Anyone had BA with toddlers

Hi, I really need advice from anyone who has had a ba and has toddlers. I’ve got my consultation with dr chatarasak on sat 17 April with my ba hopefully on 11 may. Thing is I’m tearing myself inside out. I’ve always wanted it done but wanted to wait til I had my children first, I’ve now got twin girls who will be 18 months wen I have my ba. I love them so so much, I had to have fertility treatment to have them and one of them is a real mummys girl n I’m always picking her up, anyway my question is am I being selfish wanting my boobs done now while they’re still babies n rely on me so much to pick them up. They’re both in junior beds now and walking so v independant that way, I’m just worried cause I’m not sure how long after the ba I won’t b able to pick them up for and really really don’t want to lose my bond with my little un who’s mummys girl, will she go off me if I can’t pick her up for however long I can’t. I so want my boobs done while I’m still young enough to be going out to pubs still and wear nice clothes and I’m so fed up of always having to shop aroundcto buy the best bra to make me look bigger and bikinis that make me look bigger too. I wanna go out n go on holiday with confidence but I’m so worried about the initial period of not picking them up, please help love jane x x

Hey Hun,
I have 3 littluns, a 3 yr old a 2 yr old and a 10 month old and know exactly where you are coming from but don’t worry yourself. I had my ba last wed (7th) and was so worried i wouldn’t be able to do anything for my kids and i wouldn’t be able to cuddle them but I can. Don’t get me wrong you’ll have to be careful I haven’t lifted the older 2 but i’m fine with my baby and I haven’t bathed or rolled around on the floor with them but sitting cuddling and reading a book or colouring/painting etc is all fine. I’m sure the kids understand that theirs something wrong with mummy but shes ok and so much happier now, you know kids, if mummys happy their happy. like you said you want to have them done now so you can enjoy them so i’d say go for it like i did it’s one of the best things i’ve ever done and i’m so much happier now. Your girls won’t mind you not being able to pick them up for a bit they’ll come and cuddle up next to you on the sofa, you defentlely won’t loose your bond with them. I hope this helps hun, Becky x x x x
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Hi Jane

I was worried about the exact same thing as you, I had my op 17 days ago and have made a great recovery! I was lucky though I had my sister look after my 14month old daughter who is very set in her ways she can be extremly difficult at times and I do feel a little selfish for sending her away for 4days but it was very important that I heeled well and got better quicker for her sake more. I did absolutly nothing for 4days it was wired but lovely at the same time not having to do anything helped me heel really quickly, I was hardly in any pain it was just discomfort really. My sister who had my daughter looks after her when I’m at work so it wasn’t really upsetting her routine except staying the night away from home, but she was really well behaved. I did start to pick her up after day 7 and the next day I ached really bad so do take it easy. I then only lifted her out her cot, carseat, highchair etc things she really needed me for. I have noticed that I get alot more attention from her, she comes over to me to give me kisses and cuddles which is the best feeling in the world! She can sence mums not been very well and has been extra good for me xxx you should be fine. I started driving 15days post op and now at 17days post op there’s nothing I can’t do for her and myself. Good luck and let us know how your getting on.

All the best Gemini xxx

Thank you so so much girls you have really helped me, I can’t thank u enough for yr kind comments x x

hello janeella, i can’t offer any advice about toddlers but i’d just like to wish you so much luck and you sound like a brilliant mum xxx

everyone is so different mine is 18months old and he has had to stay down his dads i been unable to do anything atall…

everybody is different but it will only be a week or 2 do it, im so glad i did just missing my little un… nx

thanks girls, mu hubby is taking 2 weeks off so he will do everything (he isnt looking forward to this lol) and ill just sit on the settee giving them lots of cuddles, hopefully theyll come running to me for cuddles if they fall over etc rather than expecting me to bend down n pick them up, they r pretty demanding lol cause ive spoilt them so much cause i went through so much to get them but hopefully ill be fine to pick them up wen he goes back to work after 2 weeks xxxx

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