to cosmetic surgery/breast implants and I know my circle of people would’t support me in it. I thought about it for years and tried to do it the natural way by taking supplements etc etc but it didn’t work for me, so it took me a lot of bravery to finally go for the op and the last thing I need is to deal with other people’s opinions and small mindedness and to explain myself. It’s a very personal journey. And I think you’re the best judge of whether it’s right to tell people or not about something close to you xxx

Alia, love everything you said their babe so true and sad and correct if you know what I mean! xx

Hi! I only told my mum and boyfriend. I had mine done over Christmas so saw all my family near enough every day! I just pretended I had pulled my back in the gym and wore loose clothes. X

Hey 🙂 only tell people you feel comfortable telling. I get the whole ‘you’re being silly why would you do that don’t need it blah blah’ I really don’t care. It’s for me. If you’re away for a couple of nights just tell them you’ve been ill so stayed inside? 🙂
Good luck & be proud

Hiya,

I’ve only told close family as I needed their help. They don’t get it either as they keep telling me your beautiful you don’t need it but they fully support me and were sad that I kept it hidden I was so unhappy for so long. I’m only young and to tell my friends I’m getting a ‘boob job’ just feels not the right words. To me it isn’t a boob job, it’s the ending for me feeling so crap. And if I told them the price then we’ll yeah I would get ‘lol what a waste of money’ but they would happily spend that on a car. My first week was terrible but not many of my friends noticed as I work full time and don’t often contact through the week. At two weeks post op I started going out and about and I just wore jumpers ( got to hide my breast band anyways ) perks of having ur op in the winter. And complained of a bad back… Which isn’t to far from the truth. Boobs haven’t been a bother however my back is in agony so that was quite easy. Again like you I always used to have big boobs so not much of a difference to the outside world. But a whole lot different to me:). I think in time I may tell my close friends but for me I want to be happy in myself before any of that. Hope all goes as you would like xxx

This happened to me today: had my ba lastweek, hence feeling better with pain and swellings. I posted a pix of me wearing a satin dress on my whatsapp today, n an old friend sent me a message saying “have u had your boobs done babe? Then i said Yes”, then she boldly said “oh, you had dem done to flaunt them???then i proudly said “Yes…some idiots in this world esp friends just dont know when to shut up…i believe if i dont tell you about it, DON’T ASK ME. it’s as simple as that, happy healing everyone x

Only my boyfriend and sister know. I still need to tell my mom which I feel won’t go down too well. Not due to the operation itself but due to the worrying mother side of things. I’m more anxious about returning to work more than anything. I work in a very male dominated factory. I’m not planning on telling anyone at work but I know they will notice. They gawp at anything with female parts and a pulse lol. I work with my boyfriend so he is worried about that bit too. My op isn’t till July 18th so have a while to go yet anyway.

I’m totally with you girls. I’ve only told my two best friends and my boyfriend and I’m not planning on telling anyone else. I’m hoping for a really natural look (almost like they look know with an insane amount of padding!) I too don’t want the attention- good or bad- and don’t really want to have to deal with any of the stigmas or other people’s nonsense attitudes… I’m doing it for me so I figure it’s only me who needs to know! I’ve told the people who’ll be involved in my after care and that’s enough for me. Xx

Yeah I’ve decided not to tell any more than I have now and just going to have excuse like over did gym or poorly. My husband is already “you sure you need this done its a bit vain, they look fine to me” …can cope with anyone else telling I’m vain let alone a stranger. People are horrible. I dont get judgements and nastyness. xx

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