BA next week, so scared, two small children, honest advice please…

Hi everyone

I have my BA next week, I’m having 410 overs with Mr Traynor. I have two small children of almost 1 and 2 1/2. OH is having a week off, and then my Mum will be a great help too, but I’m starting to get really worried about how I will manage in the 6 weeks after surgery. At first I thought I’ll have a lot of help, which I will, but it’s the little things like putting the children in their carseats, lifting them in/out of cots etc….when I say I’m worrying, it’s really panicking me now & it’s all I’m thinking about I’ve been ‘practising’ lifting by getting right down to their level etc which is what the nurse said to do when I had my pre-op, but I can’t be the only person to have BA with two little children so I was looking for some honest advice/stories about how you managed because I can’t take another week worrying like this, I’m a wreck!

Thanks xxxxxxxxxx

Hiya, I had mine a week ago and I have 3 children who are 11, 4 and 2. My husband was off work until yesterday. I definately needed his help in the first few days but now everything is back to normal, I’m ok with the car seats because I get them to climb in then I put the straps on. I’ve picked up the 2 year old occassionally but I feel fine. Listen to your body, if it hurts don’t do it, you have to master the art of diving out of the way when they come charging at you. I’m back at work tomorrow and do a minimum 48 hour weeks so compared to that looking after the kids with the new additions seems easy. Everyone is different, I hope you will be fine though x

hey Samemka… you’re having overs, and i hear there is a difference in recovery as apposed to unders?? (please correct me if wrong people)… but, i think the same rules still apply. I have two young children. One of which needs alot of care an attention.

We all heal and manage our recoveries very differently so i could give my opinion on how you would cope or how other have/would that have two young children… but, for you need a week of total rest hun!! my nurse said even opening a heavy door in the first week should be a no! But, some of us just have to crack on that little bit more…

The more you rest the quicker you will heal. To be honest, i’ve found this week kinda frustrating and i am day 11! Hubster took a week off work so i got to act like the queen for a whole week and that is certainly what i needed! hubster went back to work yday and the kids back to school. im doing light duties around the home then resting for an hour. just building up slowly. i cried last night. house was a mess and had achey boob from overdoing… and couldnt cook dinner. im generally a very active person… a long distance runner, so i find it hard to do very little. walking to school and back (15 min) wacks me. lol. im keeping my arms close to me and using my forearms to do as much as i can. The key is not to over work your arms… it is hard, but after the first two weeks, things should ease up a tad. don’t worry babes, it will be a great thing in the end.xx

Thanks for replying Lisa. I’ll be ok getting my oldest in her carseat cos she can get in/out herself (unless she wants to throw a strop) it’s just my youngest as I have to put her in out, but I’m going to practice bending right down so I’m guessing it wouldn’t ‘pull’ so much where the scars will be – the nurse said something about ‘you don’t want your stitches popping open’ and that really freaked me out!!!!

Thanks Charlotte. I’ve got a week where OH is off and then my Mum doesn’t work for the rest of the time but obviously there’s stuff I’ll need to do on my own, like taking my eldest to pre-school on day 8, just little things like that worrying me (my Mum actually finishes work on that day so I’ve got to do it, either that or not take her, but it might be harder having her home anyway!!) xxxx

i drove day 8. did a short journey. wasn’t too bad but felt i needed a rest from it. not driven since to be honest… but not been a need to. i have to walk up and down a fare few steps to school and back so i stick on two sports bras, just so im really strapped tight just get ya mam to put everything in reach. my treat box is on top shelf sob sob… lol

Mine haven’t pulled they look really tight together. Personally I think a 15 min walk on day 8 would be a breeze, I think I managed about 4 miles on day 4 but again everyone is different. I do think it would be easier for you to endure the 15 min walk then get some rest whilst they’re at nursery though. You will prob know how well you feel by about day 6, I felt rubbish on day 1 and 2 but its got better everyday since to the point where it feels normal now. X

Thanks everyone, this has made me feel more positive

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