Am I been selfish?

Hi girlies.

I have my op on Friday and it has taken me 5 years to get the courage and money to do this. My grandad has recently become really ill and it’s so horrible to say but he hasn’t got much longer. My mom is all over the place and we have been at the hospital every day for the last 4 weeks as well as been his carers for the last 18 months. She is meant to come with me Friday but I don’t want to put more worry on her so thinking of calling my PC and see if there is any chance of getting transport from them.

Am I been totally selfish if I go ahead with my op when my grandad is so ill? Obviously I’m absolutely devastated and wish he would get better but he doesn’t know we are there most of the time.

I feel in my heart I shouldn’t even be thinking about it at the mo but in my head if I don’t do it now because of my work it would be September/October time before I can.

Just want to cry because of both situations

Dont beat yourself up, sorry to hear about your grandad but this is something you really want and hed want you to be happy!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx keep positive i know its hard

Awww babe. Sorry to hear about your grandad. Only you can decide what’s best. Maybe speak to your mum and explain how you feel. I’m sure she will understand xxx

I now have a back up of my auntie who said she will take Friday off to come with me if needed. Grandad hanging in there bless him xx

take the time to have your op hun, he wouldnt want to feel like he is stopping you doing stuff you had already planned, he loves you just as much as you love him, and you being happier will bring a smile to his face xx

Oh hunny so sorry to hear this!! You were so excited!! (ma booby buddie)! I would talk to your mum and tell her how you are feeling! If like you say yr grandad does it even know you are there one day is not gonna hurt ( as long as you can get to see him post op).

Do what your heart tells you. You must be so torn between the two. If your happy going on your own and your mum understands go for it.

Good luck with what ever you decide.xx

Totally agree with joannabella! Xxxxx

Thank you ladies. My friend said even if I postpone it something else could happen next time which is true I guess. I just feel like I shouldnt be excited because everyone else is so sad and I’m really sad too but my grandad doesn’t even talk to us really now and I have been nearly every day. We also have open visiting now which is a bad thing as it means he is near the end but good because I can go right before I get the train. I just don’t want him to go on Friday as I will just feel so shite

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