Completely off topic but if i don't tell someone im going to explode!

Hey girls sorry about this but i’m in need of help!

Ive been with my bf for 6 months now its going really really well! But before he got with me he slept with a girl i know and she is the biggest s**g going!! My bf was with his ex at the time and I knew he had slept with her before i got with him but it didn’t bother then….But now after 6 months i just fel so jealous about him sleeping with her!! i look at her on her facebook and i just feel so sad and jealous! then i take it out on him and fall out with him…and i don’t understand why i keep acting liek this! shes alot slimmer than me and better lookign i dunno i just feel so useless and that one day he will end up sleeping with her while he is with me.

Has anyone else felt like this? and if so how do i stop feeling like this?

Thanks xx

I felt like this a long time ago too when I loved someone. I had to keep telling myself who she was going home with at the end of the night.

Be careful you dont push him away. Tell him how you feel and block the bitch on fb so you do not see her or what she’s up to. Facebok has a lot to answer for. I never mix relationships and fb. Never.

Remember we all got ex’s including you. Its life im afraid. I’m sure he loves you loads.

Good luck and hope it works itself out.

Danni

xx

Hey hun hes with you for a reason , probably because he loves you and thinks your gorgeous! i have felt really jealous like this before but the only thing to do is push it out of your head and think of all the reasons he is with you and not her and i bet there are loads. i know it can be upsetting and its hard but if she is a bit of a good time girl he probs would never want to be with her anyway and is one of those naughty things that we have all done in our past and regretted it! try not to look at her facebook hun as i found torturing yourself just makes it worse! xx

bexy

who says this girl is better looking??? you? stop putting your self down, he must like you to be with you, so you have something she hasn’t, and as above all you will end up doing is pushing him away and you don’t want that do you,

he loves you not her is all you have to keep thinking… take care xx

Not surprising that you’re feeling like this at all- you’re relationships becoming long term and serious, so you naturally want to protect it. The fact that he slept with her whilst still in a relationship is gonna cause some doubt, however much you trust him. I would prob start thinking to myself silly questions like, what was it about her that made him cheat on his ex. But at the end of the day maybe he was really unhappy in that relationship and he hadn’t found what he was looking for. He wouldn’t be with you if you didn’t have anything about you to like or love. I’ve destroyed some of my relationships by these kind of worries and self esteem issues when I should’ve been using what they loved about me to my advantage and really made the relationship work.

You look stunning in your pics Hun, you’re very lucky- remember it’s you he’s with, sod this other girl. Flipping facebook!!x

Hey hun dont worry about it like everyone else says hes with you for a reason!!! I know this might sound silly but i went through all this before having my ba and about a month after it!! Its like you go on a bit of a downer and start thinking everyone and everything is better than you, dont worry it wont last soon you will be feeling so confident about yourself you wont give a damn about anyone else!!. I acted like this and for no reason what so ever im now married and expecting a baby so dont worry hun it will all work out great in the end as long as you dont carry on and drive him away. xxx

Bexy in a relationship u need trust babes. If u dont have that u have nothing. U need to put it out of your head and move on from it. That was the past and everyday is your future. All ex’s are a pain in the arse but forget her. She means nothing. Life is to short to be spent worrying about what ifs. Live for the day sweet. Besides u dont want to drive him away do u? Because thats what will happen hunni if u keep being nasty to him about it. We all have pasts hun. Move on x x

I have learnt this is the case too. My current bf had a casual thing aaages ago with one of my friends, i even encouraged it at the time! And then when i first started seeing him i held it against him, caused arguements even though he never mentioned her and she is one of my best friends!

If hes not talking about her, doesnt bring her up etcetc, u have no reason to worry babes. I know its a horrible situation but ur the one whos seeing him, not her. Plus maybe hes had a chance to make it more before he was with u, and he clearly hasnt.

He chose u after he had been with her.

plus ur gorgeous dont stress

At the end of the day if he did cheat on u then its over im guessing. But unless u trust him until he does something wrong, u might be ruining things for no reason

good luck

XXX

Sorry for the late reply! I feel so much better now Thank you all so much! xxx

Am a bit late on this but we all have insecure moments. I used to be terrible as I know my boyfriend had his fair share of one nighters before me lol but you’ve just got to think how irrelevant those girls are and how he probably doesn’t even give them a second thought until you mention it. Def agree with Danni, block the girl and then if you’re tempted to have a quick look, you’d have to go through the effort of unblocking her and won’t be able to be bothered!

Facebook is the devils work haha, doesn’t stop me being on it though! xx

Bexy!!!

1- I highly doubt she is prettier than u U are absolutely stunning!!

2- she clearly had no morals and is a sl*g

3- she has real boobs and will sag to her socks like leg warmers soon

4- he’s with u because he loves u!!!

I never have mixed fb with my bf I haven’t got fb anymore, but I know what u mean! If I did have fb id prob be looking at my bfs exs and that comparing myself to them!

He’s with u now hun and until he does something- don’t push him away

Xx

I’m the worst chronically insecure girl on here. I have driven men crazy with it. Partly because every man I’ve dated has cheated on me or hurt me in some way. That makes my self esteem worse and then makes me react and go down rabbit holes at the slightest thing – I know that men prefer confident strong girl and see it as more attractive. They also like to feel trusted.( Difficult when they haven’t acted in a trustworthy way). We have to just be sure in ourselves that we are beautiful and that will shine in us snd then if they do stray we have to be strong enough to walk away. That way we have the self respect and we will not be abused continually. The stronger you act the better they treat you. I’m really fragile and men see me as the broken wing type which is endearing at first but later they disrespect me cos they think they can. You are pretty and he is lucky to have you. If he doesn’t make you feel special then walk away. I’m sure he probably adores you so be sure of yourself xxxx x

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