A bit alone

I have decided that having a breast enlargement is the right thing for me. However, I don’t feel like i can really talk to anyone close about it. Not because they wouldn’t support me because i know they would but I feel like I have tried to talk about it but every time it’s more like I make a statement and the conversation is never really started.

I just want some people to talk to and share the experience with because talking about it face to face seems to be some sort of issue for me! So I’ll just quickly say why etc – I have wanted them done since i was about 17 as they were small. When I got pregnant they got massive and I really loved them, even though I had mastitis really badly, they swelled up and the only thing that really got me through was that I was happy with my boobs, finally! I’m now 24, my daughter is turning 2 in a couple of months and I work with a lot of really pretty, confident girls. Oh and they’re a few years younger and still enjoying their freedom!

Now the boobs are gone I just feel like a deflated balloon that’s only good for well… I still havent figured that bit out!!

Anyway, sorry for the ramble there… Look forward to eating from some people xx

well littlejo you are in the right place to chat, this forum is really good im similar dont really have noone to talk too either, but the girls on here are so supporting and lovely you really wont feel alone anymore. so my point to this is happy talking and rambling and we will all liaten and offer you support. xxxx

hi hun i know exactly how you feel, i was always abit self conscious about my boobs but was happy with the rest of my figure so for years i just pushed the idea of a boob job aside, then last year i got pregnant with twins and my boobs got bigger and so did i lol well basically after my boys were born i was left with tiny empty boobs and my figure was no longer what i was happy with. ive tried talking to my friends but none of them really respond and im too embarrassed to keep pushing to talk about it, even with my husband. i started to feel very unhappy with my looks and was convinced my husband found me unattractive, compared to all the slim, toned, big boobed girls around me. well i found this site and it has helped me so much, the girls have been amazing and even though i havent had my op yet i already feel better as i know im not the only 1 who feels like this, ill request you as a friend and you can private message me if u wna chat as im pretty much on here all the time, sorry for the long post xxx

Hi Littlejo, everyone on the forum is so lovely, we’ll look after you here!

I found it hard talking to even my close friends, it was weird as i’d bring it up but i didn’t seem to get much of a response but I think there was almost an element of shame or embarrasment in me when I tried talking to people like i was expecting criticism and felt like i had to justify it to people. The forum is just full of girls who all totally understand how you feel and won’t judge you for wanting to do this, without the forum I really don’t think i would have coped with having my op as well.

Feel free to add me as a friend and look at my pics, i had saggy D cups and desperatley needed an uplift and BA to get the fullness back, I’m 29 and had the boobs of a 90 year old!! I’m 10 days post op now, healing well and i’m over the moon with what i can see already and I know it’s just going to get better as they heal.

If you need to know anything or just want to talk about how you feel, i’m here xxx

Ha long post is not a problem believe me – u s my original post!

I’m the same about my partner, I have even tried to force him to tell me what celeb he would sleep with lol, we have all done it right but he is adamant that the only person he finds attractive is me!! (finding that pretty hard to believe right now with my hairy legs pink hair all over the place scraped back with a head band, and the coldsore on my mouth – fit. But thats completely not the point… I forget what the point is tbh…

Anyway, it’s lovely to have a couple of responses so quickly. Yu tell someone you really want to have your boobs done but they’re just like, oh right, cool. And to them that’s that but in your head you’re like omg talk to me!!!!

Perhaps anyone else reading could share why they first strted thinking about surgery and if it took you a long time to make the decision? Xx

Blondie it took me ages t reply to that last post lol cos I’m on the ipad which seems to feel the need to correct everything for me (yeah thanks…) but I definitely think the key word there is justify. Are we trying to convince ourselves or is there really so much of a stigma attached to it still? We complain about magazines falsifying women and jump on the real women band wagon but then 5 minutes later they’re criticising everyone who wants to have surgery like they’re some sort of crazy plastic junky!! So in turn I kind of feel like I have to jump on the “natural/real” band wagon even more and feel like a hypocrite. It’s literally so confusing!

Sorry… Rambling again…

Hey babe, theres loads of girls on here who are having ba for same reason. I used to be quite happy with my boobs…..never massive, just a nice full C cup. Then I had my 2 (absolutely gorgeous!!) boys and breastfeeding has seriously taken its toll.

Abi…..I know how you feel hun….I was (am?!) convinced that my hubby doesnt find me attractive as he is a boob man! He swears that he does, but Im sure he will be a lot happier when Ive had my new boobs!

Anyway, Littlejo…..the girls on here are ace, and are always around to support you, 24/7.

Keep your chin up hun, and remember, if you are doing this for you then you are doing it for the right reason. Plus…….you are still a spring chicken….Ive turned 30 this year! Booooo! xx

Spring chicken lol that’s what me legs will looknlike at the end of next week!

I have only had the one bub so far my little girl Jasmine, who definitely knows where all tithe buttons are and when to push them (or jab!)

I honestly feel sometimes like im pushing 40 with how tired I am and the things that come out of my mouth some times lol, not like I’m about to turn 25!! Tbh, as a kid I never even thought this far ahead. Tme was going so slowly that 25 never even crossed my mind, let alone felt far away!!

Anyway, sincere anks for everyones comments. I don’t know if the site notifies you when people reply to me so if i don’t reply it’s not because I’m ignoring people. I’m not so great at private one on one messages with people I don’t know but I love a bit of banter and open chats. (also rubbish at groups lol perhaps some one could give me some advice on keeping up to date with those bad boys!)

Omg I swear I’m writing essays. I have loads to say about this. I posted to try and vent a little and now people are showing the support I wanted I have this almost overwhelming urge to just keep writing but I’d probably just end up repeating myself over and over

Really great to hear all these posts. I have two children, they are no babies now 11 & 7. it has taken me since having breast feed my daughter to decide if i really want a ba. I got really stretched having my children that i had a tummy tuck. I didnt have to think about having that done as i have with my boobs, like you say littlejo there is a stigma attached. But i have sperated from my husband now & have decide to do it for me. 😆 x

it is confusing, I never really had an opinion about people who had work done prior to me getting it done, the reason i put mine off for so long was money but when it actually came to it, i found it impossible to actually talk to people about it, I felt like people would think i was self centered, a money waster and false, all traits that are not me at all. My Maid of Honour literally said exactly what you have just said “Oh Right”, what sort of f*cking answer is that when you’ve confided in someone that you were so unhappy with your own body that you’ve made a life changing decision to change something, If she had told me the same I would have shown my support so that she felt great about her decision but that’s just me.

It wasn’t just her, i’ve had another friend be really funny with me since her and her boyfriend found out that I was having it done, her boyfriend made some throwaway comment on a night out that he fancied me and bang, she ignores my texts and has avoided me totally! I’m 29, married and my husband is best mates with her boyfriend so I’m pretty confident it’s her own insecurities but unfortunately this is what some people react like.

I found myself justifying to myself when i was speaking to my hubby about it, i kept saying this isn’t just throwing money away because i actually do need it, and my hubby was asking me why i kept pointing out the obvious and kept telling me that it’s my body and it’s nothing to do with anyone else what i do to it but it’s hard to just block out other people’s views.

Now i’ve had it done, i am nervous about going back to work because it’s weird, many of us who choose to do this are not exhibitionists as such but my having it done, we are drawing attention to ourselves, even thought thats not the reason we have it done, its more about how we feel about ourselves so i’m worried about people talking behind my back when i first go in, but i’m going to be strong and keep remembering those pre op photos UUURGGHH!

Lots of us go through the justification process, now that I’m the other side i can honestly say hand on heart that it was the best decision I ever made and I only wish I had done it earlier xx

Well done blondie30, it sounds like you had really thought about it! & your husband sounds like a big support. I like the that statment ‘it’s your body’. i’ll try to keep that in my head. x x

Hey Blondie, I am 100% ready for my op (on Friday….eek!!), but the going back to work thing is making me feel sick!!! I’m still off on maternity leave until September, but I really am dreading the first time I have to walk back in the office. I just have visions of them all whispering as I walk past!! xx

Hey littlejo.

I feel the same too. Have never liked my boobs, even at school i didnt like them, very small, never been messaured as now i dont think im even on the scale ha.

Im 27 have have two childen a year apart (oldest 3 in aug) After having them i just have nipples left!!!! Hate it. Wanna take them swimming and feel confident with my husband Dont let him touch anywhere near there at all! Again I got bigger when I was pregnant and loved it.

My cousin recomended MYA to me and I just put my details on their site and they caled me back the next day. I thought they are good

That was in April and im now having them done on the 21st I cant wait. Everyone on here is so nice and you can find out a lot of info.

If yo uwanna know anything from me feel free to ask.

I had loads of things going through my head when thinking should i shouldnt i.

Hope this helps a bit xx

Definetley, he is a star ! He’s very proud of me and i’m so lucky. I’ve had saggy boobs since around age 18 so 11 years, i grew large boobs very young, didn’t wear proper bras because my parents didnt invest in them for me and i got bad stretch marks.. add to that gaining weight as i grew up and then losing it all, my boobs had taken a pounding!

Bottom line – we don’t have to justify anything and there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel more attractive and sexy. My husband told me for the first 4 years we’d been together that he wasn’t a boob man, then during a =n argument he let it slip that it was just my boobs he didn’t find sexy which is what ultimately pushed me to have the op, now he is a boob man and it broke my heart at the time but i’m glad he was honest with me xx

Everything you have said blondie sounds just like me. Bloke is lovely bless him and he’s like “whatever you wanna do babe it’s up to you im happy if you’re happy” he just doesn’t like how much it will cost so like you, I find myself justifying it, although maybe I am trying to convince myself? My maid of honour is supportive but not for it and I actually just appreciate that she has even given me an opinion she was basically like “well it’s up to you but I think you would feel better about your body if you got into fitness first and made your decision if you still felt bad about yourself” she has a point for sure but I don’t think its the baby weight which has swayed my decision about ba and i think she is worried I might make a decision I regret (aim known for being indecisive and then making rash decisions that arent always good for me lol) one close person to me had em done herself about 15 years ago and really regrets it as back then there was no after care wherever she went and she suffered capsular contraction so had to take out another loan to cover having them put back in. She can’t afford to have them redone now if it’s needed and really regrets it but she has also said that whatever I decide to do she will support 100% and come with me if i want her to.

So perhaps I’m not lacking the support cos I’ve just said everyone supports me… One of my friends really wants hers dine and another had a breast opperatiion because they had grown wrong inside or something and had an implant in one afterwards to even it out… But I don’t see her much so can’t talk to her about it,

Am I completely deluded.. I feel like ere is something I can gain on a personal level by getting to know people here that i can’t get from anywhe else and this is practically my first thread!!

tracy, that is exactly how i feel.. i have been thinking about what to wear like it’s a military operation and considered covering up but that won’t do me any good at all, i need to wear fitted clothes and my stilletos like i always do and be proud, i’ve got to go back in acting the way i wanted to feel and be proud of it xx

Hun you’re not deluded, i’ve felt the same talking to people on here, i’m meeting a couple of the girls from here on Friday for a drink to plan a night out for all the Manchester clinic ladies, where r u based?

Surgery has changed so much in the last 15 years and they really look after you, there is always the risk of the contraction but you can go for upgraded implants which are insured against that and it gives you £700 towards surgery if they have to redo your op for that reason, but it is rare as the surgeons will tell you, your friend was really unlucky with that.xx

My husband has said the same to me but i see him looking at other girls with nice boobs. it make you feel so unatractive at times. I never really grow much, i was just in a B cup before kids. they went up to a C cup when having children, breadt feeding killed them. Empty now. x x

It’s good that he has now been honest with you although that’s now makingnme think my other half likes my eyes best cos it’s the only thing ats not minging lol!

I have been measured three different sizes since having my jasmine so when I buy bras I usually end up crying and having to try on about 20 different shapes and sizes. I measure 32 with a tape measure but a 32 bra feels like its cutting off the circulation of blood from my boobs upwards lol!

Gnats, I love the screen name lol before i got pregnant I wasn’t tiny like you have said that you are but I definitely felt like a 22yo trapped in a 14yo body! Looking back I regret hating my body si much but isn’t that what my mum tikd me would happen?

It’s the exhibitionist thing as well. I worry that no one will take me seriously if i do it but that if I’m going to do it (which I am) then why would i want to hide it? And by not talking about it is that classed as hiding it? Personally I feel that it’s not something I need to bring up in discussion but that people would find out years later and wonder why I had them done if i was too embarrassed to tell them or something…

I think part of what swayed me is that a girl at work had hers done a few years back and she was always talking about what bad luck she had with men and how she really wanted a boyfriend, and it would inevitably lead to her talking about her boobs. And that’s what people knew her for – the skinny single one that had her boobs done! I dont want it to define me!!

Manner mine too – I tried breast feeding for two weeks and had to stop. Bub couldn’t latch on to the right one so of course it got more attention because it was just getting fuller and fuller. I ended up having to give her formula because she needed to eat but got mastitis in the right breast so rented and electric pump and would sit with it on for half hour sometimes trying desperately to get the milk out and nothing but a few drops. I’d do it on the left one and it would all be out in 5 mins or less! I had hot baths and tried to massage it out, I use headache strips from the fridge, hot and cold flannels, even savoy cabbage leaves! You can now physically see that one boob is lower than the other and that isn’t even from jasmine sucking the life out of it! That’s my own doing lol!

Jamber

mine too – I tried breast feeding for two weeks and had to stop. Bub couldn’t latch on to the right one so of course it got more attention because it was just getting fuller and fuller. I ended up having to give her formula because she needed to eat but got mastitis in the right breast so rented and electric pump and would sit with it on for half hour sometimes trying desperately to get the milk out and nothing but a few drops. I’d do it on the left one and it would all be out in 5 mins or less! I had hot baths and tried to massage it out, I use headache strips from the fridge, hot and cold flannels, even savoy cabbage leaves! You can now physically see that one boob is lower than the other and that isn’t even from jasmine sucking the life out of it! That’s my own doing lol!

You are so right Blondie. And I’ve seen your photos…..if I look like that after my op, I will be strutting in there with my head held high! You look amazing. When are you back at work?

Littlejo, when I started to feel that I needed my boobs done, I did feel like I had to sort the rest of my body out first to really understand how I was feeling about them. It took me 3 months to lose just over a stone and a half which I was so pround of, but it made me realise that my boobs were even worse than I thought!! The day I decided 100% to have a BA, was one day when I had just come back from the gym, had a shower and was stood crying my eyes out at my reflection in the mirror. My husband just walked in and said, ‘thats it babe, you need to get this done’. I so know I am doing the right thing.

I think the point I am trying to make is, losing the baby weight is great, but for me it almost highlighted my crap boobies even more (because I obviously lost even MORE weight from them through excercise!!) xx

people are going to think what they want no matter what we try to do, my fear is almost not that they will say something, it’s more a fear of me feeling uncomfortable if i notice that someone is being funny about it – almost like what i don’t hear, can’t hurt me!

Having your boobs done, doesnt make you an exhibitionist but people will always have an opinion about someone who has them done, i guess you have to ask yourself one questions. Are you going to let other people’s views stop you from doing something that you know will make you happy, improve your sex life and relationship and improve your confidence?. I asked myself that and the answer was a bit fat NO xxx

tracy, i was just the same, the more weight i lost the worse my boobs looked and although the rest of my body was starting to look good, my boobs were getting more saggy and empty by the day! My hubbie saw me hiding them away constantly and i never took my bra off during sex

Thanks so much for saying that about my pics, they feel amazing and i feel like they suit my figure now. I’m into work on Thursday

Blonde I live in Colchester (…Essex… Yes im ashamed lol)

Yours look amazing they really do! I would like to be a bit smaller than what you are now because I’m quite short and not very skinny.

I’m starting to get into fitness now Tracy in a way. I’m not very motivated but I have been jogging a couple of times and I do trampolining every week which is great fun my bf hasn’t seen the way I look at myself in the mirror alone. We don’t really have a very sexual relationship so I think that might be part of the reason he doesn’t think there’s an issue. I’m kinda lucky that he is self conscious about his body too bless him. But he has a pretty face which is all anyone else ever sees of him lol so he doesn’t need to worry

You look fab. Will be thinking about you on Thursday, and I’ll let you know how I get on on Friday!!! Arrghh!!xx

littlejo, feel for you babe. Breast feeding was so hard for me to master, my little girl had slight tongue tie so had trouble latching on. I kept it up with gritted teeth, such sore nipples. i did enjoy it though but as for the after-math (boobs) not so good. I just want to look normal (if that excists). Not to think every morning i wish i had a better body. x x

As fir what to wear dint worry too much about it. Its important to not dress them up or down because either “extreme” would be noticed. If you change something about you when people are looking to see if you come back to work a changed person I think it will be more obvious. Especially if you aren’t comfortable, just dress the way you normally would and if you’re a bit worried just hide the cleavage, it’s amazing how little people pay attention!! The most important thing is that you are comfortable because if you aren’t then you will feel so paranoid that you stick out like a sore thumb! I have days where I panic about going to work just because I suffer from anxiety and what I find helps is to imagine watching the CCTV cameras and asking myself if I think ipoh really gonna Rostock out any more than any one else,

I’m 5ft 7, size 8/10 on top and 10/12 on the bottom so with the height i could carry them off, i think i might be an E or F but won’t know til they heal properly and i get out of the post op bras in 5 weeks. thanks for the compliments, i was so impressed with the shape of them but that’s only after 1 week, they will start to look better week by week.

I go to the gym 4-5 times a week, i love doing zumba and body pump – little jo have you tried doing anything like that, the time flies by much more than being in the gym all the time, i mix it up and do gym work and classes xx

Omg if only wishing on a star would work hey!?

If it did id have hair you could wrap around the moon fir the amount of times I wished on a star as a kid to have “lovely long hair!”

totally agree re dressing, i always have really dressed up for work and wear very fitted clothes so i need to stick with that.

Tracy – thanks for that hun, and i’ll be thinking of you Friday xxx

I would like to give rumba a go for sure but it’s the money thats the issue. We have just moved into a house we are only renting but my god this shit is exoensive! ESP as we are in quite a sought after location for convenience and I only work part time.. 2 bed house is 650 a month, and that pretty good where we live but council tax is also 120 so that’s 770 a month just on basic rent. Then it’s about 300 a month on food and the sky/contents insurance/ozone bills etc on top of that…. Well you know how it goes, it basically sucks lol. Thanks god i don’t have a car! Totally off subject lol I have got “my fitness” on the xbox kinnect thought which is really good as well as the dancing game. My health drive would have started this week if I hadn’t come on. Instead, I have eaten as much chocolate as i possibly can and dyed my hair pink lol

I’m only 5ft 2, size 10 was thinking of going to a D cup.Would that look to big? x x

Jamber I don’t think that would be too big, the surgeon will tell you honestly what they think your frame can take and they can’t always do it by cup size, they make you try on a sports bra with implants in. I trusted what the surgeon recommended totally.

LittleJo, totally get it – everything is so bloody expensive!! I’ve whacked the op on a credit card and we’re clearing it as quick as we can but it’s not easy xx

i have zumba in the wii, its great. sure makes you sweat so most be doing something. I’m sure they do it for x box. x x

I have no one to talk to either. I’ve always wanted one, since I started developing! After having my daughter they got huge. They feel “empty” now though but I think some of that is all in my head because they don’t *look* different, just feel different.

I never thought I would actually get a BA because my hubby used to say that the only reason someone would get their boobs done was to show them off, he was sooo wrong though as sooo many women have different reasons. He has since changed his opinion, obviously, as I’m getting some lovely jubbly 525’s on Wednesday!

There will always be someone here to talk to hun xx

thanks for the advice blondie. I’m hopefully to get a consultation soon. Think may are ringing me back tomo. x x

Jamber, I’m a 5ft3 and a size 10 (on a good day) and I’m getting 525’s from a B/C and it doesn’t look too big at all (from the implant try on session anyway) It’s probably take me to an E x

Hope it all goes well for wed petite snowball. def more a confidence thing . x x

aaahhh thanks for that petite snowball. I would just like to look a bit fuller & natural. x x likey ‘on a good day’ 😆

Hahaha. I’m a size 10 in stretchy clothes is probably more accurate. x

Have you tried any implants yet? x

hi – know how you feel – im having my op on 22nd and getting 410s. i have had 2 girls and with breastfeeding, weight gain and then weight loss and i guess age, my boobs are definitely not what i would like them to be. My confidence with my other half has gone right down and i am so self conscious about my boobs, especially during sex, i decided i needed to sort it out. As i say you only get one shot at life, so enjoy and so what if others don’t approve, its my life. I have only told a couple of close friends so far, no one at work yet. I have met some really lovely girls on here who have been really supportive

xx

No not yet, my friend did say about trying rice bags but i will have to get a bigger bra to try it with first. i cant picture myself with bigger boobs lol. so do need to try them. x x

Defo try them with your PC. They have the bra’s etc. It’s an experience!! x

I’m liking theses quotes on here ‘ you only grt one life so enjoy@’ . i shall go to bed thinking all the postives. thank you x x

Is that on the first consultation petitesnowball? x x

i have only mentioned it to a friend n my sister. not got much feed back though. So this is great talking on here. x x

You have your first consultation with PC, then another with surgeon. Immediately after that you’ll try on the size that your surgeon has offered This is all still under the no obligation to pay or book so you won’t pay for those consultations xx

lifes to short to be miserable, if you don’t like something i say do something about it. I had my teeth sorted out 7 years ago, had a brace and got them straightened. Best thing i did then and now hopefully with the addition of my new boobs that will supercede it.

Im 42 now and i think im not doing too bad on the aging front, but def can’t wait for my new boobs and my other half (who i hasten to add is 14 yrs younger than me!!!) is looking forward to them too haha

xxx

Good luck on 22nd babe, enjoy your new life. I to have had other surgery my jaw broken to aline my teeth & a tummy tuck. Dont no why but havent been able to make up my mind on having boobs done. i think because all the hype with celes, dont want to be type cast. x x

thanks hun, all i can say is if you are seriously not happy then i would def consider getting them done. this is the trouble with getting your boobs done, too many celebs are doing it and so all girls are type cast as bimbos or only want big boobs to show off, which in nearly all cases is just not true. What’s wrong with wanted to look and feel good about ourselves??

xxx

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