devastated :(

looks like I’m going to be flat chested this christmas after all.

Before I turned 18 I was seeing a community mental health nurse because I was severely bullied at school and had panic attacks because of it and I was on anti depressants.

My GP sent MYA my medical history and is pretty much saying I’m not fit for treatment how ever the doctors and nurses I saw when I was being bullied are fine with me having treatment as they know how much it means to me. My surgeon is saying the information the mental health team have sent is not enough so they’re now sending my full medical mental health history which I know for a fact MYA won’t operate on me because of it because I was an inpatient in hospital for a few weeks about 16 months ago .. I’m absolutely heart broken I was meant to be having my surgery in 6 days and I’ve bought everything I’d need for my op ‘( xxx

Aww that’s awful chick I feel for u! Surely mya should have checked all that before now! That’s ridiculous! I hope it all works out for u <3xxxx

Oh hun im not suprised that your devestated! you poor thing xxx

The thing is I have problems with depression because of how I look and I know for a fact surgery will help with how I perceive myself so therefore I’ll have confidence and be less socially awkward! I haven’t seen anyone from mental health since January either, I’m just hoping and praying that my surgeon understands this and goes a-head with surgery. Thanks girls I’m so upset I also feel like a d!ck getting myself all excited about it and telling people xxx

Could you not make an appointment with your GP this week to go over this? Im not sure whether you’re still suffering with mental health issues and I don’t know you’re background. But if everything is under control I wouldn’t have thought this should stop you having surgery! Panic attacks/anxiety/depression are all very common illnesses in this day and age.

Good Luck xx

Just read your recent post. Having cosmetic surgery really won’t stop you feeling depressed you know. You may think it will make you feel better about yourself but if you’re that way inclined you’ll only start worrying about something else once you’ve had your BA. But please make an appointment with your gp and see what they say x

It’s my GP that’s saying no to it, mental health are being fine. I know surgery won’t stop me feeling bad about myself, but it’ll give me confidence which is a big thing for me because I have none xx

That’s absolutely ridiculous oh just as you was getting excited aswell as were talking about it being boobie buddies and all! Is there no way your GP can just say it’s ok, I dot see how it’s up to them anyways tbf xx

If its any consolation, I had my pre op today and the nurse now want a letter from a consultant I had a biopsy of my BOWEL with to diagnose my coeliacs disease with and she is also ‘concerned’ that I had to be on ECG during my labour and is now investigating the two, so I have that to worry about along with the blood results and the MRSA screening x

That’s what Im saying… If your GP is saying no then maybe make an appointment to see him/her and ask them to explain their reasons why? It might be that they think physiologically you’re not ready for this… But if you speak to them face to face and discuss how you’re feeling etc, they may change their mind. It’s worth a try hun x

My GP’s not saying no MYA’s saying no because of what my GP’s said because she doesn’t have a clue when it comes to mental health, I thought my GP was just for physical health mental health have said they’ll do what ever it takes to get me my boobs they’ve been great! It’s all down to Mr Russo to decide now, but from the way MYA were sounding I don’t think it will go ahead I’m making consultations with NU cosmetics, transform and harley medical group just in case. I feel so stressed!!!!!!!

I’m not even mentally ill anyway I just let a group of jealous girls get to me at school because I had hair extensions! xxx

It’s very wrong of MYA to be doing this so close to your op! Hope you get sorted x

I can’t fault MYA they’re just doing they’re job and very patient and understanding! Thank you girls I’ve just got to hope things are okay now xx

Good luck hun, really hope it goes your way xx

Thank you! Knew my past would haunt me one day, just need to think positive it came as a bit of a shock xx

I’m so angry, just received an answer machine message from MYA nurse saying she has my admission time and to call her, so I rang Birmingham MYA to see what was going on and all they had to say, ‘it’s standard don’t call them you’ll have to wait until tomorrow so the manager can tell you if Mr Russo is willing to go a head with your op’ xx

Mya have gotta be cautious cos at the end of the day it’ll be them that are liable for any issues. Operating on someone that on paper is psychologically not fit to make such a life changing decision is understandably not something they wanna be doing- they’ve got a duty of care to the patient. Psychological issues are just as much a concern as physical health issues in these procedures. I feel for you though Hun, it’s prob gonna mess your head up even more being rejected at such a late stage- that would be my problem. I’ve got a long term progressive illness and I was so nervous theyd not let me go through with it but they did, so there’s hope for you yet. The decisions not yet made so you’ve gotta chance yet. Fingers crossed for you babe, sounds like you need some good luck.xx

hun i had exactly the same promblem as im on anti depressants and was suppused to go in on tuesday as your patient coordinator to ask other doctors and see if there okay with it .. its not a legal thing if ur doctor says no its by the surgeons choice what surgeon do u have ??

I worded it badly earlier, my GP didn’t say no just from my medical notes it was a no-go because they didn’t have the psychiatric input, and mental health team have said from my notes MYA should go a head with it, but because I was in hospital just over a year ago that’s what I’m worried about

I’m just anxious because it’s so close to my op date and I’ve booked time off work and made arrangements for a family photo shoot for my mums christmas present for when I’m post op.

Sunik I’m meant to be having Mr Russo who are you having? xx

i had mr chartarask but he said no due to my doctor then i asked my pc if any doctor would agree and she said yes mr singh has so ive rebooked change your doctor to mr singh he will do the work its silly how some one else can make a descion for you .. xx

I’ll ring and ask for a consiltation with Mr Singh then thank you xxxx

your welcome tell me how it goes xx

Thank you, hope it’s okay with Mr Russo and my op goes a head on tuesday as planned xx

I really hope this doesn’t come across as mean – but hunny I totally feel for you I promise

There is nothing worse than depression I’ve been there myself

But what you went through seems so much worse.

I however, completely understand why MYA has refused

I can’t tell you off hand, but try and google it –

The reason they won’t allow it is because – and I’m sorry girls but this is true-

Having cosmetic surgery INCREASES your chances of becoming depressed.

They don’t want to cause any more psychological harm.

I wish you all the best for the future – contact your gp and maybe another cosmetic

Surgery see what they say? Lots of love xxx

I totally understand, I was discharged by doctors in January because they felt that I didn’t need any help and I was much better, then in June my relationship broke down and I went to my GP to ask for anti depressants just to take edge off it, I took one and it made me feel ill and didn’t even continue taking them.

I’ve spoken to two of the clinic managers from MYA, one seemed really positive and said my treatment will probably go a head but maybe delayed for a week or two if they don’t have all the paper work, the other seemed fairly negative (I’ve spoken to her more than the positive one) so it’s made me feel uneasy.

I’m just going to hope for the best I’d rather get my boobs a bit later than planned than not at all, because I was going to go abroad when I was 16 to have them done but I didn’t feel ready with in myself to have it done.

Thank you everyone I’ll keep you updated xxx

Good luck babe it’s just such ashame you’ve come this far,

We’re all vouching for you xxxx

Thank you! it is a big thing because I’ve come so far, I wouldn’t be as upset if I were told after my 1st consultation and not booked surgery.

I’m going to do everything I can to get my surgery though xx

best of luck hun hope it works out for you xxx

thank you, just a waiting game now I guess until mr russo decides xx

Stay positive amyjessica,I know at the moment you will be walking on eggshells waiting for a decision,and this hurdle would have been the last thing you expected,its not only a big decision for you to hope to make the changes that will affect your life,and hopefully improve the way you feel about yourself emotionally,its also a big decision for the people who are looking after your health and safety,They have to be sure that making these changes in their opinion as medical professionals this will benefit you as an individual,having any surgical procedure can be an emotional roller coaster,you can see that from the posts on the forum,nothing quite prepares you for the mixture of feelings you will experience at that time,I can empathise with you,you feel that the confidence you will gain from going ahead with surgery will make such a huge difference to your life,and I can tell you this it did to mine,but my circumstances were a little different to yours,bear with the powers that be honey,they to have to answer to people too,because it affects your health and well being,they to have to adhere to guidelines,put in place for your protection.if you need to chat lovely Im only a message away,big hugs,xxx

Thank you Tina I’m not complaining about MYA in anyway theyre just doing their job and have been brilliant. It’s just my past has come back to haunt me when I least expected it to xxx

Chin Up Hun xxxxx

I know your not complaining lovely, stay positive,I know its easy for me to say,because Im not in your position,but dreams can come true,xxx

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