Boyfriend REALLY trying to put me off getting BA

When i first told him i was serious about wanting breast implants we had a big argument about it and he said that if i got them he would never marry me in the future! I have managed to persuade him a bit more recently and got him to the stage of saying ‘if it will make you happy then i will be happy’, but then whenever i bring it up he tries to persuade me out of it again.

He had tried the tactic of telling me he loves me the way i am etc which is fair enough if he doesn’t want me to change he has the right to say, but i think if he really loves me he will love me with or without them. He has now sent me numerous horror stories about implants going wrong, and linked me to websites with 48 reasons not to get a boob job etc.

It is so frustrating because i had just got the point of being 100% decided that i was getting them done and thought i had his support, and now he hits me with this! I need some cheering up and some positive implant stories!! xx

I think the problem with males is they get very paranoid and insecure when it comes to their girlfriend, wife or whatever getting their boobs done.

They seem to think that you will get more attention from other males, which is not something they want, or you will find someone else and leave them.

They will do everything in their power to stop you having it done, BUT DONT STOP!

You are doing this, for you!

Go ahead with it, dont be down, think of the end result and how amazing they will look and you will feel! He will be thanking you in the long run.

Dont let him put a downer on this for you, if he knows how much this means to you then he should not be trying to make it a bad time for you!

GO FOR IT!!!

Thank you! Yeah he has actually said things about me going off with other guys or whatever, and i just thought he was being silly because we have been together ages, but i guess guys have their insecurities!

I’m sure at the end of the day he will support me and come to my op and look after me when i’m in pain! But i feel like he is going to do his best to try and put me off before it is too late to change my mind. It is annoying but i suppose if he wanted to change something about himself i would tell him he is perfect the way he is because thats how i feel! At least i have this forum that i can come to and see all the awesome boobies and postivie stories haha

He obviously cares alot for you and he seems worried things may go wrong etc but if he really loved you which im sure he does then he will stick by you hun, remember all us girls do it for ourselves an nobody else, i know you care about his opinion which is totally natural but he will come round once he see’s them i PROMISE! my boyfriend was sceptical at first saying “what if u die?” “other men are gonna stare at u!” bla bla lol basically worrying about himself, but after telling him exactly why i wanted it and how long i have felt inscure and so unhappy with my breasts which he already knew as even after 4 years i very rarely got them out for him lol he came round eventually, came to my consultations etc an realised i was in safe hands and he ended up being more excited then i was that he actually paid for half of my ba!!! and he bloody loves them now haha just let him know your reasons an he will be there for you honey xx

haha same flicky1 my fiance was saying hes happy with the way i am etc even tho i havent really shown him and bin with him 4 years, then after he knew how much it meant to me he was more jolly than me about geting his new boobs lol, he ll love them babe tell him there for him n your relationship to xx

my bf said the same, that he’d leave me, convinced i was going under the knife just to get attention from guys?! wtf!! i did it anyway and now hes obsessed with them & loves them, men are dumb. x

My husband is 100% behind me we’ve been together since we were 15 so has known for a very long time how much I want my boobs done. He’s not crazy about the size I’ve been offered 380 or 410 but knows its what I want. But he does admit he’s very paranoid and scared I will leave him once I’ve had them done as I’ll realise I can do better than him, he’s crazy I love him more than anything and we have two amazing kids together. But it’s amazing how insecure our men can get bless them xx

Thanks guys it’s good to know other people are going through the same. He knows i am insecure about my boobs but he thinks i just have self-esteem problems and i need to look at myself in a different light etc, but i have been trying that for the last 4 years and still want a boob job so i think that says something! I am happy with the rest of my body so i don’t think i have a general ‘self-esteem’ issue lol.

I wish my boyfriend had the money to pay for half of mine haha. I think when i have got my op booked and he really knows i’m serious he will support me! xx

his reasoning for paying for half was he can touch them whenever he wants as he paid for them haha loser! men are very insecure even if they try and act like there tough as nails, they definately are not! bless em lol x

So glad I’m single haha! IF i had a boyfriend and he was saying all this to me..I’d be like..WOAH when did you grow a vagina?!

I’m not very sympathetic to feelings at all…oops

My boyfriend was exactly the same with me. Sending me every article in the world about complications and boob jobs gone bad… Even wanted to pay for my “lost” deposit if I’d only cancel my booking! This lasted only for a week though. I think he just realised that I really want this and that there is nothing he can do to change my mind. Now he is really supportive and will be with me even during the hospital stay:)

I think he will force med to go for an MRI every 3 years after this, just in case of silent rupture..I guess it won’t hurt other then financially:)

Right, well listen to this!

My boyfriend, thank god, is 100% supportive of me having surgery – which is rhinoplasty!

I believe that he is happy for me is because this is improving a very upsetting facial feature that I am severely self conscious and unhappy about.

I told him I was my boobs done, oh hell no!

He tells me that I will look stupid and that implants are disgusting and all this, all that.

I told him, I want them to balance out my body and make me feel comfortable with myself.

He’s not having this at all!

I think the point is that with breast implants, by us girls having them it seems to mentally shrink our boyfriends penis’ and makes them completely paranoid and crazy probably due to their own personal insecurities, probably think that it will send other guys crazy.

When it’s THEM who are getting the best out of them, my boyfriend can’t see this!!

So, as long as he’s LETTING you go ahead with surgery, I’m sure he will be the happiest man alive when the boobies arrive

Think you just have to show him the soppy ‘how important he is to you’ kinda thing and explain the benefits for him when you get boobies !!

xx

My boyfriend was 100% behind me and came to all my meetings and consultations and took me to hospital. He knew that I would love them and would feel so much more confident in myself which I couldnt see before but now I really can. I love mine so much, they have really made me feel better about myself which I wouldnt have realised before/didnt realise how my old boobs made me feel. Worth every penny

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