About to sign the dotted line…but does anyone regret their BA?

Arr your story brought tears to my eyes, quite similar to myself actually…but well done anyway…

i’m not due to go in till 23rd sep, but if you wouldnt mind i would love to see before and after pics, may put my mind at rest a little, and its nice to see how others look before and after xx

Hi Rachel:)Sounds like you are very excited-good!Oooooh I wish I was you-26th not long away.I still don’t know if i will need an uplift, really trying not to get my hopes up too much cos there is no way we ca n pay for that aswell as b/a.I will be absoloutly devastated if I can’t get b/a, I am so low at mo about saggy boobs.Kids want to go swimming but I just can’t dare bare all in swim costume.Even the padded tankini I have looks ridiculous now so even my kids are suffering-guilt,guilt, guilt:(
What size are you Rachel?What size hoping to be?Under/over/high /low?oooh I getting the lingo now;)xx

Hi Sonia,
Sorry to hear of your dilema but don’t worry too much about taking kids swimming, the sights in a public pool let alone the beach will always balance it out I reckon!
I have worn a bikini for the 1st time in years this year I know what you mean about body confidence but others will look at you as a whole and not just a pair of boobs you are your worst critic – I should know!!
I am currently 36a (but buy padded b), my worst measurement was post breastfeeding but still overweight from m&s as 38a! I nearly punched the women…..stormed out & bought 36b, then went home & cried! I am now 10st, 5ft 3 so hoping for c/small d cup with 340 hp overs. I did consider the teardrops but when he said they can move & look odd I changed my mind! I also like the look of some roundness at the top of the breast but also as natural as possible, will have to buy a camera for after shots (with beauty shot setting of course) as my kids have broekn my last 2 cameras!
I have yet to tell my 2 teenagers (19 & 15 yr old boys) so could lump in with having to buy a new camera!
When is your appt with Mr Singh?
x

Hi Rachel / Sonia

I have gone thru all the emotions that you are both going thru now!
I have 3 breast fed children, the oldest daughter now just turned 20. For some reason she has turned out to be a 36D – not sure where they came from!!!!! My hubby has known for years that i am unhappy with my boobs, but he says he loves them just as they are bless him, but i know he’ll enjoy them more after my op I’m a small 36B and have worn very padded bras since stopping feeding my youngest, and i just want to be full again.
My op is on Wednesday – panic!! – with Mr Adamo and i’m having 380 hp overs. I’m 5’7″ 10 stone size 10/12
I’ll keep you girls updated with how it goes.
xx

Good luck Jacqui, I am a week behind you so will be good to compare our recovery & feelings!
x

Hi Rachel / Sonia

i have just found both of you on Sofemine forum, and sent you both a message!

Yet another great site to post all your questions

xx

oops sorry site is http://www.sofeminine, typo xx

Hi girls-I think i MAY go with Dr.Adamo as I have just read a negative comment about the other surgeon I was going to go with.It was that someone with saggy boobs was advised implants without an uplift be fine if went one cupsize larger but he gave her much bigger boobs than expecting and they are now down to her knees.I am so panicking-so want to get some self esteem back but what if it goes wrong and I come out worse??!?!!?

Hi Everyone,

I think i am in the same boat as most of you that have commented above. I have had 2 children and now have discusting boobs. I had a nice figure before my children, and pert boobs that were in proportion with my body. Me and my husband also now now have much of a sex life. I put it off completely, plus running round all day after 2 young children does not help either. I wont undress infron of him anymore, and should i have to be intimate i keep the quilt up over my boobs! and i dont think ive let him touch them in about 2 years!
My children are 12 months and 2 and a half so i dont have to worry about them noticing, only picking them up. However my little boy is due to start playschool in sept, and i dont want to give the other moms in the playground the wrong impression of me for my sons sake. As i am quite small, blond, young, and then with my fake boobs to be on top, i dont want them branding me as a barbie. As im not like that as a person.
I to have given everything to my kids even in the little time ive had them. When i had my son, times were tight, my partner worked for himself and he was declared bankrupt. But every penny went on our little boy, he never went without, and always had the best.
I worked 3 jobs at one point to make sure he had everything. Somedays there was nothing in the cupboards but he always had his milk nappies toys galour. 2 and a half years on we have a new business thats going well, a brand new house, our lounge looks like toys r us has exploded. So ive got a spare bit of money, and managed to save the full amount. As id never apply for loans or credit cards. Ive always believed if i havent got it we dont have, as i know thats a slippy slope.
I felt guilty but i have always put the kids first and this is something i need to do for myself and my own self esteme.We have just been away on a family all inclusive 2 week holiday to egypt, so thats made me feel better that some of the money has been spent on the family as a whole.
If anyone wants to see my pics before and after ( i dont have it done untill 2/9) but i am willing to send you them. x x x

Hi ladies,
Have been on holiday in Spain (my ‘before’ pics will look hilarious) so was off line for a week although not sure whether you will see this reply now.
I am feeling a bit better now, had pre op yesterday and am booked in for 26th Aug with Mr Adamo in Highgate.
I also have told my sister and mum who are both really supportive which makes me happier, am apprehensive about recovery as I had my gall bladder op last year and felt like I had been stabbed when the drugs wore off!!
I have 3 boys and am single parent so no bother from a husband (mind you the exes will have an opinion, not that I am bothered about that) and have reservations still about the message I am giving off but I think they will see my confidence grow and be happy for me.
I had the fortunate opportunity to get compensation for a car accident 3 years ago and was enough to pay for the op outright, not a difficult decision when it was boobs or double glazing!! I think your comments about mums doing everything for their kids is dead right, we are not used to thinking of ourselves (my oldest is almost 20!) and all my money goes on the house & kids so this time its all for me………
How are things going with you?? xx

Hi ladies,
I can understand everyone in this thread as I have been through 2 divorces with guys who don’t deserve me & all the guilt with doing your best for the children.
I was fortunate (?) enough to be able to pay for the ba with compensation money and that has helped me do something for myself.
I am on countdown now for next wed with Mr Adamo (am planning to buy a camera to document my journey) and am hoping its a step towards me becoming quite rightly more selfish!
Congratulations Jacqui and enjoying your story & look forward to photos if you post them.
Rachel xx

Hi Sara,

No problem at all. I will email them to you no problem. My email address is lucy.tci@hotmail.co.uk. If you or anyone else wants to drop me an email so i have your address, as soon as i have them done the 2nd sept i will email you my pictures.
May help to show people what to expect if you have baby boobs. lol.
xxxx

Arr thanks huney, my email is xsarax@sky.com thank you, its greatly apreciated. I was booked in for 23rd sp, but my pc phoned me earlier, had to be changed to 7th october x x

Oh no really?! i bet your gutted?!!!! why have they done that? Cant you get a bit of a discount now? Say they have caused hassel at work? lol.
I will email you my pics a day or 2 after my op which is the 2nd so say around the 4th. When im home, as im staying over x x

Hi Soniarobin, do you still want me to send you my before and after pics, as we discussed before about uplifts. x

Thats great, thank you so much…think it does help. Amanda, my pc was really good, i’m already getting

Hi all:) Thank you for all your support and advice-it really helps me come to terms wth the guilt I feel using all that money on me!I do , however, believe it will benefit the family too as I will be able to accept my hubbys compliments and allow him to be close to me again which in turn gives the kids a happier home life- or am I trying to convince myself of this??!!
Lucyloo my email soniarobin76@yahoo.co.uk -thank you so much for pics xx

Hi ladies, (Soniarobin/RachelBrighton)
Many thanks for taking the time to respond. I have a consultation next week with MYA and another one with Mybreast on Wednesday. I completely understand both your comments on a)feeling selfish and wanting to be a positive role model to your daughters – I have 3 all of whom look up to me. Secondly b) the money situation. Whilst I have the money in savings, I know there are far more important things to spend it on and these would far more benefit the family as a whole. Sonia, I have heard Dr Adamo is great, so I am sure you will be in great hands there. For me, I need to decide will I regret this? My husband doesnt mind my sorry looking breasts as they are. He wants a HEALTHY wife not necessarily an anaestically pleasing one, (although I am sure it helps!) but what he has noticed is that my confidence has taken an absolute nose dive. I hate being intimate and him seeing/touching my boobs. I want to wear more flattering clothes, and maybe show a tiny bit of cleavage!!! I want to wear sexy underwear and feel confident. I have worked really hard to get my pre baby figure back naturally. A cleavage would be the icing on the cake. But am I being shallow and am I setting a terrible example to the girls. I am also scared after they are done I wont like them. I guess the reason I am hesistating is because I usually make very quick decisions. I have bought a car on a whim and been in debt before. I never really needed a new car, but I liked it. The novelty soon wore off. Oh I dont know…maybe I am relectant to do something for myself for a change. I will keep you both updated on how wednesday goes.:peace:

Hi ,
I had my ba 3 weeks ago ,and so far i am pleased with the result ,i had loose skin due to weight lose so the implant has filled the skin out .I think having this op should be realistic with the results ,if you havent got perfect boobs before the op you wont have after.However mine are 80% better then before and i am happy with thr result.

My op was no where near half as bad of what i expected ,infact the experiance was nice .The only thing i had was a bad reaction to the antibiotics and i was sooooo sick and had to stop taking them.But all is well and i am healing fine My surgon was Mr Traynor and i would recomend him to enyone ,if you listen to their advice on what not to do you will be fine i know its a hard desicion to make as its a operation at the end of the day.

good luck and let me know what you decide kerry x

it was the best thing I have ever done! I cant imagine not having mine now! mya were wicked from start to finish and my surgeon was amazing. much better than anywhere else I went to see. you will be fine hun and you will love them xxx

I was the same as you kellg
you have to be very careful with the antibiotics and painkillers, if it wasn’t for that i would have had an ace recovery but i had a day of being violently sick and it was awful, never take them on an empty stomach as that is what sets it off
i dont regret having them done i just wish they we’re bigger, i think when you have them done you tend to be even more critical of your breasts, i know i was and now they just feel normal, still feels odd when i bend down sometimes though as you can sort of feel them come forward, but other than that it was great

hey,
im 3 weeks post op.
ive had a little problem with my right incision as its opened slightly. but no, definetly no regrets! im so glad i went ahead with it!
just always bear in mind, the road to recovery is a long one. you wont get instant results, its going to take time! but its soo worth it!
good luck!
sarah xx

im 9weeks post op and no regrets!! i love them realli natural loooking x

I really want a B/A , have done for over15years.I have breastfed 4 children so you can imagine what state my boobs are in:(My sister is very angry with me for wanting this done and my hubby isn’t overly happy, though I think that is more to do with the cost rather than the moral issue.I so want to feel better about myself but it is such an awful lot of money when we don’t have it surplus and we have four kids to spend it on.What does anyone else think?Should I try and go for it?I hate myself and have no sexual relationship with my hubby cos of it now.Any advice, ideas , thoughts on the matter gratefully heard.Sonia xx
FOO-Have you decided to go ahead?Who with?

In reply to soniarobin, I have decided to have ba since my sister had hers last year. Only finally got to see the result last month & they are amazing…….she has breastfed 7 kids, so really was up for one & has been flat chested in between babies.
I have fed 3 kids & although I am small and not lost much shape they definately change after feeding (apart from the changes elsewhere!). I also have struggled with the moral aspect and as a single parent also worried about the message I was giving my kids. I have opted for 340 high with Mr Adamo, am 5ft 3 and 9.5 stone sho should not be too notcieable but an improvement, let alone the confidence boost.
I have paid & am booked for 26th Aug…….now I am apprehensive!!

Oh thanks for that Rachel.Did you worry that you were telling your kids that you got to be ‘perfect’ looking to be accepted nowadays?My eldest is 14 and I worry she will think everything is about looks-which , unfortunately, it pretty much is today.I wasn’t brought up with the self confidence i have so far managed to instill in my daughter.I feel bad cos it is my hubbys money we would be spending.I was a lone parent for years after2broken relationships and3kids and I invested all my time and all the spare cash into the kids and now I still feel extremely selfish taking money from them and my husband.Did your sister have to have an uplift too?Harley st said I am borderline and I defo cannot afford that, costs6 thousand!MYA said it same cost but can use that

Hi all

I am literally about to finally make my decision on which surgeon/company to use but because I have saved up so long and hard for this operation I would just like to seek some last minute advice from anyone who has had their BA and regret it, or have a tip for me that they wish they had know when having their op.

I want to be completely realistic about what to expect.

Any regrets? Any tips you can share?

F
x :boogie:

You sound just how I feel Fooimog. but I think I am the sort of person to feel guilty over the slightest thing.I , like yourself, want to make sure that it really is going to be worth the money.Will I definately feel more confident after?Will I have some self esteem back?Will i defo feel okay with my hubby having sexual contact with my boobs again, even though they aren’t even really mine??!!I also have no idea how I explain to my children why mummy suddenly had her boobs back!My kids are2-so won’t notice but will be upset that I can’t lift her, the boys 7and8 and are both at an age where they find’boobies amusing and 14.My eldest does know I want this done and did tell me she thinks I am fine as I am but thinks that i shouldn’t worry about being selfish as she and the others don’t want for anything.Does your husband mind you getting it done?I guess they have to be careful what they say cos if my hubby was overly keen to get me a boob job I would prob feel worse!!I am scared though that if it goes wrong or they look really fake that would be worse than now as my hubby hates the fake look-as do I.I am seeing Mr.Singh as that is who the MYA girl suggested would be best for me.Is Dr.Adamo based in London too?His name seems to crop up alot on here.

P.S.I think us mums get too used to giving everything to everyone else all the time-that why feel bad.If I had stacks of money I wouldn’t be thinking twice-and I would have loadsa other stuff done too:beard:

Hi soniarobin
OMG, you sound exactly like me! My hubbie says he doesnt want me to have them done but will fully support me. Is that because he would like me to have bigger boobs really but is too scared to tell me the truth?! My husband tells me I am the most beautiful woman in the world every day, but we all know to take that in the context its meant in. He is just being soppy. My husband doesnt like the fake look either, but nor do I. I am also scared because when you see celebrities with all their money in the world and they have bad boob jobs I cant help thinking that could be me. My boobs are fine in a bra, its only when I lay down or bend down forwards it is obviously they are empty sacks! I believe Dr Adamo is based in London. But I have heard good things about Dr SIngh as well. Are we allowed to share email addresses on here, as I am happy to send you over some recommendations. I am having my first consultation with MYA next week with the nurse or patient co codinator. What should I expect? xx:smile:

Hi Foo-my boobs are the same, remove bra and they drop and disappear.I remember them being a little like this after I had fed henry but when I put weight back on they plumped out again.However, I am determined not to gain weight again as I was miserable so I don’t think that fatty tissue will come back.Hubby says he doesn’t care and loves my anyway, which I am sure he does , but I know he can not possible find me attractive the same way as he did when I had curves rather thandeflated balloons!I think the celebs that have had bad boob jobs are the ones who had it done years ago when first came out so surgeons inexperianced and they implants had to be replaced a couple oftimes as they weren’t as resistant as nowadays-the bad ops I have seen are when the celeb keeps messing with them-Jordon, Kerry Katona, Victoria Beckham-keep getting them bigger/smaller/uplift etc I do worry that maybe the cheaper surgeons are not as good but I am hoping it is just the competition with other companies that keep the costs low and their popularity.
I duno if we can swap email addys-I will give you mine,see if it works soniarobin76@yahoo.co.uk
Are you seeing Samamtha?I went to Watford for my consultation and to be honest it was kind of a waste of time as she just made ma an appt with Dr.Singh.She just has a chat, asks what look you want to achieve then decides which surgeon is best suited to your personality/look so.I guess she did make me feel at ease and did give me the cost of op.Harley street actually had a look at my breasts there and then and discussed things alot further and were asking me to really think about it especially if I were to have an uplift as I couldn’t then breastfeed after.I think I would choose to go with them if I need uplift as I saw photos of before and after-which MYA didn’t have-and the surgeon I would have with them specialises in minimul scarring for uplifts.I couldn’t afford an uplift anyway so won’t use them but would if could!MYA said I will see photos when meet surgeon.Oh Harley st.had an implant to feel too-just like the kids squishy toys they have.Where are you going for consultation?Harley street said they would NOT do any surgery till it had been 6 months since finished breastfeeding where as MYA said as long it was 6months afer birth and sixweeks after feeding they would do it.No other company I asked would do surgery til6months atfer even though I was hardly feeding at all at the end.I won’t have surgery till at least Nov as that is4months after and a compromise!It cos they said the breasts may plump out again or droop more so the surgeon would be dealing with different breasts, don’t want to have to have an uplift3months after implants but I wouldn’t care if my boobs grew a bit bigger.Have you seen anyone else?Sonia xx

Popped you an email hun
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Rachel, are you definitely going ahead with op?Let us know how you go,good luck x

xnikx-what size were you before and after?Had you breastfed or lost weight or just wanted bugger boobs?
Rachel- u ok hun?Still feeling a little apprehensive?I think you should go for it.I think I am only holding back as it is my hubbys money-I earn nothing of my own at mo so couldn’t even take a loan out for myself.I am seeing a counsellor before I go ahead with it just to make sure it the right decision-maybe your gp could refer you for a one off chat with someone?May just confirm you are doing the right thing xx

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