1st day post op

I’m home and feel well

I love my boobs already! I’ve hardly had any pain. I’m really mobile and quite surprised at the pain level, I was so nervous about the pain but it really isn’t bad. But my husband still isn’t happy he text me as I got to the hospital ‘one last chance, I’m asking you to cancel it!’ I had a complete melt down, crying my eyes out to the nurse & mr c, in the end after lots of crying i decided to go ahead. I can’t believe how close I was to canceling, I’m just hoping he snaps out of this silent treatment soon, he won’t even look at me

This is heart breaking. I thought he’d hav come round by now. Has he said he love you lately? You are still the same girl and surely he wants you to be happy! I’m still unsure to his reasons against it. My husband was and still says if he cd reverse it he would but he has accepted that this is what I wanted. He annoying and a crap husband at times but he’s at least somewhat supported my decision. You will need his support especially now that you are healing. It’s an emotional time as your body changes. You need him and he stands to lose you. Is there any way someone can talk to him? Help him see what’s going on? Xx

Ah hun glad u got them done as it’s what u want n not much pain is good but it’s a shame u have to deal with ur hubby! Why didn’t he want u to have it done then? I bet they look good I had mr c too xx

ahhh nat i hope your well it must be stressfull with having no support of your hubby but you have done the right thing if you wouldnt have done it you would have felt regret and resentment stay strong x x x

Sorry to hear about your hubby giving you the silent treatment But guess what, you’re in the boobie club now!!!!!!!! Hope it all gets better from here on in. Happy healing xx

Thinking of you Natalie. That is pants!

Glad you had it done – it’s your body, your decision. You would have held it against him if you had cancelled. If he see’s how happy you are maybe he will come round. He’ll never admit he was wrong – men don’t!

Big hugs honey,xxx

glad everything went well wit the op natalie, and your coping well with the pain. how they looking?

don’t really know what to say about your husband. he should be more supportive and i’m sorry that he’s not hopefully he’ll come to his senses soon and understand that you wanted this op done to make you happy!! x

Right ladies, I’ve had enough if my husband now. I don’t know what to do? He won’t talk or look at me, he sent meca text yesterday and im copying & pasting so you can give me your views! :

You wanted to know whats going through my head

I didn’t want it done!

I don’t like it!

I asked a number of times for you to cancel. It dosnt matter why I still asked

I used to be proud to have a wife like you but now I feel embaressed,ashamed I can’t even bring myself to look at you and I am angry at myself for that

I think it’s a real turn off

Your approach to the whole thing, I was very clear that you should not book it and although you say you love me and hate upsetting me you disregard this and go ahead with it anyway so clearly you don’t every chance you get you ask about me leaving and your whole attitude lately makes me think this is what you want me to do.

I have always said to you not to have it done and that I was not a fan But I didnt know how strongly I felt until this week and for the first time in my life I feel really let down, embaressed to be with you and I really! hate myself for this

On top of this work is really bad and I am constantly worrying about money. I feel like it always a struggle butyou can’t seem to understand this and again this makes me feel you don’t care about my feelings.

Because of all this I can hardly sleep, can’t eat and feel fisicly sick which is making me feel even worse.

I know it shoulnt be this big a deal but I can’t help it I really do not want to feel like this but I do and my biggest worry is I will not feel the same way about you again. I know this is an unacceptable statement to make and I didn’t want to let you know what was going through my head

I love you but I need to deal with MY own issues.

Sorry!

OMFG….thats shocking hun xxx He defo needs to deal with his own issues…he doesn’t deserve you hun xx

It’s doing my head in! At first I was really upset and crying all the time, but he’s been like this for 3 weeks now and I’m getting angry! He is making me feel down and when he’s around I’m just snappy and impatient with the kids. It’s got to stop soon! X

Men are just odd me thinks, Happy healing hun, concentrate on getting better!!! xx

im so gutted for you that you’re going through this with your husband! he needs to sort out his own issues before he deals with your new boobies! you shouldnt have to put up with him being like this. hope things get better soon lovely. and hope you’re healing well xx

Aaaah how annoying! He wants you to know how much he doesn’t want you to have it but hasn’t said why, and has he even bothered to listen to how much you do want it and why?? xx

he said that he feels you dont care about him because you went ahead with it after he said he didnt want you to get it done. … but surely by him saying that he’s being selfish and not thinking about how happy this surgery is going to make you. you must have had a self confidence issue for you to have had it done. he shouldn’t feel embaressed or ashamed of you! its your body, not his! you shouldnt take this off him. he’s trying to make you feel guilty for it, when you shouldnt AT ALL! keep smiling hunny. think how amazing you’ll feel when you go bra shopping over the next few weeks xxxxx

It seems to be all about him. And not about you. It also seems that be recognises he has a problem! Part of him probably feels you’ve taken some of his control away? Often men are power hungry and like to think they call the shots. Are you usually subservient to him and for once you have done something regardless of his wishes? He won’t like the new confident you and has nothing really to do with the surgery and the body change. I think whatever happens you have done the right thing for the right reasons. If you love him be patient while he sorts it out. Be easy on yourself while you heal and try to find comfort in being w the kids. They will always love you and accept you even if he does not. I find when my husband is being difficult I take it out on the girls and then I feel worse. It’s not them it’s him. Be brave and see it thru xxxxx

Hiya hun, i’m not too sure why he’s so upset, maybe it’s because he thinks you’ll change in some way.

Surely you’ve been talking about it and wanting it for many years and probably before you even met your husband. If you did’nt go ahead with it, what was he going to do to help you in terms of your confidence because I tell you something, you would be feeling regret for the rest of your life if you did’nt do it.

And whats to say that if you did’nt go ahead you and your husband would be having terrible arguments.

I really hope he can sort it out and get over his issues.

When he’s feeling a bit horny and your standing there in your sexy new underwear, you’ll make him eat his words and if he doesn’t then tell him he’s not getting any….LOL

He will come around i’m sure, this is not a reason for him to be ashamed of you, if you cheated on him or made him look like an idiot in public then maybe (mens pride) and I hardly think you’ve had them done so you can start getting them out and wearing low cut tops.

I think like the rest of us on here it’s a self confidence thing and to help with buying underwear that fits.

Anyway sorry for going on and well said to some of the other ladies that have offered advise as well.

Congratualtions on your new boobies hun and happy healing. Xx

p.s keep us posted and i’ll add you, I really would love to be able to give you hug right now how shitty to have to go through what you are. Oh and one last thing, I get like you too hun, when my husband is not talking to me, I tend to get angry after a while.

Keep the anger up and let him know that he can’t have the whole relationship his way and it’s your body, you’re a grown woman and can do what you like. He’s your husband NOT your dad….LOL

Tell him to get over it, THEY’RE STAYING!!! LOL

Man or mouse? hes your husband for christ sake…he should NOT have text that to you, he should of said it to your face like a MAN. if he didnt feel he could then he should of wrote a letter……………..only you know what to do, you have to do whats right, you need to ask yourself…..is he worth it(this hassel and guilt trip) and are you happy? if no then as hard as it is maybe you both have gone down different paths…..he needs to sit down and talk to you about how you feel and say how he feels and decide together wether you both can make it work.

he needs to swollow his pride, talk to you and see how you are as a woman not just his wife! xx

I feel so sorry for you babe that the person you need the most can’t be there for you – you must be feeling shitty!! I hope everything works out for you, but I really think you both need to talk at length- and you need to go into detail about why you chose to go ahead with surgery! Keep your head held high xxxxx

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