Anyone had ba with young children…. Really worried!!!

Hey everyone… I’m all booked in for next thurs for my long awaited ba, but panic is setting in! I have a 4yr old and 15month old and I am wondering if anyone can tell me how recovery with young kids was for you?! My 4yr old is not a problem and can look after himself, but my 15 month old daughter although very cute…,she is also very demanding and I’m worried that it’ll break my heart not being able to pick her up and cuddle her as I normally would!! She’s a mummy’s girl aswell!! My husband is 100% behind me having my ba and assures me he/she’ll be fine, but roughly how long before we can have proper cuddles and I can pick her up…. It’s really stressing me out girls!!! ;0) xxx

Hiya, i had my ba 4 years ago when my daughter had just turned one and i was really worried how i wud manage, my mum took a week off work and i stayed at hers for that week. And for two days i cudnt have her near my chest cos its pretty painful, but then the worst passes and u find ways round it, she got on my knee by herself for cuddles and luckily she was walkin early so i walked her as much as i cud. This time im havin re op and have got an 18 month old very demanding little boy as well. My daughter now 5, will be fine, but i still have concerns how ile do with my son cos he weighs 34 pounds so lifting a total no go. My mums takin a week off again which will be a massive help. All id say is you will manage and it will be easier than u expect, children are very perceptive. Just make sure your hubby will be there in the nite and all day just in case xx

Thanks hun, that has helped reassure me!! Out of everything this is the only thing that is worrying me!! I think I’m just panicking cos it’s getting closer and it’s really real now!! I couldn’t bear to push my kiddies away, they just wouldn’t understand and it worries me to think I’d have too!! My hubby is fab and tells me not to worry and it’ll be fine and said the same about kids adjusting! He’s going to be around all the time so there is mi worries with that… It’s just my mind working overtime! I had my pre op on sat and the nurse was brilliant telling me ways to get down to my little one etc…

Thanks again hun, good luck with the re op… Xxx

Hi hun im 2 weeks post opp and have a 19th month old daughter, i can a sure you that you will be fine as long as your husband is there to help you with your children, i started picking up my daughter about 6 days ago but not all the time, just if i need to put her in her high chair , and give her cuddles while you are sitting on the sofa that kind of thing, just make sure you take it easy and dont over do it hun, and you will be fine, you defo will find ways to give them cuddles, promise good luck with your opp to hun xxx

Thanks Hun, I feel less panicked now!! I’m sure from what you’ve said I’ll be fine!! I’ll find ways to av cuddles that’s for sure!! Lol! Xx

You will do, my two are both mummys children to and i cant imagine not havin my daily dose of cuddles! Where theres a will there a way xx

You will do, my two are both mummys children to and i cant imagine not havin my daily dose of cuddles! Where theres a will there a way xx

Hi hun, I posted the same thing before my BA. I had mine on the 4th Jan the day after my little boy turned 18 mths, the worst part was staying in hospital overnight without him and then finally seeing him the next day and him running towards me for a hug and I couldn’t pick him up as usual, that was very hard! but like the girls above have said where there’s a will, there’s a way! in the morning he used to run in and pull the covers up over me where they had fallen down in the night and I couldn’t reach to get them, they are amazingly perceptive! x

Aww well thank you girls.. I do feel so much better now!! I was having a proper wobble earlier but feel excited again now!! 9more sleeps to go!!!! xx

hi hun I have a 4 year old and 20 month both mummys girls and I figured there going to just have to be daddys girls for few weeks till mummy is back to normal they are young and well will get over it xxxx

Hi Hun, I am 7 days post op and this time last week i was terrified about how i was going to cope with my 17 month old boy post op. He’s a really mummy’s boy and demands lots of cuddles. As the other ladies say it is do-able. Us mums somehow cope with these things! I had help for the first 6 days and then yesterday my OH went back to work. I still didn’t lift my boy up, you just find ways around it, you’ll be absolutely fine. Had my dressings off today and nurses said it would be ok to lift him occasionally if i was careful. Just picked him up for first time gave him massive cuddle and he wanted to get down to watch postman pat – typical! Anyway i think for first few weeks you have to be careful and listen to your body, if you overdo it you’ll know and then you know to take it easy. I’m just going to limit picking him up to putting him in his high chair/cot for the next week or so still. Kids are so intuitive and adaptable you will be fine I promise. Its only a couple of weeks out of millions of weeks but it doesn’t help us feel any less guilty does it! I’m just going to make sure i take him to loads of soft play centres and toddler groups when i’m feeling better to make up for this fortnight.

PM me if you have any questions or need a moan at all PO. GOOD LUCK. XXXXX

this is what worried me as i have 4 children ages 6, 4, 3 and 4 months, the 3 eldest are at there dads for a week and my partner will look after me and my daughter but then after that week im on my own but nurse said just take it as easy as possible.

Thankyou guys…. I feel so much better knowing that everyone had the worries I have but managed to cope!! Phew… I can get back to being excited now!! Really appreciate your reassurances girls…. Really helps xxx

Hi Guys – I asked some of you to be friends. I’ve got a 2 and 4 year old – so any support/advice greatly appreciated. Thanks x

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