Anyone else having problems with the fella???? :-(

Hi Girls,

Me and my fella were having a little problem before I got the twins, due to taking too much on with two properties to re decorate and live in one at the same time in a such short time (the new property is looking to be completed by this wknd and he has been doing all the painting for the last 12 days). Think having the op was the right decision for me but since the op he has not stayed in our bed (moved back in the bed 2 days ago) and we haven’t had sex much only twice in the last 3 weeks. He won’t really touch them or look at them and it’s making me feel down Has anyone else experienced this?? This morning he said he should move back into the spare room as I mentioned that I had a bad night sleep….but it’s just my body getting used to these boobs and where to put them when I sleep. Not sure what to do x

Hey Vic, Do u think he is jealous of ur new look it does happen to men as well as other woman. Before l had my boobs my hubby rarely came close it was more me on heat than him, now he has turned the other way and worried l may go off with the next man that walks by lol, he keeps saying that my boobs are half his as we paid with our money not just mine. Also l slept downstairs for several days after my op as he needed a good night sleep as well as me needing to get comfy.

Try not to worry to much huni, l am sure its about making sure that u are ok and him not being selfish. Men eh! x

Hey, I’m not sure. He’s always been one of those guys who thinks it’s good if I get attention as he thinks that other people can see what he can see in me. Think it’s a number of things and I am the first long term relationship. I know we’ve taken on too much with 2 houses, 1 to be completed in 2 weeks (whilst I’ve been off with my boobs) and the other we’re living in which has taken 6 months to do. Plus I’ve got a new job so I understand the pressure is on. But I thought he might be more interested in them, I think he won’t touch them incase it hurts me or something. Not sure if I’m going through the post blues with everything that’s happening. Plus I’ve got a presentation with work next week that will determin if I keep my job or not!! It’s all come at once xx

How many days/weeks PO are you? My boyfriend didn’t like mine at all for the first few weeks, it’s only really been this last week or so that he has started paying them attention….

He said at first he was terrified of them because they were so stuck on and rock hard and didn’t look natural at all. Also wouldn’t touch me as was scared of hurting me. He really didn’t want to look at them or anything, i was worried for a bit that he would never like them! But they have started getting much much softer now and much more natural looking and he’s getting to like them more and more and is even making nice comments about them so this may be the case? Or maybe he is just using this time to let you recouperate and him have a bit of space while you’re both going through a bit of stressfull time? I’m sure he’ll be back when they’re all healed up and ready to use! xx

Thanks hun, I’m 12 days post op. They were a little softer than normal until yesterday (the day he paid attention to them!) started to worry a little about capsular contractions but the nurse said it’s cos I’d done too much and been driving for the first time. I think you might be right Suzyp, I think he may be scared of hurting me. He also said before the op that he won’t get the pleasure of them for the first month as they will still be healing. May be I’m just worried over nothing. It’s a big change for the both of us i suppose. How many weeks are you? xx

Yeah ur going through so much at the moment 2 houses,job and ur op. Be carefull vic look after urself. Everything will be ok. xx Do u mind if l request u huni as a friend? x

I know exactly how you feel, i was worried he’d never want to look at them or touch them again! He admitted that he really was worried about hurting me and that it took him a while to get used to them. I think now he’s seen me move around and touch them a lot more he’s started touching them and actually liking them. I’m four and a half weeks and it’s only been the last week he’s come around so i wouldn’t worry, men have very strange minds when it comes to this sort of thing. My friend’s boyfriend wouldn’t have sex with her all throughout her pregnancy as was scared of hurting the baby! Don’t worry too much, as they naturally start to settle and you get more comfortable with them, he will too xx

Thanks Vickysweetcheekc, just accepted you. I know-don’t do things by half!! xx

Thanks Suzy, makes me feel better to know other people have gone through this. He did mention yesterday that he was scared incase he hurt me. It’s worse today and yesterday as they are more sore than normal. But I felt guilty and helped with the painting yesterday and did some driving too….so think the muscle is a little sore-so putting my feet up today

Just want them settled and softer so they feel more normal You mind if I add you? xx

Of course not, i’ll accept it now. Yeah i definately think you should take it easy a bit more. I got a bit big for my boots in the first week as hardly had any pain at all and i went out a week after and kept doing too much because i felt fine but then i really paid for it week two! Even now they don’t hurt at all but i’ve been doing a lot actively again this weekend and i’m a bit sore today. Painting up and down can’t be doing you much good! Try to rest and they’ll be healed up and feeling much better in no time, once you’re comfortable with them i’m sure he’ll start liking them. I think one of my big mistakes as well was to keep on trying to show them to him and talking about them constantly, if you stop doing that and he’ll start to notice you getting undressed etc and he’ll be more curious to touch and look at them! xx

Men and they’re silly little minds! Oh and i’m actually shocked at how soft mine feel now, it’s only been this last week but they are really starting to feel like normal boobs now, i didn’t even think they would get that soft ever so be patient and it will happen, only a couple more weeks xx

Lol I have been going on a nd on about them and keep asking him to take pics and keep saying you wanna look? lol May be I’ll be a little less in his face. I know I’ve done too much. Today is all about taking it easy and looking at my presentaion for work

Cos it’s all a bit new thought I’d be ok to do things as I got the all clear from the nurse….suppose I want the healing to hurry up. xx

Just had a look at your pics Suzy, you must be really pleased hun-they look great!! Can’t wait for mine to drop a little. Plus your scars are tiny! xx

Thanks hun, they have dropped so much since week one. Actually i think i was quite lucky as they seemed to drop really quick in the first week. I’ve just uploaded some week four pics and you can see how much softer they are now.

Yeah i definately think the best way to go is just not speak about them as much or make as big a deal of them because then he’ll start noticing them much more and will want a feel, that’s what i did and it seemed to work! xx

Thanks hun, I’ll have another look now. I’ll also try that out tonight and see what happens xx

Yeah do and let me know how you get on! xx

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