2nd thoughts.. again!! Please help!

Hi Girls!

Been on this forum for about a year now!! Researched having a BA loads, and have felt that I really want this done for ages..

Anyway, I had my op booked for August this year, and a few weeks before cancelled it cus i was soo scared about the whole thing! Ever since i cancelled- i honestly felt gutted that i had cancelled..still kept coming on here, and being envious of all the “brave” girlies on here!!

I then decided to book again.. and my op is now in 3 weeks time!! Now i’m thinking all the same things again!! Here are my thoughts..

1) I have 3 kids and a hubby!!- worried that im choosing to do this- with risks included

2)The money could be used for lots of other things..

3)Worried about the size, and if they might look too big

4)Lack of sleep/infection/sweeling/back pain..

YOU NAME IT.. EVERYTHING!! lol!

I know only I can decide.. but I know i’m never going to like the shape & size of my boobies!! Any positive words from u girlies would be great right about now!! Sorry its an essay!

xxx

jst wrote an essay back and its vanished lol! x

i have booked mine for next year and have the same worries as you, i also have kids and a husband and its alot of money and am worried there gonna look to big and fake and i to hate my breasts the way they are, i just think there are so many risks in life we take everyday and i know in myself that i dont want to live life unhappy and it would always be on my mind so i think once its done i would be a happier wife and mum and think of it as a positive thing, like you said only you can decide to go through with it and almost all the girls on here are so glad they have and would not change a thing, hope you make the right choice for you xxx

Imthe same as u Hun, I’ve had a few things done n it’s just cost nearly 10grand, but I was so unhappy about my body, my fella told me to do it, he paid half n my mum lent me half which is good as I pay it back interest free. I’m gonna feel like shit for a few week n then I’m gonna be over the moon, confident n start to like the way I look again which is a good thing! If I didn’t av it done I would of always wondered wat if n I would be so miserable. Jus do wat makes you happy. If there’s something in your life that u don’t like & it can be made better then make it better. You only have one life, make the most of it xxx

I can totally relate to what you are going through. Only I am even too scared to pick up the phone and make an appointment, so you are way ahead of me there. I did have an initial appointment last year, but didn’t want an uplift or boobies that were too big so I walked away …..and bought a horse with the money instead am now obsessing over it again (even dreaming about having had them done) but am scared for all the reasons you listed (3 kids aswell). Also worrying about travelling times/costs for pre and post op apps and then there’s the re op in about 10 years when they start to sag uncontrollably! It’s such a personal decision but I wish someone would just book it all for me and say just do it and stop worrying. It’s a lot of money and I wonder what if I don’t like the results, are my boobs really that bad, have lived with them this long, but then I wonder what they could be like and the confidence I’ll get. Might even enjoy going for a bra fitting for once! I just want that fullness back that I had before the kids (and be a bit bigger!)and to feel sexy again!

All I can say is way up the pros and cons and then you will know if it’s right. Listen to what your heart tells you and don’t be weighed down by Mummy guilt, you have a right to be happy too x

xxweeclairebearxx.. what happened there?! lol! PM me if its easier hun, would love to know what u wrote!!

Thanks to u both mrsdminor21 & amanda1982!! Both of ur msg’s have made me feel much more positive!! I suppose its the anticipation of it all!!!

Best of luck for ur op mrsdminor21!!

I hope ur healin well amanda1982? What did u have done hun?

xxxx

Ah Jalepino!!! U have hit the nail on the head!! “Mummy guilt” is definately what i have!! So glad to speak to u girlies, and we all have similar worries, and its nice to get supportive advice! I know I’ll always think “what if” if i never get them done.. that confidence would feel amazing!! I hope u book ur consultation soon hun, maybe you might be more ready now!

Can i add all u girls please?

xxx

I’m not too bad now thanks, I only came out of hospital this morning, I had my op on Monday at 4 o clock, it lasted for 6 & half hours!, I’m really bloated & uncomfortable at the mo. I had ba & uplift lipo & an arm lift. I look like bride of Frankenstein! I’m made up with how everything looks, even tho I’m all taped up. My boyf thinks it’s amazing wat the surgeons done n said it was the best money he’s ever spent as he knows how happy I am. If it’d of just been my boobs I’d of had done then it would of been so easy, hardly any pain at all, but my arms r bad, all bruised & cut from armpit to elbow so u can kinda imagine how sore it is! But my pains not too bad at all today, n all I can imagine is being able to wear nice tops again! If it’s wat you want Hun jus go for it. Gould always resent someone or something if you don’t. What ifs are never good are they xxx

Yep sure add away. Gonna try get some pics on soon. I didn’t take befores, I didn’t want reminding of how bad I looked! & I’ve 2 young children too, I. Having lots of help with them at the moment. N you no wat, if mummy’s happy then so are your babies xxx

Of course you can add me x It’s great being able to chat to others going through the same thing and to see others pre and post op pics, helps to really get an idea of what you could achieve. Yes, I know I have to make the call. In fact I am going to promise myself, by this time next week I will have booked an appointment

@ amanda1982.. Wow hun! You’re gonna look fab! You are one brave girl- 6.5 hrs!!!!! Glad to hear pain has settled today, u must be sore hun, but like u say- all for a good cause!! Thats brill that ur hubby is so supportive, my hubbys the same.. he keeps saying “do whatever will make u happy!” Did u have overs or unders for your BA? Would u say the pains similar to when the milk comes through after giving birth??

@jalepino… Thanks hun! Yes, this forum has been great, i learnt all i know from here!! Keep us informed with ur progress hun!

xxx

Aww thanks hun, i hope so! N Just do it Hun, it’s great wen they’re supportive, I dunno wat I’d of done if he wasn’t! I had overs cos there was lots of breast tissue. It murders wen your milk comes thru, there’s been a bit of aching that feels kinda similar to that but not as bad! The thing that’s doin my head in is the tape! I need to scratch cos were I’ve been stitched is itching, but the tapes stopping me! It’s annoying more than anything! my boobs just feel tight n heavy, but not painful xxx

Yeh, we’re very lucky to have supportive men!! Ahh, yeh it hurt sooo much after my 2nd.!! Glad the pains not as bad!! Ive been offered offers too, im havin mr singh and the bandages he uses looks horribly tight!! I’ll be begging him to let me take it off!! ha! The tightness & heaviness worries me too! As long as i dont feel restricted, im hoping i’ll cope!! lol!

xxx

It’s more than bearable, jus bloody annoying! I keep picking at mine, I’m gonna get in trouble if I carry on!xxx

No one can make this decision but you in the end. But the fact that you have reconsidered your decision and keep wishing you were brave enough indicates to me that you won’t be truly happy until you ‘ve had it done. If it’s any consolation I personally had no pain at all, not even a little bit. I wasn’t sick, didn’t need the pain relief tablets, and came round quickly from the GA. The worst thing I found was the whole “they look terrible/ too small/ i feel like poo” about 3 weeks into recovery which they call “boobie blues”. And you can avoid most of that if you drink lots of water to flush the toxins, get plenty of rest, but also make sure to get outside and stretch your muscles. If your other half is happy to support you, and you have family/ friends you can also call on if needed, then I say go for it. You won’t regret it. You might regret it if you don’t though xx

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