Anyone else finding that generally some people are not being supportive??

I’ve been getting a bit upset as when I tell friends that I’m having an uplift and BA that I’ve been wanting for ages to give me the chest that I’ve never been lucky enough to have naturally, they just seem to go quiet.. and they aren’t showing much interest or support. Am i selfish to do this?, is it really so bad that I am wanting to do this for myself? Feeling a bit alone and only my husband and you girls are there for support as noone else seems to understand why I’d put myself through an operation..xx

I hate to say it but people can be quite nasty when they are a little bit jealous- even if they’d never admit that they were. I haven’t told many people because i’m doing this for me, and I know that it’s the right thing for me, whatever other people say or think. You know what’s right for you, and we’re all behind you xxx

Blondie, jealousy makes people spiteful,you have the gutts to change what you don’t like,if anyone tells you they would never do that to themselves know this,1 they are perfect in every way,2 they haven’t the gutts,3 they haven’t the cash,4 They are just so jealous,you do whats right for you,why should you do through life unhappy with your chest when you can feel beautiful and confident through having a BA,you go for it hun life is too short it will be the best thing you ever do.Take no flack from no one its your body,and your choice.xxxxx

blondie im having the exact same thing! even 1 of my friends who has had a ba is being funny about it, i honestly think its just jealousy. i dont know what id do without this site because all my support comes from the girls on here. Ive accepted ur request so we can support each other now xxx

Aww hun I think pretty much everyone seems to have this problem from what I’ve seen in this forum. The fact is that it is selfish – its something we’re doing for ourselves to make us happy. But the other fact us, there’s nothing wrong with being selfish! We’re selfish when we buy a new pair of shoes, a new bag, get a haircut etc etc and nobody bats an eyelid. But for some reason, some people see a problem with breast enhancements!

Don’t be hard on yourself hunni, its up to you what you do with your life and your happiness is important xx

I have told a few of my friends that i want a BA done and they cant understand why i would spend money on something like that, they said to me i should appreciate what ive got and not to go under the knife to make myself feel and look better but like others were not doing it for anyone else , my partner isnt very supportive i talk to him about it all the time but he clearly isnt interested and im wondering if he will be driving me to the hospital and home when i eventually have it done, xx

thanks so much girls, I’m being made to feel like i’m a selfish b*tch who only cares about number one, when I’ve told them how excited I am, they don’t answer.. if one of my friends told me, I’d be so happy for them and support them through it. Seriously pi*sed off with some of them.

This site has helped me so much, the way some people have reacted has stopped me from confiding in anyone else, it’s not right. xx

DOnt worry blondie the are wel jel lol… And u have ur boobie buddies on ere for support!! 😆 xx

A major thing for me is that I’m not confident in bed with my husband with my sh*tty saggy bag boobs at the mo, he’s 120% behind me and can’t wait! I’ve just got to keep reminding myself that it doesn’t matter what some people say.. we all know they’re going to look fab, it must be pure jealously! xx

Its YOUR Cash,YOUR Body and u only live once Fek em! Xx

U are gonna look fab dont wory hun

I had one friend tell me i was gonna look like a tranny haha.

What a cow anyway ul be amazed how many of ur friends actually want their boobs done but havent got the bottle!! Xxx

I hate that line, ‘be happy with what you’ve got’ or ‘there are people out there with nothing, you should be grateful’. I would love to be someone who is completely happy with what they have but truth is, I’m not. If you have issues or insecurities the best thing you can do is address them. I’ve subsided my thoughts to go under the knife since I was 18 and now I’ve made the decision I wish i’d come to this conclusion years ago as it’s affected my relationships the whole time. I think the reason everyone is so supportive on here is because we’re all of the same mindset. Any true friends will eventually come round and it may just be concern for you. Thankfully I’ve only had the odd one or two pass judgement and they are both flat chested, so I put two and two together. As long as you’re comfortable with the decision that’s the main thing x x x

A girl who l work with infact she sits next to me. ALL THE BOYS at work had eyes on her boobs she does have natural E cup. Now with mine and so pert nobody looks at hers anymore lol. l get so many remarks from her. JEALOUS!! You have to be hard faced!

Wait til u get em ) Love the attention! x

I am SOOOO going to love the attention, it’s not the reason I’m doing – just a fantastic by product!! Of course my mates would love me to continue blending in..! These bad boys are going to be on show at EVERY opportunity!! cannot wait to buy a load of sexy clothes to show them off!

Thanks everyone for reminding me that I AM normal and not a freak for wanting this! xx

like it hush my sister had a ba 10 years ago and she thinks it will be great for me to have mine done and give me a confidence boost and feel better in clothes, i think if we support each other then dosent matter what other people think or say xx

Well,i Wore a Very low cut Maxi dress And i only walked into spar,and the Entire shop went silent like a weston movie,*when john wayne enters the bar* I Was beond embarrassed! BUT you best belive the boost of confidents u get in the bedroom in worth every penny x x

AND Get use to dirty looks and snide remarks! Lol x x Your female friends WILL Be slaggin you off behind ur back because they aint got the cash or the guts to get there own sorted out they will say *Who does she think she is with her plastic tits* Or God she has body issues! BUT You wont give a toss lol x x

I’m starting to realise that alot of people you thought were friends are just out for themselves at the end of the day.. I had my Maid of Honour literally say “Oh right..” when i told her that I was so excited and finally getting something I’d wanted for myself for 5 or 6 years!! WTF!!!????

No it was the same for me, and i think probably for most girls. People don’t understand unless they or someone they know has had it done before. They still think of plastic surgery as something only fake people do. Don’t worry about it hon.. you know what you want, you have a support network, and for anything else you have these forums which are a god send. I had a little post on facebook because it’s an important event for me and why the heck shouldn’t i share it?? A few people were shocked, 1 was sarcastic, most people ignored the comment altogether, but i also had some lovely private messages of support, and closer to the date more and more people commented good luck.

I don’t think it’s worth breaking friends over – sometimes you have to accept that not even your closest friends will be able to stomach everything about you ALL of the time! People are different. Cut them some slack And good luck with your op xxx

Shes jealous…my friend had hes done years ago i must admit I was jealous,I didnt wanna hear about it…but As a friend i took her flowers n visited her after.And supported her because thats what REAL Friends do x x

thanks, I know.. i wouldnt lose a friend over it, it just hurts that people can’t be supportive, even if they don’t totally agree xx

What fairy said above is true – I’ve had 2 friends come out and tell me they always thought about getting theirs done and now I have, they are going to see about it hahaha..

i know how you feel, my boyfriend is the only one who knows so far, not felt like telling anyone yet as i know that i will be negative comments from most people. i understand how you feel about the bedroom too, feel the same way too.

i have worked with girls who have naturally large boobs and have not understood when i have said i want a ba.

glad to have girls on here who can be supportive – its fab :-)xx

I was honest with close friends and people in my team at work because I always wear nice fitted clothes and there was NO way I was going to get away with noone noticing, but the reaction was totally not like I’d hoped.. xx

i will tell people soon – op on 22 june, so not long to go!!!

as i say you only get one life, so enjoy it and sod what other people think – if they want to criticise then that’s their problem

At the end of the day we will all look fab with our new boobies xx

Not nice to read that Blondie. Thoughts at with you at such a difficult time.

I found it hard particularly when my family didn’t agree. Only my partner stood by me. It’s heart breaking! My dad even offered me £2000 not to go through with it. Hows that for support!

Now it’s all over and everyone is very pleased with my results. Ultimately I am happy and everyone else can stick their opinion.

A lot of people will have negative opinions on your uplift and BA equally so chick, try and concentrate on the positive. Look how geared up everyone gets on the way upto their op. It’s so exciting. Infact. It’s been the best experience of my life. The best money I’ve ever spent.

I hope you see the silver lining on the cloud Blondie. I promise you you’ll feel a million dollars afterwards.

Take care – keep that chin up and get a cuddle off hubby.

xx

Claireybabes, I cannot believe that your Dad did that.. it must have been so upsetting and emotional for you on the run up to your op, I’m so glad that your family were OK in the end. Nothing will stop me going through with this, my hubbie has just covered me in a blanket on the sofa, brought me a big crabbies (as I can’t drink after tonight ) and just told me that it’s nobody elses business, I don’t need anyones approval and I will love it when it’s done which I know is so true. I need to be a bit stronger and just do what I want without caring so much about everyone else xx

Clairybabes I probably think your dad is just worried about you and doesnt want you going under the knife which from a dad you can understand, I bet he is really happy for you now!! And Blondie30 Just relish in the fact that hubby is there for you!!! I didnt even get that with my partner of nearly 10 years, he threatened to leave me if went through with it but I’ll give him his due he is being supportive now its getting closer xxx

Bonz25.. you’re totally right and I am so lucky to have such a supportive husband, not only has he managed to pull the money together for the whole uplift and BA, but he’s been amazing because he just wants me to be happy but also agrees that it is right for me to have it done. I’m so glad that this forum is here for us to all speak to each other as clearly nobody has had a totally easy ride with this and the whole process is so emotional for all of us xx

I too have noticed this, initially my boyfriend wasn’t too thrilled as he doesn’t understand that I’ve always wanted bigger breasts, he sees it as wanting attention. I’ve had to reassure him on numerous occassions that this is for me.

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