What would you do if your best friend of 7 yrs threatened to disown you over BA? Started by: Jennie
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Basically I told my friend I was going for a consultation at MYA. We have both always spoken about wanting a BA. She said that she wanted one too. SO when I had my consultation with the surgeon, I asked my PC whether it is possible if we had them both done on the same day. My PC offered me dates and I spoke to my friend who said she wouldn’t be getting one for a while and wanted more children. We didn’t speak about it again and then I booked my surgery.
I haven’t gone around telling everyone as it’s something personal to me so chose my two closest friends to tell I was having it done in a group message.
She went absolutely mental. Saying I have f*cked her over and done it to get one over on her. She said if I go ahead she can’t be friends with me. Said she can never forgive me and feels I went behind her back. She has deleted and blocked me from contacting her.
She has been my closest friend for 7 years and now something that was meant to make me feel happier has left me feeling so miserable and I don’t know what to do…what would you do in my position?
I am due to have surgery on 26th Feb…
Awww that’s awful, bless you! Is she mad because she’s jealous? X
omg its not ur fault she wants more ids why should you put your life on hold for her, she should be happy that you are going to get it as you arranged for you both to get it done on the same day, she is just jelous she obviously isnt a really good friend deep down if she is reacting like that.
i hope you go ahead with your surgery and have an amzazing recovery just to annoy her even more.
xx
If she can’t realise this is something to make you happy and she’d rather you be sad and wait for her, then she’s not a good friend! Best friends should love you no matter what even if they are a bit jealous.
You should carry on with your OP as this is for YOU not her and its to make you happy and feel good about yourself.
I’m sure if she is a good friend she will come around and realise she’s being jealous and silly, but in the mean time, think about yourself and that your other friend is with you for it xxxI’m so sorry you have experienced this! But don’t let her guilt you into cancelling it or anything. If she can’t be happy for you then maybe she isnt someone you need in your life? This is going to be a positive experience for you you don’t need negative people trying to ruin it.
I wish you all the best with your surgery and can’t wait to hear about your journey on here 🙂 x
Sounds like she’s just jealous coz she doesn’t want you to get them done before her, which is pathetic & immature….. I hope you get 800cc’s & rub them in her face! Lol literally! xx
She’s no friend to behave like that. Complete jealousy x
Not a friend! She’s making it a competition between the 2 of you. Complete jealousy! xx
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2pnot gonna lie id tell her where to go… x
Agree with all the girls! She’s acting like a child. Your life, go for it. A real friend supports you no matter what. Xx
She isn’t a friend if she can’t be excited for you. Her loss not yours xx
Do what you want to do.. Never let anyone hold you back. You never know this could just be an initial reaction and she might come round if you start booking and getting ready for your surgery .. And if not then she’s just very jealous and doesn’t sound like someone you need in your life to be honest x
I know how hard it is to be in a situation with someone who you love and want to share an experience with but can’t, but you have to get it straight in your mind that right now she is not being a real friend to you, and if she is the person you thought she was she will eventually realise she is in the wrong and come back to you anyway. This is for you and shows no reflection on anyone else, don’t feel bad about it for a second, perhaps tell her you are sorry she feels that way and the door will be open for her if she chooses to view things differently however in the meantime you cannot allow yourself to be responsible for her happiness only your own and you don’t want to hear anymore about it whilst she is behaving that way xx
Hi sorry to hear ur friend is being that way. like the other girls have said she can’t be a real friend being like that uv got to do it for u don’t let any bodies option stop u Hun X x x
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0pNo offence but she sounds like the sort of friend that controls what you do Becoz she wants to better tha you. It’s your life and your doing it for you and you only. If that’s how she feels and really would do that, then I think tht speaks enough for its self! Don’t let someone else choose your happiness! X
Hmmmm, my opinion is she isn’t that good of a friend!
It must be hard lovely but she doesn’t sound like a very good friend! She should be happy for you and support you not let her jealousy get in the way of your friendship! I’d let her get on with being bitter and jealous and just focus on getting ready for your op, it’s her problem not yours! xx
Anonymous
2pI’d say she’s not your friend and your better off learning that now rather than later. Sorry it’s blunt but it’s the truth. Any friend in my life who acted that way would get the chop, 7 years or 17. Sorry hun <3 xx
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1pIt’s jealousy it has to be. Xx
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0pU dont need friends like that hun its pure jealousy x
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1pIn all honesty I would disregard her as a friend full stop! Let alone a best friend. You don’t need someone in your life that’s a) jealous b) will drag you down x
I’m sorry but your ‘friend’ sounds absolutely ridiculous. She isn’t really your best friend if she’s acting like that xx
Natalie
0pIf this was me … If tell her to grow up , you cnt put ur life on hold , who’s to say she might change her mind ?? Then what your never aloud it done ?? Seriously !!! I would think your friend of so many years is jel !! To be honest with you , go ahead and do it , never let others hold you back as life is far to short !!!
Thanks ladies. I can’t believe I actually offered to cancel my op. I am definitely going ahead and thank you for your support. I think it’s just hard to take that someone close to me would act so negatively over something that has no impact on them whatsoever. You ladies are all so lovely so thank you for keeping me sane and convincing me I’m not the unreasonable one. Happy Friday! Xxx
I agree with all the other girls! If she was a real friend she would be by your side supporting you no matter what, pure jealously!! Glad your still going ahead I also have my op on the 26th feb, good luck Hun xxxxx
Ahh Nicole where is your op? Mines at Preston xx
Sounds like jealousy. Any true friend would be happy for you x
Hey! You are better off not being her friend. You need to look out for your own happiness! It sounds like she sees your friendship as a competition, even if it is all in her head!
Do not cancel your BA for anyone!
Also remember, you have us on the forum! xOh wow! I never realised there are ppl like that! How about you dictate her life and tell her NOT to have any more kids? She sounds like she needs to grow up herself first!
My best friend of 15 years stopped talking to me few years back because I refused to get her mum and sister into UK so they can get o Ireland illegally from here. I have my values, she has different ones:) Its been 5 years and I don’t miss her much. Life is better without her jealousy and envy.Anonymous
0pI would not even waste your time worrying/thinking about it. She is clearly not a very good friend, even if she doesn’t agree with your decision, as a friend she should be supportive and keep any negative comments to herself. Plenty of my friends have made decisions that I do not agree with. Yet I’m still there for them if they need me, as it is their life. This is your life, do what makes you happy. A couple of people in my family weren’t overly keen on me having a BA, yet we just chose not to discuss it together. No one could ever make me change my mind, I’m scared but it’s what I want. Try again to communicate with her and see if you can build bridges, if she cant be bothered over something very petty, then move on and enjoy your life. Jealousy is something we’ll have to deal with, when we all have our new, amazing boobs. xo
Jennie I can’t believe I’ve only seen this now, bless you. You have nothing to feel bad about, a true friend would not judge you according to their experiences or preferences. They will support you through the thick and thin. Like most ladies have said I think your friend is envious that you are doing something she wants to do before her. She clearly isn’t thinking about your feelings as if she was she would be happy for you.
My best friend is against me having my boobs done and was being very negative about it, but I told her off and said it’s my life my choice and I’m going to do what I want with or without her support. I told her I dont want any negativity I’m doing it for me and noone else. She apologised after and said she supports me no matter what.
I’m not going to pretend that everyone will be happy for you, but the main thing is that you are happy and as long as you have that main love and support around you, you will be fine. It’s her loss hun and she might not realise now but she will do and will see how childish she is being.
Hope you’re enjoying your new boonies xx
Jealousy it’s yoy choice for yourself don’t listen too her opinions x
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